I am looking for suggestions that may help me help my WW do better. It has really been a struggle to heal from the discovery of what she did. In earlier posts I gave a summary of our story, but in a nutshell, she had an A with someone and that destroyed the trust I had in her. All along I thought that was something that she would never do because she used to threaten me saying that she would never tolerate an indiscretion. She has been a very jealous and angry woman. Based on my readings and suggestions by others here, most of what has happened can be traced to how she was treated early in life by her parents.
I have seen her suffer and it literally tears my heart to see her in pain. She has some days when she is fine, but others she is angry and irritable. Interestingly, I still sense jealousy on her part and a great deal of insecurity. She is seeing a counselor, but I do not know how or what type of treatment she is under. I am very afraid to leave her alone, but I want to be able to trust. I also want for her to stop being so controlling. What can I do? I recently got a call to meet my parents who leave overseas, and since that day she seems to resent the fact that I am going to see them. I am really intrigued by her reactions. Especially since she has said that she wants to change.
Does anyone have similar experience with jealousy and anger on the part of a WS? I want to be supportive and I tend to ignore those reactions or take them lightly, but they really trouble me.
What can I do?
