I've been divorced over a year now, and exH married OW, people come and tell me how happy they are, is it justified what they have done to my daughter and I. ExH apologized finally recently apologized for everything he has done, does this apology has any value, I find myself still depressed at times, but at the same time, I can say I wouldn't want my marriage back. What's wrong with me.

Hi nezi,

I don't see that anything is wrong with you for expressing your pain about their marriage(OP and WH).It's definitely not fair,humane,reasonable or kind.It may not happen right away but they are in for some suprises,just wait and see.Or better yet,pretend like they don't exist.They are not worth the time and energy.

Remember that marriages born from A's have a dismal success rate.It may take some time but they may still be acting on their best behavior and not letting all the habits and baggage out yet.

Also,I don't know who these "people" are that are giving you play by plays of the
"happy" couple but tell them,in a nice way,to get lost! What heartless humans they must be.Cut them out of your life.There is NO justification for hurting other's like your WH has done to you and your daughter.I don't want my marriage either right now and there's no justification to what my WH did to me and my daughters either,or that any WS does to their spouses and families.

I keep thinking about those who have gone before us,fighting for good,equality and justice against so many odds and I have to try and remember that even though I may be made to deal with pain,suffering and inhumanity and selfish actions of other's,it is how I live MY life that will matter in the end,no matter how I have been treated.

O

I try not to let things bother me, after all its been a while since the divorce. Sometimes just seeing them together makes me sick. Then i wonder if they put on act, to justify what they have done, afterall everyone has to think, OW was worth leaving wife and kid for, eternal happiness, right? I'll be ok, i hope, survived this far.

Do we ever really recover ??

Answer = NO
JMO

We're SURVIVORS.

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ August 03, 2004, 10:36 AM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

somehow, we have no choice

I know I know , don't go gettin all GLORIA GAINER on me LOL .

YES we all will servive , I do belive and know that , know matter reconcile or D .

BUT the level of pain , I do not belive is truely recoverable .

Can it make us strong , yes .

but theres a peice even in the most peaceful end that will be apart of us . A shattered dream , a disapointment , a never knowing , a trigger ect.

THIS is why I have to say NO in really ever recover 100%

And do I and will I always hold a place in my heart for fairtail LOVE ,,, YEP .

LOL I am still a little girl inside that belives in cinderella ,SSHHHHHHHHHHH don't tell anyone .

D or not you will both be able to give love to someone else , find happiness but most of all someone will love you in away after this that you never even could think possiable .

Because I do not think any of us where thrown this HARD BALL for no reason .

OK I an't do serious for to long LOL

Do we ever really recover?.... Yes

Are we ever the same?.... No. Sometimes we're better. Sometimes not. We are wiser overall.

Pep

OK PEP , you win , always got to twist my thoughts on me LOL .

So your saying never the same is what I am discribing . ?

So now whats the differnts ?? just for the shore version .

GOD only knows what our future holds. Maybe something better was meant for us.

GOD only knows what our future holds. Maybe something better was meant for us.

GOD only knows what our future holds. Maybe something better was meant for us.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by 3isacrowd:
<strong> OK PEP , you win , always got to twist my thoughts on me LOL .

So your saying never the same is what I am discribing . ?

So now whats the differnts ?? just for the shore version . </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Have you ever had a really bad injury?

I have. Disc injury with a foot drop.

I have recovered... but I swear, I will never be the same.... THAT'S a FACT for me.... and I consider infidelity a similar sort of injury. Assault to the nervous system!

Pep (Gloria Gaynor ~LOL~)

ah , wise one I see the differance now , yep what PEP said. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

and are ya makin fun of my spelling ? I am running on no sleep for weeks .

YEP GLORIA .

BUT just for convo purposes , didn't ya ever hear someone say , I had surgery , and I am not 100% recovered cause there never the same so they find them self to not be 100% recovered .YA know a play on words here. Also the glass half full thing all a matter of how ya look at it .

YOUR way sounds more encouraging . <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Do we ever really recover?

Yes, I think some of us do. That is, if we let ourselves.

What do I see when XWW is with OM? I see a problem that is no longer mine.

Life is good.

ITB

Actually that's the best way to view it!