Is there any WS on here right now that I may ask a few questions?

I am a FWW. Ask away.

Jenny

WH left Sunday said he need time away from both of us to think about what all he has done to both of us. he has been calling everyday to his brothers and telling him that he was ok,he says he is by himself and that we shouldn't worry and that he will be back tomorrow.Now my question is,is she with him and he is just lieing again? or could he really be by himself for 5 days counting tomorrow?? i fear he is with her.

Well, Littlelady, in my case I certainly wouldn't be with the OM. I agreed NC and I've kept to NC. I thought I needed some time ALONE, for similar reasons your H has said, a while ago but H and I worked through that.

I don't know your H of course but he could well need the time - a sort of "voluntary Plan B" to sort out his thoughts. Do his brothers think he is on his own?

I would wait till he comes home - and I'm sure he will - try to be patient with him. As the FWW I know that the love and understanding, and sometimes "Tough Love" that my H has shown me has done so much to restore my love for him - and I really thought I had fallen out of love with him.

Keep posting - the people here are wonderful - they can give you a tough time sometimes but it's usually only when you need it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Actually, they've given me a tough time because my head was full of rocks and fog. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Jenny

we all want to believe that he is by himself but I fear the worst.I love him and I know I always will. This just sucks if you know what I mean.If he is with her ,won't he somday see her for what she is? how can you have a relationship that started out with lies?

The short answer to "how can you have a relationship that started out with lies?" is "you can't."

Have you read about Plan B. Go onto the site and read about it.

I do feel for you. It all sucks. As my MC said "If people knew what pain for EVERYONE was involved with affairs, no one would have them."

I'm sorry I have to leave the net now. I'm in New Zealand (home of Lord of the Rings) and it's only 6.00pm here. H will be home from work soon and I don't like to be on the computer when he gets home. I like to greet him properly, with a drink, and cook dinner together.

I will check back tomorrow when I would love to talk more with you.

Jenny