B-trayed,
I can’t remember if I have read some of your previous posts… You said your W is pursuing her own dreams and ambitions (basically the A) and not committing to fixing your M in any way. You also said if you did manage to overcome the A, she has indicated that this is part of her new lifestyle and she would expect you to accept this... Does this mean your W is still in contact with the OP and continuing the A in spite of you following 'plan A'? If so, this can’t be accepted or tolerated AT ALL and then I can understand (and agree) that you need to go to plan B, but otherwise I’m not sure if this will be the right thing to do... I don't know all the background. I’m sure others will chime in soon to give you advice on this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Is it normal for a wife to want to go out with her friends every Friday Night and any other time she can to be away from us? We have never had this happen before as we did everything together.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"></strong>
B-trayed, I don’t think this is normal…especially if this didn’t happen before and is an instant & radical change in your W’s behavior...
Last week I’ve said to someone I think it’s very important for a couple to spend quality time together and to spend most of their recreational time together, although it can also be a good & healthy thing for a relationship if the spouses sometimes spending time apart from each other with good same sex friends… Especially if there is much strain and stress in the relationship, I think it can help the spouses to ‘breath’ for a while and recharge their emotional batteries. However, I don’t think this is the case with your W and the motivation for her behaviour…
Spending some time apart and having outside interests can be a very good thing for the M and help to maintain balance in a M, as long as the spouses POJA on this and have a enthusiastic agreement with each other… Otherwise there will be resentment, LB’ing and feelings of rejection etc. Maybe you can try to discuss this with your W.
Blessings,
Suzet