Well folks good news here.....OW quit her job on Wed. nite. She just went in and cleaned out her toolbox and never went back again. I guess when I told her she should be humiliated she took it to heart eh? This is very good news to me, maybe she will move away now also. This would be in the best interest of everyone, esp our children. Him working with her every night was the one thing that was stopping me from going into recovery, or even trying to. WHeeeewweee! She just made that easy for me. Because she didn't give two weeks notice she will never work there again either, I just hope she moves now.

HINY

Yes we are. This is a wonderful turn of events, as this will make NC much, much easier. Work is the big problem with OW and WH. We are spending a family night together tonight. Believe me if you asked me two months ago, or even two weeks ago if this was possible I would have said no way, not in a million years. Look up my posts, I was ready for D. Just keep praying and ask for God and the angels to help. Sounds foolish but it isn't. He is there and he hates D. Co-workers having an A is the hardest thing to deal with. Good Luck and you are in my prayers.

HINY

HINY...i am soooo happy for you!!!

OW is still working with WH and i cannot wait for her to RESIGN!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Sometimes i regret not going ahead with making the boo hoo at the office to humiliate her even if the consequences is getting WH fired...There were a lot of reponds from folk here when i posted that question...overall...most say dont do it...now i wish i did.

So are you back at plan A?

yes for the most part. We are friends right now, and that is fine with me for now. Anything more would be hard at this point. We are doing things as a family again and that is really good for the kids. I really don't care about me at this point, but the kids need him in their life. I am going to wait it out a couple of weeks before I try talking to him, like my therapist said.

HINY

Dear Hopeful,
I am so glad for you. I am feeling REALLY down right now, and it actually made me smile to read you post's heading! HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY!!!!!

God is turning this thing around for you!

I keep hoping OW will leave our church, but so far, she is more "faithful" (strange word to use in reference to her) in her attendance than ever before.

HOWEVER, This is cause for celebration! CONFETTI CONFETTI CONFETTI CONFETTI CONFETTI CONFETTI CONFETTI CONFETTI

That is GREAT!!!!

Remember the NC letter too...I know, it seems like overkill (it did in our case after a verbal NC was given and there was NC for a few weeks) but it's important for you to see it, and for you to rebuild trust!!!

Take it slow! You're doing GREAT!!!

Sorry, double post.

Did I say how GREAT this is?

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Thanks to all. Also OW apt is for rent, there is a sign out there, and she had a truck there moving her stuff out today. Maybe she is moving out of town.....Hooray!

Gosh I hope so! My fingers are crossed.

Thanks for all the prayers. You are all still in mine.

HINY

I have mixed feelings. I'm ESTATIC for you...it's only right and a good move on her part. I do feel sad for her. I know - she made a REALLY bad decision and the consequences are her own fault. But being told she's ugly, diseased, and essentially being made a fool of - owie owie owie. I bet she longs to have your strength - Hopeful.

How are you since your surgery? Better? Is your H staying with you, or is he still moved out??

Well Hiny girl <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> can we say it's safe to say you ran her out of town <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ..too bad you didn't get to tar and feather her like the good ole days when an undersirable was made to hit the road <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> seriously girl I am so happy that this turned around for you...at least in our Plan B network we seem to have one success...hugs to you my dear <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

No H is not living here with us. I am not ready for that either myself. Yes things are moving along here. And I don't feel sorry for OW at all, you play, you pay. And I don't feel sorry for H either, same goes for him. He is working on my truck right now and we are going to the monster truck show tonight as a family. We haven't talked about anything at all yet. I really don't want to either right now. I guess I will know when the time is right, and it isn't now. Gut instinct I guess. Thanks for the support. You all just hang in there and hope for your lives to turn around. In my prayers.

HINY

A move in a positive direction was just what we needed to hear on this beautiful Saturday. I think you are smart to take it slow and I wish you and your family the best!

Thanks K.

We had a nice family night last night at the monster truck show. My DD really enjoyed us all being together again, as she stated it to me several times. H slept on the couch, which was strange but really okay. I think it is still early on and things are moving slowly and it is okay with me. Nothing was said at all about our M, R or OW. He even let me use his cell phone to call my mom about a frost advisory and our garden. I almost fell over....this was a definite positive thing. Anywho, I hope all is well here, you are all in my prayers.

HINY

Hi HINY,

Well,against my better judgement,I wouldn't have let WH come home to sleep over.You know that wasn't in the MB plan.You haven't laid out the ground rules for allowing WH back in Appropriately.I just hope he doesn't run over you again.There still was no NC letter,it's still not clear if things are REALLY over despite the OW leaving the job and like I mentioned before,you don't want WH coming back because you're the last choice left.PLEEASE.....don't let WH stay over anymore.It is going to give your kids conflicting messages again if he leaves again.And at this point,who knows what is going on inside his head.

Myself and someother's here explained this to believer when she was on the cusp of letting her WH back into the home and she was very glad she didn't.He is still with OW and waflling big time.

I agree that it is hopeful that OW left the job but everything is still way up in the air.Essentially,you have allowed WH back into your lives without any plan or agreement on HIS part to get his sh** together.As much as you deny that he slithered back into your life,he just DID.

Please be careful and go back to the ground rules.I hate to rain on your parade here but I don't want to see the same drama happen all over again.

Take care.

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

NY, the strength you showed last week obviously was the right move. I am happy for you, and I too believe in the help of angels. One of the gifts I've gotten from this hell. I agree with Octobergirl to take it slow. H put you through hell, and your kids, he needs to earn your trust and the wonderful person you are. Stay strong! CV