Hey guys , everyone here who knows me knows well I am in recovery but still am a slow one so is FWS . So when things like this happen I got to say its good for me .

Funny thing happened to me while on the couch with H last night .

He said, I got to tell ya something , wow ok I was brassing myself cause he had that seriuos voice on ...

He told me about a guy that he is freinds with at work that we both know and H is well close with .

This guy ,rumor has it is having an A , I said, wow how sad for his W and family .

He said, yes , I heard a month or so ago him say something about D ,,, I just looked at him cause I heard the rumors and said, BUDDY , ya don't know what your doing ,, nothing is that BAD , work it out , go to MC , talk , communicate but the GRASS is not ever greenner !

I was shocked , then he said , I want to talk to him but feel funny , cause I know he is living in that fantasyland (fog) and he might not hear ME !

I was shocked again , he was listening to me , really all these months , I thought I was talkin to a wall .

He preceed to say , man if he only knew how stupid he is , he would run from this OW .

OK thought I would share my FWS light bulb moment , SEE he does listen this MAN of mine is one strange GUY ! Never lets me get the benefit to know he gets IT !!!!!!

I looked at him and said, I lOVE YOU ! he said,

I KNOW and he laughed then walked away and said , see I bet you still doughted me that I HAVEN"T GOTTEN it yet ,,, NO faith sweetie !

I LOVE YOU TO ! I told ya I was sorry and knew what I did !

Well thats my story as silly as it is to others it helps me !

Sound like he really is coming out of the fog. Good for you! I can only hope that I hear thoses same words from my WH one day. I'm losing hope for it but I guess there's always a chance huh?

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I long for the day when my WW does that !

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Great step for you ! I am delighted !

even funnier is this is a FWS who is out of fog .

A ended a year ago and he just hates talking about it says it all been said, and we worked on issues if M , that where pre-a .

Its funny that I am still not right , but hes all good ! LOL

THanks guys ! yes it is good to know he got it at least some of it anyway .

And yes it takes longer for others hang on ,, the word TIME although sucks really is what it takes

MY H is a late blummer !!!!

WOW!!! That is great!!

I remember when you NEVER thought you'd here these words come out of your FWH. When your H was so THICK in the A it was like trying to pull him out of quicksand when all you could see was his ring finger...and he would tell you he could get out by himself...

What a long way in a year!!

You are doing great.

Had an interesting talk with my H about a month ago. I still have questions about the A and will bring it up about once a month. This time he got VERY angry and then broke down and cried and said he felt so very bad about what he did and wants to forget it. He feels very ashamed of his actions, can't believe he would do something like this. So I think about this now when someone writes their FWS doesn't want to talk about it. I'm wondering if they feel worse about it than we do???

Yep , Still , a long way ! Its funny that sometimes I forget to say the good and even forget to see it .

Its not that I think that one hurts more then the other , its more like who is moving forward at there speed then the other .

I belive now that my H has healed faster then me , and I as well as he thank ME for that <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

But his problem was , is that he thought I was healing with him , and I was taking care of him first and waiting for him to heal me .

Silly me took some time to learn I have to heal me and yes with his understanding and help I can move along faster .

Its funny the things that go buy each day ,, we have even had some weird jokes about the A .

THE JUST BETWEN US ONES !

I will post one some as it was pretty funny and was involving a old silly trigger .

WELL you know the drill my dear TIME ,,,

All the best to you and yours !

Thanks for all the times when all the post where crazy ! I was a thick one LOL