NO

I am with you. It is a battle everyday. Anyone that says recovery is easy is lying I tell ya that. Things are good today, yesterday they were terrible. I think about throwing in the towel about every other hour. I have found it is just better to exsist through withdrawals, rather than be noticed. I can't wait for IC and MC to start. We really need to get talking about stuff. We have not talked about the A once since that day at the mall. He will not speak of the future at all. I know for sure if HW called he would be out the door in a flash. If it happens, I will gladly let him go this time. This will only happen once in our M, and this is it. I will never, I repeat never, ever go through this again. If I could do it all over again, I would have let him walk instead of going to OW door that day. But you can't turn back time, I didn't know then what I know now. I am glad you are staying dark and keeping a low profile. You will be fine. God is watching over you, as are the angels. The bands name fits him well eh?


HINY

I've had a very busy week/weekend. My STBXW was supposed to show up on Thursday to pick up some of her stuff but never showed. I sent her the preliminary paperwork for the online DV and she's happy with it so I will send that out soon. She was supposed to show up yesterday to get her stuff and never showed again. I just hope she gets it all out in one shot. Then I went to the truck race in Milwalkee Friday night was going to the Busch race last night but had a bad headache so I didn't go. Plus I've been out doing therapy on the new Harley. So that's what's going on here.

Just bumping this up waiting for today's quote Tinny <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ..makes my day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Here you go NO today's quote


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never."
-Charles Caleb Colton </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Anyone broke plan B lately? NOT ME! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I have been very good.

A lot of stuff happening at work. The up coming projects and events is keeping me on my toes. I look forward to the work.

I think less and less of WS. The panic attack are almost gone. Plan B is great. I never thought i would actually get to this point where having NC with WS is great! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Zizzy...great to hear you are doing so well...I have been doing great as well..yesterday had to contact WS...furnace started acting up yesterday and had to contact him to see who to call..he insisted in coming up to look at it...we set a time and we were both cordial..I gave him his mail and away he went...all in about 15 minutes...we talked nothing about R and I try to keep it that way...he has to find himself and I cannot help him...in the meantime I just plug along here looking after me....HINY are you out there?...pop in and give us a report on how you are doing...

<small>[ June 29, 2004, 09:12 AM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

Today's quote


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "Woe to the man whose heart has not learned while young to hope, to love - and to put its trust in life."
-Joseph Conrad </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Tinman...love your quotes... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Hope thing are okay with you

NO...i had a down moment just now. Watch spiderman movie and some of those lovey dovey part woke up those emotions i was trying to bury. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
NO...i think you should tighten you boundaries...you should look for the repairman yourself and dont allow WS the chance to feel like u still needed him.

I have a test coming up next week whereby i might not be able to avoid meeting WS. I have to do some work on sunday and it is also DD outing with WS.

Since my work starts early i have to let WS into the house to babysit DD before i leave. This means i have to meet WS. I am not too crazy about this idea. I am hoping to avoid it. I still have more than a week to come out with another idea on how to avoid meeting WS.

Zizzy I'm glad to hear you are doing so much better in Plan B. Here's an update on Plan D I sent the paperwork out Monday morning to get processed and got a reply back that we will receive the finished paper work in 14 days. I'm so happy to be moving on when I was missing my STBXW my life seemed to be at a standstill and Plan B helped me move on with myself. I'm doing really well nothing like riding my Harley for therapy, wind blowing through my hair flick the wrist and instant power the rumble of a Vtwin engine life just doesn't get any better then that.

Here's todays quote:


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great."
-Comte DeBussy-Rabutin </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Tin, or shall I say, all MAN, I enjoy your quotes every day.

Zizzy: DON'T DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO IT! Can anyone else watch the kids in the am. Any other family, friends, etc???? Let them handle the exchange. Is DD old enough to walk up on her own at his place (in other words, drop her off the night before, or that am)??????

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I'm doing really well nothing like riding my Harley for therapy, wind blowing through my hair flick the wrist and instant power the rumble of a Vtwin engine life just doesn't get any better then that.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Tinny you got that right <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and another great quote of the day by you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ June 30, 2004, 10:55 AM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NO...i think you should tighten you boundaries...you should look for the repairman yourself and dont allow WS the chance to feel like u still needed him.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Zizzy when he came up I made him show me how to fix it if this situation ever happened again...believe me after taking a Boundaries Course I have them all in place <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ...had a rough day yesterday but am better today...but that usually happens when I have contact...that is why I try to have as little as possible <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I know you guys have been waiting for todays quote so here it is. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "Love builds bridges where there are none."
-R. H. Delaney </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

ok you all....I can't read 51 pages....are you all in Plan B? I am really struggling.....

thanks.

PEACE OUT

YES the majority of us here are ...Plan B protects the BS if the WS refuses to stop contact with OW... alot of us here have been been in Plan for awhile...and we are much stronger not having to deal with the pain and anger we receive from our WS's...hope that helps with your struggle...

<small>[ July 01, 2004, 10:49 AM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

WH is 6 weeks OUT of house. didn't take anything with him. has asked a few times about his clothing but always hangs up on me and doesn't make a plan. so naked? whatever. he is with ow and her young child. everything he wanted out of he seems to be getting all over again but our sons are grown and paying their own way thru college.......FIL says h isn't coming back to us-"pretty tight" with ow and brings her HOME and they don't say anything against it altho they don't approve. says he will file for D when he gets his $$ back. for 6 weeks now h has been leaving $$ in bank for me to run household- I am a homemaker.

any thoughts? ideas?

PEACE OUT

Sprez did you do a steller Plan A? Have you written a Plan B letter to give to your WS? Maybe I need to go read your post.

hi Tinman- Harley said he would review my Plan B letter- hasn't got back to me yet....we had a phone conference. my fervent prayer is that my h will "turn around"= meanwhile I have been backed into a corner where I have to do things I don't want to do, to preserve our home. Did you read anything about me-may 24th is when I started posting about this sitch. thanks for replying...

PEACE OUT

Okay okay i hear you guys...i will by hook or by crook get someone to look after DD so i need not see WS face <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Finally got the book "Love must be tough" by Dr James Dobson. Goooooood Book! If any of you have not read it, go get one today. I read it the whole day yesterday until today. It took me a long time to get that book because it is not sold here in my town.

Zizzy,

Glad Sounds has most of Dr Dobson and Harley's books. At lower prices than most bookstores. I found 'After the Affair", 'Private Lies' and 'Torn Asunder' at Pay Less Books-- all at less than RM20! You can find both bookstores on the www.