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2long,
keep Ratmeat until he apologizes to your satisfaction.
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Descriptive, offensive nicknames for WS's OP's is one of our prerogatives as BSs. Beats the hell out of having to pollute our own words by speaking their names. I've been calling TBXWW's OM#2 "Jackoff" for about a year now (and that's about the most printable name).
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Keep Rat Meat or not..really doesn't matter but..what bothers me is the 2 in everything. What's the deal with that? Rather than just reading your posts, I struggle with what you're really trying to say and if you're really serious. I know I'll probably get flamed but more than not, I just pass your posts by... Sorry but it reminds me of the notes my daughter and her friends would pass in middle school...
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Sarie:
My post above forgot 2 include the condition that I would tell my W about my use of that name (among others, including one where I take his middle initial and flesh it out 2 "[censored]", because he has behaved like one for 13 years at least).
So, here's the deal, restated: I'll stop calling RM names AND tell my W about them, if you'll stop your A and tell your H about it.
You didn't answer that 2uestion.
"I do still lurk here at MB and spend about an hour reading each day!"
Frankly, why??? Not that I'm suggesting that you stop, but why? What good do you get out of it? Drama?
"I cannot post often here at MB because I am one of the wives that never told her husband of a 10 year long affair."
And you're not the only one. You are the only one that I know of that hasn't told OR ended the A, and doesn't seem 2 think there's anything wrong with that, after a CONSIDERABLE amount of time spent here. Why is that?
"Everyone was 'on me' to confess (justifyably on me) and yes, I have been reading Dreamcatcher's thread and believe me, I understand the 'whipping' she is getting....."
I don't think she's being "whipped." I think she's being treated with compassion and understanding. She DID THE RIGHT THING by ENDING her A and TELLING her H.
"My PA with the OM has been over since August of last year....but the EA part of it continues...It probably will for a long long time; perhaps the love and caring we have for one another will continue in our hearts for a lifetime! I don't have that answer."
Excuse me while I go york my lunch.
"So, 2long, I was admiring your decision not to call the OM, RATMEAT, anymore...heehee...I am glad you never used it with your wife when referring to him."
Again, I'll gladly tell her if you'll tell your H. But I will likely tell her sooner or later anyway, whether I continue calling him Mr. Meat or not.
"Us WW tend to see the OM differently than our BH sees him."
More than likely, your BH has never seen him at all. Not fair. Cut that out.
-ol' 2long
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jph: "what bothers me is the 2 in everything. What's the deal with that?" It came as a flash of insight about 2 years ago... I saw it as my "genetic imperative" as a person with a login name with a "2" in it, 2 use 2's wherever I could (in place of too, to, two, and q). I've thought 2 use "4" as well, and maybe even 3 (as a backwards "e"), but decided it was probably 2 much. When I was "T-zero" I used 0 in place of every "o" for a while, but that just 2k 2long 2 edit. "Rather than just reading your posts, I struggle with what you're really trying to say and if you're really serious." Hopefully I can save you some time here. I'm seldom serious! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It hurts 2 much! "I know I'll probably get flamed but more than not, I just pass your posts by..." I'm sorry if it bothers you. Wish it didn't. "Sorry but it reminds me of the notes my daughter and her friends would pass in middle school..." Maybe that's my problem, I never got 2 pass notes back and forth with girls during school! Don't mean 2 offend. -ol' 2long
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by jph: <strong> Keep Rat Meat or not..really doesn't matter but..what bothers me is the 2 in everything. What's the deal with that? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">jph, its sort of like reading the King James version of the Bible, after awhile it just comes natural! Its part and parcel of his mad scientist personality and only adds to his charm it you take it in the right spirit! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Besides, how can you be bothered by someone who calls the OM "Rat Meat" and says things like "Excuse me while I go york my lunch." hahahaahahahahaahaaaaa
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Keep Rat Meat or not..really doesn't matter but..what bothers me is the 2 in everything. What's the deal with that?
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------One time I replied 2 2long doing the same thing but it took(2k) 2 long. Besides, think about how much less space his posts take up using digits vs. letters. He's keeping Al Gore's internet free of clutter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Kinda like the indian that used to cry when he saw litter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> God Bless <small>[ November 01, 2004, 06:45 PM: Message edited by: d_rose ]</small>
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I have to go with RM. Otherwise it would be hypocritical of me to use dirt bag (notice he's not even a proper noun) for OMM. And he is a db...
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Soon after d-day my FWW told me " It hurts me when you call Om 'him'. Can't you just say "(shortened first name)"? " I replied "believe me " him" is the best he's EVER gonna get from me !". I have referred to him as "keith Chegwin" once since d-day and my FWW was anguished. It was actually brilliant 'cos OM shares a strong physical resemblance to this bloated, failed ex-UK chidrens TV presenter and she KNOWS it. Nowadays I refer to him as 'Him' with a sort of hecking first syllable when I am forced to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Rat meat is very cool.
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Boink!
Time's a'runnin' out!
Be sure and get out there and vote!!!
-ol' 2long
P.S. Vote for the president while you're at it!
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You had to ask why? Oh, so we could justifiably dub you "dingledork" for a day.
Dingledork (and I say that with lots o'love in my heart).
OM will always be RM imo.
You rock Dingledork.
Edited to add: After reading everyone's posts about whether or not it diminishes 2long etc...I must cheerfully add that I am ever so thankful that OW's IRL initials are VD so my karma won't suffer for me calling her that - LMAO!
<small>[ November 02, 2004, 03:14 PM: Message edited by: Niosgirl ]</small>
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I dunno -
Rat Meat sounds a little to un-PC. Might offend the PETA crowd, vegetarians, pet rat owners...
How about Rodent Feces?
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Rats are really neat - to feed to pythons.
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Doesn't PETA mean: Prefer Eating Tasty Animals? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
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It does to pythons, Trix.
LMAO!
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SiSF:
Hi! first...
"How about Rodent Feces?"
Might offend Dung Beetle owners!
-ol' 2long
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Voted.
Of course popular opinion is a poor indicator of what is ethical and appropriate. Popular opinion crucified Jesus, totured and murdered tens of thousands of women and children who were falsely accused of Witchcraft, and allowed the horrors of the Holocaust to go on under their noses.
Choosing what is ethical often goes against popular opinion. In fact - popular opinion might be said to favor the idea of an affair as a love story. Perhaps we should vote on that and let that be our guide for how to behave in regards to marriage and the marital vows.
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cerri: a HAH! I got YOU 2 post 2 this silly thread of mine! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I agree 100%. -ol' 2long P.S. (and being the dictator of this particular political body, I'll make my own decision anyway!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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Hi, 2Long. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I don't speak much of the OW-wannabe anymore. I ask about things at work, but if I must to just check things out, I say her chosen nickname. I hate her nickname, but I say it, anyway, even though I know her given name. Actually, now that I think of it, there is a good reason to use her nick: it's not that common, while her given name is, so I don't make nasty associations. But, I simply just don't refer to her much anymore. I couldn't vote. I would like for you to be able to move beyond this, so that you do not need to even speak about the man anymore. I do understand the joking. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> It is fun in some aspect, it does seem to lift the hurting up for a moment. But name calling really does a disservice, because the name is an association the hurting person has made and it is a constant reminder of the bad that happened. ~ZP
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What is ethical about an unrepentant OP?
I still think of RM as less than serious.
Maybe reason for incorrectness of DJ's toward OP's hasn't been explained to me in a convincing manner.
I am all for releasing the OP in your heart when your spouse is a FWS. I believe that you can forgive them without going to them or having them in your lives. But,I believe that is all for the BS to heal themselves and move on.
I do not feel comfortable bringing up our former OW by name. I do use their names but I hate uttering them. I want them to remain in the past and not bring attention or memory of them to my H or myself at this point. But, still every now and then something will be brought up and it happens.
Somehow using their names is more respectful than they deserve. Maybe I'll go to Mrs. G or X Mrs. G . But all this is between my H and me. In this forum I just use OW or FOW. I am not creative enough to come up with a fun name like RM. My inner names for them were of the more derogatory types that aren't allowed here.
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