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My WW and I work at the same company, different buildings. I was going to a meeting at her building and met her so that we could smoke a cigarette together -- the family that smokes together stays together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

We were just turning a corner, she went one way and I went the other. Just then I saw OM. I think he was looking at my W and smiling and then he saw me. His eyes went downward very quickly. Since then, though, I've been really, really p!$$ed.

I want to tell her to talk to this guy and tell him that she wants to work on the M, but I don't want to make demands.

I want to tell her that I cannot accept the fact that she believes that her cell phone should always be private... again, a demand.

I want to tell her to get off her @$$ and go talk to an IC like she says she's going to and stop using the "I was too busy today" excuse.

I want to ask her why she's putting her work in front of her M and me.

I want to ask her what the ^$%#& she is thinking about when she talks about sending papers in for the adoption that we were working on when we are where we are.

-- All angry outbursts and LBs.

How can I do this without LB-ing? I have a week before I can talk to SH, but I don't know if I can wait that long. I feel ready to explode!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> But, if I really feel like I can't keep it under wraps, I'll go to a hotel or something for the night.

I'm only two months into this and I'm ready to Plan B right now. I want (I think) to save our M, but I don't know if this is the person that I want to be with!?!?

Sorry, I'll end my rant now. If someone has any links on how these types of things can be communicated effectively in a Plan A-ish way, I would appreciate it.

AAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

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One more question: If she's willing to fill out the EN's questionaire, should I have her do it and start meeting those needs?

Sorry if some of you are getting frustrated with me and my frequent posts and questions. I think my head is spinning so fast and my emotions are cycling so fast that I'm just trying to stabalize.


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