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#1123070 03/31/04 11:05 AM
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I was looking for your last thread, but it seems to have evaporated.

How are you doing?

#1123071 03/31/04 05:12 PM
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Yeah, me too, Bumpity, Bump Bump.

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#1123072 03/31/04 05:47 PM
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SiSF, SS:

I asked that the moderators remove the thread.

I've talked 2 cerri once so far, and gave her phone number 2 my W in hopes that she would call her. We'll see. I bet they'd hit it off, but she has 2 make the call first.

She left for work for a 2ple of days. I have a 2ple of "assignments" I need 2 do. Got started on one, but not the other, yet.

This all feels so strange. The realization that the fog is so "real" or seems so when you see it in action. Or inaction, perhaps is a better description. I sure learned you can't reason with it, though.

More later, when I level off a bit.

-2long

#1123073 03/31/04 05:54 PM
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Understood.

Hope the time apart will help both of you in some way.

#1123074 03/31/04 08:57 PM
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2Long,

I'm glad to see you posting. I was really worried about you when I saw your threads Mod-deleted from both this board and SYMC's board as well.

I'm sure Cerri gave you good advice and good assignments.

Keep the faith and keep in touch. Even if you only pop in (both places, mind you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) to say "I'm still around."

Too many people here care about you and what is going on with you.

Wishing you the best.

#1123075 04/01/04 04:43 PM
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ONE of the things that worries me, is that you have been doing this so long.

Sure you are better at it now, but two years is a long time to be working on it by yourself. I know she feels she was, but until NC, it doesn't really happen. Much of the real work can't begin until NC, but you have been expending energy all this time waiting for that, and - and just how much do you have left?

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#1123076 04/01/04 04:52 PM
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Very little, I'm afraid.

I'm at a point where I need 2 ask for NC NOW, and if she's unwilling 2 really go there (she's offered, but she wants 2 talk 2 HIM in PERSON 2 tell him that)... ...well, I'm just tired.

My apologies 2 all the newbies out there that I doled out advice 2. Advice that I couldn't implement in my own sitch. I've spent so much time avoiding conflict all this time that I've perpe2ated this "friendship" inadvertently.

-2long

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2L,

I really hate to be a pest but......have you talked/emailed Coach Penny about this?

#1123078 04/01/04 09:18 PM
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You pest! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I just sent Penny an email describing my "condition."

I had just got off the phone with my W. Largely a 45minute teary convo, but it went pretty well. We've got so much crap 2 shed. She has agreed 2 NC "for now" and is thinking about calling Penny (Penny told me she'd like 2 speak with her herself). I am confident that Penny can help us help each other.

We've got a lot of work 2 do. I'm exhausted, and now I have 2 get ready 2 go 2 work. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

best,
-ol' 2long

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Hey 2L,

Rolling over an good rock these days? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I keep waiting for big news.

Hang in there man, you have done an admirable job in all of this, don't forget that.

JL

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Thanks JL:

It's hard not feeling like an MB failure lately. mainly because I was such an opponent of plan B, in my case in particular, when now it looks like I could have saved myself a lot of pain by going there a year or so ago.

But we made REAL progress 2day. I don't know where that will lead regarding our M, but we should come out better people at some point. Nowhere 2 go but up, right?

Rocks? Thankfully, we don't have many! Those other guys keep getting bogged down in minutiae. We're looking at one right now, then it may be a month before we see another one! Time 2 make some serious tracks! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-ol' 2long

#1123081 04/02/04 10:01 AM
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> It's hard not feeling like an MB failure lately. mainly because I was such an opponent of plan B, in my case in particular, when now it looks like I could have saved myself a lot of pain by going there a year or so ago.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">no "failure"...we're all learning right? so you just provided a great lesson for others here who are doing everything they can to avoid Plan B...

if you can prevent someone else's pain, or shorten it, or reduce it...then you are doing something amazing for another human being...

no failure in that... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

best of luck to you...you are certainly in good hands now...awed

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2long,

I personally get a lot from your posts.

As far as being a "failure" well we are all human after all. I wouldn't trust anyone who was too shiny and perfect. Give yourself a break about success vs. failure and focus on your journey.

#1123083 04/02/04 02:30 PM
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Okay folks, I will try. I coulda done things differently, maybe better, is all.

-2long


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