We all have those moments - when you want to wallow. When you want to listen to the words of your favorite depressing song....and simply wallow.

Please, no mushy love songs - I think that'd be too much. Maybe some 'done me wrong' songs. And NO "I will survive"!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I don't want to wallow as much anymore since the anti-D's are kicking in, but I still think about it.

So.....anyone have some ideas for possible submissions?

I'm in a very different situation at this point in my stbxM... but still... liking to wallow now and then or not... I don't think this is a healthy outlet at all. IMO, it's extremely UNhealthy to want to make an entire cd's worth of songs to make you wallow.

One of the main lessons we learn at MB is to work on ourselves. Focusing on the A does NOT get us anywhere. Yes, we must mourn what is lost, but we must also continue moving forward. Setting yourself up for failure by creating this cd, just seems odd to me.

But then again, being my own devil's advocate...perhaps just making the cd will be enough closure for you. Perhaps you could listen to it once, then smash it with a hammer? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Now THAT, IMO, is healthy! LOL. (no, I am NOT condoning violence... just the strong symbolism of ending something).

I do not have any songs to suggest. I tend to stay more upbeat with my music nowadays, although there are some songs that still make me want to cry (specifically "You'll be in my heart" by Phil Collins from the "Tarzan" soundtrack... I used to sing it with my son who is now deceased).

Karen

I honestly don't listen to music anymore these days.Almost evey single song has some reminder of what I am going through.If I wallow anymore I will just go down that dark road that I do not want to anymore.

Like Topie said I need to stay focused on my children and helping myself.A while back I did like the song by Blu Cantrell: Hit Em up Style.That seemed to fit.

O

"You Ain't Woman Enough to Take my Man"
--Loretta Lynn

"Don't Mess with My Man"
--Nivea w/Jagged Edge

"You Oughta Know"
--Alanis Morissette

I know there's more, just have to think of 'em...
Yes, my musical tastes are a little varied--lol.

I made my hubby and myself an awesome CD with a few songs from THIS thread...I also threw in a few of my own as well.

Patience by ...oh cant think of the name of the group...is a great song too...not listed on this thread either.

I still listen to this CD...I really helps me thru those rough times. Songs just seem to calm me down a lot...but that is JMHO

<small>[ April 07, 2004, 02:45 PM: Message edited by: momto3boys ]</small>

Thought of a few more--

"Don't Care Anymore"
--Phil Collins (maybe Genesis? it's an old one)

"Hemorrhage (In My Hands)"
--Fuel

"Here's a Quarter"
--Travis Tritt

"Not Gon' Cry"
--Mary J. Blige

"Kiss This"
--Aaron Tippin

"Survivor"
--Destiny's Child

"Gotta Get Thru This"
--Daniel Beddingfield

Some of them really apply, some are ones that I just found myself listening to more when I was in a PO'ed phase. These are the tame ones. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

There's some good ones on the thread momto3boys linked to also--couldn't believe "F*** it" was there tho! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> That's one of the first ones I thought of, but didn't know how folks here would take it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

Why?
Annie Lennox

Not sure of title but....
"If ever I lose my faith in you....."
Sting

cwmac

Thanks everyone for some great ideas.

And thanks, mom, for posting the link to that thread - I'll be including some of those.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">One of the main lessons we learn at MB is to work on ourselves. Focusing on the A does NOT get us anywhere. Yes, we must mourn what is lost, but we must also continue moving forward. Setting yourself up for failure by creating this cd, just seems odd to me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Topie - I figured I'd get someone blasting me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> As I stated in my post, I'm kind of past that wallowing-24/7-stage, but I am a HUGE music fan. Allowing myself to cry a little bit sometimes seems to help me through some rough patches. You know, when I'm on the treadmill, and have NOTHING better to do than think about my life.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Truly, this is not going to be a cd in great rotation in my house - but it will be a reminder of this stage of my life. Making cd's is kind of like journaling for me. I still journal (not as much as I should), but music is just a life connector for me.

If it makes you feel better, I also have cd's I have created for going out at night, roadtrips, and mellow times when I'm sittin' on the beach enjoying a cocktail. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Please keep adding to the list if you've got more ideas......

WHB- I had to reply- guess what I've been doing the past two days? Making 2 "wallowing" CDs. Yes, I cry along with them but right now they fit my mood. Hopefully they won't be a daily thing- I need to be making a "happy" CD now.

My top 10 list--hope you like country

1. Wish I didn't know now (what I didn't know
then) TOBY KEITH

2. Does he love you REBA MCENTIRE/LINDA DAVIS

3. I'd be lying CHRIS CAGLE This is my absolute favorite!!!!

4. How do I live without you TRICIA YEARWOOD

5.
Let me let go FAITH HILL

6. I can love you better DIXIE CHICKS

7. When you were mine DIXIE CHICKS

8, If I could turn back time CHER

9. Nobody knows it but me KEVIN SHARPE

10. How long gone? BROOKS AND DUNN --this one just makes me smile.


I have more, but you get the picture.

Kenny Chesney The Tinman and Being Drunks a lot Loving You.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by momto3boys:
<strong> Patience by ...oh cant think of the name of the group...is a great song too...not listed on this thread either.

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Guns N Roses!

some current ones that strike a chord...

"My Immortal" by Evanescence

"White Flag" by Dido

"This Love" by Maroon 5

A couple of suggestions:

"Untouchable Face" by Ani DeFranco:

F*** you, and your untouchable face, and
F*** you, for existing in the first place...

"How You Remind Me" by Nickelback:

It's not like you to say sorry
I was waiting on a different story
This time I'm mistaken
For handing you a heart worth breakin'

... And, who could forget:

"Your Time is Gonna Come" by Led Zeppelin:

Lyin', cheatin', hurtin', that's all you seem to do
Messin' around with every guy in town,
Puttin' me down for thinkin' of someone new.
Always the same, playin' your game,
Drive me insane, trouble is gonna come to you,
One of these days and it won't be long,
You'll look for me but baby, I'll be gone.

Oh, and Momto3, good call on the Guns N' Roses... if you want some mindless, angry, blistering screed that's mildly appropriate to the situation, check out a few of theirs:

Don't Damn Me
Shotgun Blues
Get in the Ring
You Could Be Mine ("...but you're way out of line...")

R.D.

H asked me to download this song for him and I did. Not even listening to the words of it before we were just now out oin the backyard with the kids when this song came on. He said "you know what this song is about, rihgt"

needless to say I started crying! he was very sad too after listing to it! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Suspicious minds by Elvis Presley

We’re caught in a trap
I can’t walk out
Because I love you too much baby

Why can’t you see
What you’re doing to me
When you don’t believe a word I say?

We can’t go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can’t build our dreams
On suspicious minds

So, if an old friend I know
Drops by to say hello
Would I still see suspicion in your eyes?

Here we go again
Asking where I’ve been
You can’t see these tears are real
I’m crying

We can’t go on together
With suspicious minds
And be can’t build our dreams
On suspicious minds

Oh let our love survive
Or dry the tears from your eyes
Let’s don’t let a good thing die

When honey, you know
I’ve never lied to you
Mmm yeah, yeah

Lyin' Eyes...by the Eagles


City girls just seem to find out early
How to open doors with just a smile
A rich old man and she won’t have to worry
She’ll dress up all in lace and go in style

Late at night a big old house gets lonely
I guess every form of refuge has its price
And it breaks her heart to think her love is only
Given to a man with hands as cold as ice

So she tells him she must go out for the evenin’
To comfort an old friend who’s feelin’ down
But he knows where she’s goin’ as she’s leavin’
She is headed for the cheatin’ side of town

You can’t hide your lyin’ eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you’d realize
There ain’t no way to hide your lyin’ eyes

On the other side of town a boy is waitin’
With fiery eyes and dreams no one could steal
She drives on through the night anticipatin’
‘Cause he makes her feel the way she used to feel

She rushes to his arms, they fall together
She whispers that it’s only for awhile
She swears that soon she’ll be comin’ back forever
She pulls away and leaves him with a smile

You can’t hide your lyin’ eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you’d realize
There ain’t no way to hide you lyin’ eyes

She gets up and pours herself a strong one
And stares out at the stars up in the sky
Another night, it’s gonna be a long one
She draws the shade and hangs her head to cry

She wonders how it ever got this crazy
She thinks about a boy she knew in school
Did she get tired or did she just get lazy
She’s so far gone she feels just like a fool

My, oh my, you sure know how to arrange things
You set it up so well, so carefully
Ain’t it funny how your new life didn’t change things
You’re still the same old girl you used to be

You can’t hide your lyin’ eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you’d realize
There ain’t no way to hide your lyin’ eyes
There ain’t no way to hide your lyin’ eyes
Honey, you can’t hide your lyin’ eyes

I "found" this one after TBXW dropped the bomb. Printed out the lyrics so I could learn them; TBXW (while we were still nominally trying to rebuild) told me she liked the song. I mentioned that it was exactly about us. See what you think:

"The Queen and the Soldier" by Suzanne Vega

The soldier came knocking upon the queen's door
He said, I am not fighting for you any more
The queen knew she'd seen his face someplace before
And slowly she let him inside.

He said, I've watched your palace up here on the hill
And I've wondered who's the woman for whom we all kill
But I am leaving tomorrow and you can do what you will
Only first I am asking you why.

Down the long narrow hall he was led
Into her rooms with her tapestries red
And she never once took the crown from her head
She asked him there to sit down.

He said, I see you now, and you are so very young
But I've seen more battles lost than I have battles won
And I've got this intuition, says it's all for your fun
And now will you tell me why?

The young queen, she fixed him with an arrogant eye
She said, You won't understand, and you may as well not try
But her face was a child's, and he thought she would cry
But she closed herself up like a fan.

And she said, I've swallowed a secret burning thread
It cuts me inside, and often I've bled
He laid his hand then on top of her head
And he bowed her down to the ground.

Tell me how hungry are you? How weak you must feel
As you are living here alone, and you are never revealed
But I won't march again on your battlefield
And he took her to the window to see.

And the sun, it was gold, though the sky, it was gray
And she wanted more than she ever could say
But she knew how it frightened her, and she turned away
And would not look at his face again.

And he said, I want to live as an honest man
To get all I deserve and to give all I can
And to love a young woman who I don't understand
Your highness, your ways are very strange.

But the crown, it had fallen, and she thought she would break
And she stood there, ashamed of the way her heart ached
She took him to the doorstep and she asked him to wait
She would only be a moment inside.

Out in the distance her order was heard
And the soldier was killed, still waiting for her word
And while the queen went on strangeling in the solitude she preferred
The battle continued on