Originally posted by BrokenHeart03:

Hmmmmm. Do you agree with that? I understand what she's saying -- that if a wife takes care of her husband and "primes the pump," (to use her analogy), he will most likely gush forth with sweet water to sustain them both.

But do you really think a man can't do the same thing for his wife?

I think her point is that MAN is like a simple hand pump in the yard... a few jerks on his handle and he's ready to go... LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> (deliberate sexual reference ... Friday sugar high)

A woman is more like a complicated series of aquaducts, some underground and unseen ... much harder to navigate. Secret tunnels and all that.

Do women really have ALL the power in relationships?

Of course not.

It's just that men are easy to please for the most part... and therein lies the woman's power. Pleasing this simple guy.

I know in my own life, Mr. Pep said to me more than once... "If everyone was treated with this much love and respect, no one would ever leave such a home. I want to come home because home is a good place to be."

And the truth is, it's easy. Putty in my hands. I tell him how cute he is. How much what he does pleases me, that I appreciate his efforts... and he's ready to slay dragons for me.

Pep

Here's a thread on the book, case anyone's interested...

PC&FoH

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> The first of the series is "The Sweet Potato Queens Book Of Love"... but she doesn't discuss "revirgination" until the 3rd book in the series( I think it's the 3rd one...)
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I remember now; I heard the author interviewed on NPR's Diane Rehm show.

Let's see, as a married woman who will never read this book...

1) I detest Dr. Laura, and find her a hypocrite, even aside from her former OW status.

2) The title is condescending and idiotic.

3) It is one-sided. I like MB much better in that it addresses both parties needs.

4) The whole "prime the pump" theory works only up to a point. It does make your H madly in love with you and happy as heck. Which is good. Whether he chooses to reciprocate or not depends on him.

5) And even if he chooses to try and reciprocate, many men do not get what it takes to make their W happy and they DO need a book. Or to listen to their wives and then follow thru. So, the one-sidedness of this turns me off.

This is a good point, I totally agree:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">One guy said this: (paraphrasing)

Sex is to men like talking is to women. It makes them feel loved and appreciated. And when wives say "He only wants me for the sex he doesn't want to talk to me" ... are missing the point... he loves his wife and sex is how he expresses that feeling and it is not necessarily a selfish demand on his part.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If only more MEN got that talking (at a heart-level, not logisics and facts) is for women like sex is for men. But very, very few do...

OK, that's about it.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Kathi

<small>[ May 15, 2004, 09:45 AM: Message edited by: kam6318 ]</small>

Kam, thats an interesting take on Dr Laura, but what exactly makes her a "hypocrite?"

And isn't the book SUPPOSED to be one-sided? It is addressed towards MEN. Are all books irrelevent unless they address BOTH sexes? Why? Should we also dismiss all books addressed only towards women?

ok---have to admitt i hate dr laura. dont agree with her on certain subjects and think she is condescending and an a$$.

but pep thinks its a helpful book, and since i am stuck right now i am willing to give it a try.

but if you hear of a woman, in the carribean, who beat her husband to death with that very same book....just smile and say poor nikko's husband!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

they will be dragging me off while im yelling---its pep's fault, its paps fault!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

have a good week yall----i'll have a review when i get back.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by MelodyLane:
<strong> Kam, thats an interesting take on Dr Laura, but what exactly makes her a "hypocrite?" </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here's a few:

*Laura and the Sanctity of Marriage: Laura started dating her current husband, Lew Bishop, while he was still married to someone else and lived with him for nine years before they got married.

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Laura and Family Values: she has not spoken to her mother in 15 years and is estranged from her sister.

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She claims that women with children should stay home rather than have a career, but she of course works and spemds a fair bot of time traveling to supp[ort her books/shows, etc, in spite of the fact that she has a son at home.

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She will not discuss her past on her show, claiming that it is irrelevant now, but, as several critics have pointed out, she refuses to take responsibility for her "wild" past and angrily dismisses charges of hypocrisy.

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Schlessinger's brand of moralism apparently includes stretching the truth. In her book The Ten Commandments (ironically enough), she calls herself a "licensed psychotherapist." Her Ph.D., however is in physiology, not psychology. Though she does have an MFCC (a certificate in marriage, family, and child counseling), the State of California, where she resides, does not consider her a psychotherapist. In fact, it is illegal in California to call oneself a psychotherapist without a state license, which she does not have.

As my comment about the book being one-sided...sure, it is fine to target a book to one gender. I just prefer the balance of the Harley approach instead...marriage tenbds to work best when both sides get their needs met.

Kathi

Kam, I know that some of these are not accurate at all. For example, her mother is dead and cut off all family for years. That is not Dr Laura's fault. Having an estranged sister or mother does not mean a person who encourages family values is a "hypocrite," it just means they have a dysfunctional family.

She was always home with her son - when he was at home, he is in college now - every day when she did her radio show, but when she traveled, her H was home with them. Nothing hypocritical there.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Schlessinger's brand of moralism apparently includes stretching the truth. In her book The Ten Commandments (ironically enough), she calls herself a "licensed psychotherapist." Her Ph.D., however is in physiology, not psychology. "</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Someone is trying a little too hard here. One does not have to have a license in psychology to be a psychotherapist, though.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"As my comment about the book being one-sided...sure, it is fine to target a book to one gender. I just prefer the balance of the Harley approach instead...marriage tenbds to work best when both sides get their needs met."</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of course it does, and no one, even Dr Laura, has stated otherwise. It was about what men need. Talking about what one gender needs, does not mean you exclude the other.

Hmmm - I have not read the book for several reasons. The biggest reason is because I just HEARD about the book. Can't very well buy it if you don't know it exists! The second reason is because I have over 20 books with bookmarks with them on my shelf - meaning I started them and have yet to finish them! I've gone book crazy!! I told myself I had to atleast finish a few of them before I could buy another book. I'm ALMOST done with 3 of them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> The last reason would be because I figured this out already! I know just how to make hubby have a smile on his face all day - and we are both very very happy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> But I did put it on my list - along with those potato queens!