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Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158712 07/14/04 09:44 AM
Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972 S sprezzatura OP Member
OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	having a crazy time....need some grounding...... PEACE OUT

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158713 07/14/04 09:56 AM
Joined: Apr 1999 Posts: 8,016 C Chris -CA123 Member
Chris -CA123 Member C Joined: Apr 1999 Posts: 8,016	Any thoughts of going to Plan B?

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158714 07/14/04 10:03 AM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	I don't understand the problem as it is now... You mentioned ladies chat .... I don't communicate well on chat..... so that's not an option for me. Diagram your current dilemma..... What is your goal? Pep

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158715 07/14/04 10:37 AM
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OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	Plan B is a quasi stich Chris- unles I file for D which I DO NOT WANT- I have to handle alot of things with h on my own. business- etc... so we do not communicate except for that. 8 weeks gone. very little contact. business convo yesterday- asked about kids- same answer from me- they will not hear your name-you know their answer- come home or be gone forever from them. they are strong and magnificent and right now they are not yours. said he wanted some clothes- he left with nothing. I asked do you want everything- MOVING OUT? he said NO! I am not moving OUT- I just need something to wear. he said leave it out and I will get it. my answer is no way- I am not running a slum where you drive by in the night and snatch stuff off the porch. make a plan- do NOT just show up at my door. the convo was quiet and civil- I cried but talked thru it- the business issue was a heartbreaker for both of us. I just don't understand....I told him I know i need to let him go- until he is the man I remember and is lost- where did you go???? he said I am right here. but he is LOST. why not just DECIDE>? everything he thought he didn't have.,,,he is losing. everything he has now is just what he ran from- new bills- new kid- etc.... I just need to talk......thanks ladies for listening....you know how it is...... PEACE OUT

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158716 07/14/04 05:55 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Do feel you "should be" doing something you are not currently doing? Pep

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158717 07/15/04 08:49 AM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 9,015 F ForeverHers Member
ForeverHers Member F Joined: May 2002 Posts: 9,015	Hi Sprez.... how about just a simple hug of understanding for now? (((((Sprezzatura))))) Ya, the whole thing is "crazy making." I remember all too well. Hang in there, you are doing just "fine." I know, it just doesn't seem like it to you but believe me, your husband is feeling it and his emphatic rejection of "Moving Out" is a good indication of it. He's procrastinating, but he also knows that either he has to make a difficult decison, or you will make one. But there's not "denying" or "excusing" the situation. In short, what you are doing is working. Feeling the "consequences" of his actions and decisions is the intial impact of "reality" that he needs. Just as it takes the Sun a while to burn off the fog, so it will take reality a while to penetrate his fog and get to "clear thinking." God bless.

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158718 07/15/04 11:15 AM
Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972 S sprezzatura OP Member
OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	Foreverhers and Pep- who sows an uncommon seed will reap an uncommon harvest. The seeds I sow will be obedient. I will give what I want to receive -LOVE-and wait on the Lord. Words that issue from my mouth will be from the heart I give to God. everyday I appreciate your hugs and prayers for restoration and your posts. thank you and may God richly Bless YOU PEACE OUT...and IN

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158719 07/16/04 08:07 AM
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OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	h moving out tonite- please pray for us PEACE OUT

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158720 07/16/04 08:37 AM
Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972 S sprezzatura OP Member
OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	need someone to talk to............ PEACE OUT

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158721 07/16/04 09:59 AM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Where's he going? What's he taking with him? What does he say about his leaving? Pep

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158722 07/17/04 12:03 AM
Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972 S sprezzatura OP Member
OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	just an email-coming for my clothes. I returned with a phone msg.- call and make a plan. if hes in a hurry I won't be here. we need to talk. business- home-kids- AWOL for 8 weeks- gotta talk. hasn't called yet. any advice welcome...... PEACE OUT

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158723 07/16/04 06:05 PM
Joined: Dec 1969 Posts: 3,073 S Susan Member
Susan Member S Joined: Dec 1969 Posts: 3,073	Sprezz... What type medical condition keeps you "in the chair"? Suz

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158724 07/16/04 07:23 PM
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OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	Susan- herniated discs. working toward a solution but I have an MS history so that doc will be handling this. prayers for healing are most welcome. h called 3 times. came for an hour or so. got his bags. all is well- God in his heaven. thanks for all your prayers. keep it up! PEACE OUT

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158725 07/18/04 12:47 AM
Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972 S sprezzatura OP Member
OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	just a bump...... PEACE OUT...and IN

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158726 07/20/04 12:09 AM
Joined: Jul 2002 Posts: 1,079 I Iceprincess Member
Iceprincess Member I Joined: Jul 2002 Posts: 1,079	Hi sprezzatura: how are things? This thread was a little cryptic (in your signature style <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ). Some hugs and love and strength coming your way from me over here. Hang in there (((sprezzatura))). PS: Are you looking at your wall at times and read the carpe diem? It still applies... Love

Re: Pep-Pen-FH- anyone to talk to...... #1158727 07/19/04 02:01 PM
Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972 S sprezzatura OP Member
OP sprezzatura Member S Joined: Feb 2003 Posts: 972	hi IP- details....blah. come to chat sometime.....thanks for your prayers- Desiderata still a theme-yes! PEACE OUT

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