Hey Gang,

Well, it's been awhile since I posted cause everything is going pretty well for us. Me, G, the kids, Mom doing well after the surgery.

T2 has been hanging out alot lately here wanting to chat with "The Old Man". I find out that his GF is 3 months pregnant with his child and now all of a sudden her parents, Mom and Step Dad, don't approve of him and influence the GF to break off all contact. He of course is devestated.

Then only to find out that the Step Dad is an old aquaintance of mine. Both parents are medics, ya gotta love it, small world or what.

I told him to write a letter to her, but, it seems she wants no contact at all. Then I opted for Plan B. G is going with that's "chick speak" for fight for me, Plan A.

T2 is about to take his medic test soon, this isn't helping and she is an EMT going to college to be a PA. What do you guys think he should do?

I have never seen him bummed this bad before.

thanks, Zippy

Hi -

How old is your son and his GF?

I don't understand why her parents would want her to end all contact with your son when she is pregnant. What would this accomplish?

Is she really that influenced by her parents?

All of it seems a little odd to me, but he really has no choice but to honor her wishes at this point.

I would set the stage now with plan A if I were he. They are going to need to have a good relationship to parent this child, whether as a family or two single parents.

She will need the support of your son and it bothers me that her parents would suggest she go it alone, how unfair for the baby and for your son & her.

As for your son, continue to hold him close, he needs your love now more than ever.

Edited to add -

Letters are a great from of communication. They worked for me when I plan B'd my BF. After a few of his letters I did agree to start dating him again. Letters can be very romantic and a lot of fun, as long as they are not too whiney and mushy and all about your son. Till him to make the letters light & fun with a little romance thrown in. They will also help him with his sadness and to be able to say the things he probably desperately needs to be able to say to her.

<small>[ October 23, 2004, 07:33 AM: Message edited by: weaver ]</small>

I'm not sure if I should be as angry about all this as I am.

Lemmee get this straight...

She is pregnant with your boy's child and she wants no contact? As in "Thanks for the sperm, see ya."???

Is this the case? Really?

John

Hey Weaver,

T2 is 23 and I believe the GF is 22. I'll tell ya for as much as she used to be over at the house, you would have thought she moved in.

I only met her briefly like maybe a minute because they wanted to go out for lunch, so I don't really have a good read on her.

Yo John,

um, yep you pretty much have it. I don't understand what the deal is they were talking M before the pregnancy was discovered. Her step dad was the one that arranged the first date. He works with T2.

I don't get it, G is fumming over this and was asking about grandparent rights. This is gonna get ugly.

Zip

Have you tried talking to her parents?

Sometimes parents can work through these things better than kids can. Just a thought.

HINY