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can anyone recommend a grief message board?...
my dad died last month and i am not coping well...
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Oh, I am so sorry.
I lost my Mom this year.
I do not know a grief board, but I am sure they exist.
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thanks pepperband...
dai died last month...
i though i was ok...
last week i fell apart at work...
i've taken a personal leave...
i need help...
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Call your medical insurance plan, see if they have grief counselors or mental health specialists who can talk you through the worst of it. We had Hospice, which was a wonderful help.
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<small>[ October 04, 2004, 03:05 PM: Message edited by: oaktown ]</small>
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pep...
i went to see my doctor... she wanted to give me an rx for trazodone for sleep... knowing myself i refused to take it...
i called the employee assitance program at work... took their earliest appointment (this week thrusday)...
until then, i'm trying to hold on...
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by oaktown:
[QB] pep...
i went to see my doctor... she wanted to give me an rx for trazodone for sleep...
are you sleeping?
knowing myself i refused to take it...
please explain
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Dear Oaktown,
Was thinking about you just earlier today. I am sorry about your father. It is never easy to lose a beloved parent.
How is your little one doing? I wish we were closer and could visit again.
Hugz,
L.
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oaktown, I am so sorry about your father. I think there are lots of grief support groups out there that might be able to help you. The funeral homes usually have some good contacts.
For me, I found that work was my ONLY saving grace. My H of 20 years left in May and my son was killed 6 months later [1999]. Work was the only thing that kept me sane, because when I stayed home, I just obsessed with my grief. When I was at work, I was somewhat removed enough from my grief to have a respite. It was the only thing that kept me sane. I couldn't have survived without it. When I felt like crying, I just went in the bathroom and closed the door.
Anyway, that is what worked best for me. I hope you find some peace, oaktown, I know how hard it is to lose your family.
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oaktown -
Sorry for the loss of your father. I looked online and there are several grief groups available.
Also a good book is called "The Grief Recovery Handbook". You might also check out area churches for grief support recovery groups.
What was your relationship with your father like?
Also was this a sudden thing?
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You are doing the right thing by reaching outward...keep talking.
Please don't make the mistake I made which was trying to self medicate with wine. I barely remember the first year after. And it's a very hard habit to break.
I too am interested in why you don't want to take what the doctor offered.
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pep, orchid, melody, beliver, weaver...
no i'm not sleeping... i have not gotten a good nights sleep in over a month...
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<small>[ November 08, 2004, 02:55 PM: Message edited by: oaktown ]</small>
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i went to see my doctor... she wanted to give me an rx for trazodone for sleep...
This is actually a good choice for sleep, not addicting, and you can fiddle with the dose as your needs change... I took this right after D-day...
When all else fails, you can always take 50 mg of benadryl ....
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<small>[ October 04, 2004, 06:46 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>
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I know kind of how you feel. After D-day, my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer that had spread to his spine.
When my WH's mother was ill, we spent every weekend with her until she died. Now that my dad is ill, my WH is living with OW, and is no support at all.
What about your mother, is she still alive?
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