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#1142776 06/03/04 09:46 AM
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Have I ever told you you're my hero ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You friendship and wisdom encourages me to dig deeper and examine myself...

You are a blessing.

Thank you. ♥

Love, Susan

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She is my hero, too! We love ya, Pep! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Pep
your insight is amazing...

and may I be so very bold to tell you that since your mom's passing...your wisdom holds much Grace...and the ability to see things with an even more loving perspective...
No doubt she is with you stronger than ever...

but enough about you... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

ARK

<small>[ June 03, 2004, 10:05 AM: Message edited by: ark^^ ]</small>

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You friendship and wisdom encourages me to dig deeper and examine myself...

Well... I feel that my last email to you was a bit of a heavy load ... and maybe way too much to put into your head...

But, this is a process I am STILL working out.

I am somewhat using you as a sounding board..

I have shared everything I wrote to you with Mr. Pep (more or less as it was going down) , and he has helped me out sooooo much!

I just HAVE to find the lesson in this pain... it would be too much to bear if it did not contain something of value.

Still searching... and trying to be quiet sometimes too... because I've learned that sometimes the very best things are delivered only to a quiet mind.

Pep


PS.. HI MEL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

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No doubt she is with you stronger than ever...

This is true.

Have you read this book?

"The Five People You Meet In Heaven"

Thanks Ark.

Pep

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Luv ya too , Pep! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Such a treasure for MB!!

And yes, I read "The Five People You Meet in Heaven",,,GREAT story!

For anyone that hasn't read it,,don't read the last couple of chapters at work!!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Well... I feel that my last email to you was a bit of a heavy load ... and maybe way too much to put into your head...

But, this is a process I am STILL working out.

I am somewhat using you as a sounding board..

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sound away...

I'm looking for my lesson in it too. (you know my daily struggle)

Thank you for allowing me to stand close...and I hope that in some way I can make the burden easier.


Susan

Can I come live with you for one week? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> how about just a few days then? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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Nope..will add it to my summer reading list..

I did read

The lone ranger and Tonto fist fight in heaven..
good one....

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I did read

The lone ranger and Tonto fist fight in heaven.. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ark! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I thought that was a joke, but I see it was not.

When Pep recommends a book to me, I rush right out and buy it....she's always on target.

Susan

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Pep,

While I realize this is a "girls" thread, I thought in the name of Equal Rights, I would join in and say you are indeed an amazing person and your insightful comments and posts on this board are what make it special.

I ALWAYS enjoy and learn something from your posts.

God Bless,

JL

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Can I come live with you for one week? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> how about just a few days then?

I'm not all that much fun right now... but I am "interesting"...

Last evening Mr. and I walked to Starbucks (about 1 mile) and were sitting enjoying the end of the day ... and a thought crossed my mind....

suddenly I am weeping... heaving shoulders... screwed up face...

It lasted about 5 minutes... then it was back to our regular programing.

Such weird twists this grieving!

I had a thought I wanted to share with my Mom... and knowing I never would... it just flicked the ~weep now in public~ switch, and I was off to the races!

Pep

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Thanks everyone...

the concept I am currently working on....

"surrender"

any thoughts?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I'm not all that much fun right now... but I am "interesting"... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thaz ok...I'm not into this only for the fun... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I'm hesitant to ask this...

but

have you seen your mom in crowds yet?

(I know you see her in the mirror every day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> )

I still see people that remind me of my dad...or a person in a crowd that (maybe from behind) looks like my dad...and it suddenly takes my breath for a sec...

Has this happened to you yet?

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Pepper,

Surrender to what???

You seem to be missing something very important or at least it is to me. You DID share your thought with your Mom, because you carry her within you. You are to some degree her, what she valued, what she shared with you, what she taught you, her history... it is all within you.

So please do grieve, but in my mind, you have lost less than you realize, and gained more than you thought.

God Bless,

JL

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Thanks everyone...

the concept I am currently working on....

"surrender"

any thoughts? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes...let's start here

my first thought on surrender is...

Surrender TO

My question for you....

Surrender what to what?

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Great minds do think alike.

We posted at the same time, JL, and I agree.

Also, I'm the editor of this thread, and just where did I say it was for chicks only? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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surrender

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truth

life

circumstances

reality

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Hey,

I just go where the "chicks" hang out. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Do you see any other guys on this thread?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Seriously, I think Pep deserves a lot of "thank you's" for what she does here. I also realize she just lost a parent and that is a very very hard thing to handle. Yet, it is the way of things. It is why we have children, they guarentee our immortality because they are part of us. It is just hard to see that in the middle of the loss.

I lost my father 16 years ago, and I still hear his voice, see things that remind me of him, and find myself using his words and insights with my kids. They were all very young when he passed so they only know him through me. But, I try to convey to them who he was.

My W lost both of her parents even longer ago. It is something you heal from but it is a loss you never really get over because you want to share your life with them.

But, it is the nature of things that it is our job to carry them with us. At least that is what I think it is.

Glad to see you around these parts again Susan. You are another special person on this site. I know that if you and Pep are corresponding, you will be able to help each other a great deal.

God Bless,

JL

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how?

remember when you told me...."push Susan....you are having a baby, push!"

Pushhhhhhh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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