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#1220019 12/05/04 06:07 AM
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Well today is a club karate competition and my kids are entering.Squid is judging ( only an internal tournament - no OM or external referees).

It will be boring but nice to cheer my kids on !

Go pure kids !!!1

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Stings to see squid in her reffing outfit thought - her EA started with her wearing that stuff....

Ah well. Life goes on ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> L8r dudes !

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Hey Bob - You guys have a great time with the kids...

So your kids get to beat up on the other kids with your W as the referee, right?

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'morning Iville it is 6:20 my time here and we had a lovely rain last night. DS slept with me so I could keep and eye on him. Woke up several times but that is ok, that means he is getting a little bit better. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Believer, my friend put a mesh screen over his fish pond after the racoons ate all of his gold fish. You can't really see the screen, so it doesn't detract from the loveliness of it. That was really sweet of your son's.

AW, has the doctor not suggested taking iron tablets instead of trying to force liver down a nauseated tummy? Watch it though cuz then you can get constipated. Hey guys look you what all put us ladies through! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Bob, hope you enjoyed the karate tournment. Let you kids be your distraction for now.

RIF, 5 days and counting...

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#1220022 12/05/04 09:29 AM
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Oh and forgot to say good morning Mayor!

#1220023 12/05/04 10:19 AM
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Hey Idiotville.

FF - I'm so glad your DS is doing better.

RIF - I'm getting excited for you. R&R!!!!

Believer - I hope you enjoy your pond. It does sound lovely.

Well, I must wake LINY, as there is some serious raking and bagging to do. I think every leaf in our yard as finally come down. I'll swing by there. Everybody have a good day.

Brown

#1220024 12/05/04 11:36 AM
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Hey Bob,

Thinking about that other poster that you invested time in and turned out to be nothing but trouble. Here is my perspective and I hope this helps you, I think that no matter what effect (or not) you had on him your posts and the posts of others to the jerk was extrememly useful to anyone that read them. Make sense? YOu may not have been able to help him but in trying helped many others.

Many times I read through posts not knowing if it will apply to my life and then bam! Someone says some words of wisdom and my way of thinking is changed. You and many, many others on this forum have had that effect on my life.

Just my $.02

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Hey FF - You'd be proud of me! I've packed 1/2 of my bag already with stuff for my girls... How's your son doing today?

Hey Brown - Good to see you! Tell LINY that I said "Hi"!!! and tell him to get back to work!

Hey AW - I see you lurking out there!!! Any word from Aussie? I'm sure that he's fine... Please tell him that I said "Hi" when you hear from him, OK?

#1220026 12/05/04 11:54 AM
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Good Morning Idiotville!!!

64 degrees, high of 76. Sunny, going to beach at halftime... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> No leaves to rake... they don't seem to fall here! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

#1220027 12/05/04 12:09 PM
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hi all

FF glad your DS in A ok !! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

RIF no contact yet....still waiting. waiting <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I'll say Hi soon as I can. MAYBE before Xmas if I am lucky & Santa is in a good mood <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hi Mayor, swimming for you or just beach walking????

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Good night Mr. Mayor!!! Good night everyone!!!...

It's 2142 here and I'm done for the evening...

I'll turn it over to the day shift now....

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by aussieswife:
<strong> Hi Mayor, swimming for you or just beach walking???? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey AW!

More likely find a bar on the beach, watch the game, waves, beach, buns... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

#1220030 12/05/04 12:57 PM
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Hooray ! !!YO DD won individual Kata gold, 7YO SS won individual Kumite gold ( Fighting).Well done to them both !

Off to cook them some dinner now ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Congrats Pure Kids!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Alright Pure kids! Way to go! Made your mum and dad proud. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

RIF--I am proud of ya! Now just don't unpack <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> You have goodies for your girls to bring home? I love to get surprises. DS is doing much better this am, he is eating and drinking a little and watching his fav show on the Disney Channel right now. I am so relieved and while likely take tomorrow off to stay home with him.

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Morning all.

Glad everyone is doing well today. No beach walks here, it is pouring down rain. Instead I'm going to clean out my closets and get rid of everything I haven't worn for awhile. Yuck.

AW - I know you must be having a hard time not hearing from Aussie. Just know that he loves you and is doing his thing (plus protecting the world). If he is not happy about the pregnancy, tell him we at MB ARE! Ha!

Are you still working at the same place or did you give up that job?

#1220034 12/05/04 04:12 PM
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Good afternoon, idiots.\

Rainy and overcast here. I am trying to plan A while IB is angry. Of course, everytime I breathe it makes him angry. Oh, well.

I think I will go out and do a little Christmas shopping. No time after today. I do need some things, but really would prefer a nap. What to do???

I'll try to be back this evening. See ya.

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Starz -

I do almost all of my Christmas shopping on the net. It is very easy, and you get the best prices. And the best part, it is sent to your door.

If I were you, I think I would remove myself from IB. What a drag he is being.

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Beleiver -

I ordered some things on the net last week. Then I get an e mail saying one item is on backorder and they will ship in 2 - 3 weeks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I may still do some shopping on the net, though. Next weekend I will be free to shop all weekend since IB and S are going duck hunting in Arkansas. IB doesn't hunt, but he will cook. They will leave on Thursday and come back either Sunday or Monday, I forget which.

IB is likely to leave me after New Years', I think. In what I am able to learn, he is more and more anxious to be done with me once and for all. I don't know why he is staying as long as he is, unless it is to gather more money to stash away for their "escape." I do not have control over his actions, of course, but I am preparing myself emotionally as best I can, and securing as many financial matters as possible. I will survive no matter what happens, but I might have to live alone for the rest of my life. But I am a strong person, and I will survive. My daddy raised me that way. At this point, nothing I have done has made any difference at all. Perhaps he will come out of the fog before that happens, but I kind of doubt it. It might take separation and even divorce for the fantasy to end. I know that they plan to marry. It might be 2 or 3 years, but it will end.

According to other people we know, she has had multiple affairs with other men. In fact her H was newly married when she had an affair with him, busting up his marriage. I am told there have been several others during their marriage. So even if she snags IB, she won't stay long. She is at her sexual peak. And, truthfully, he is not. The fantasy will end sometime.

I need to make another appointment with Steve.

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Miss Starz -

If he acts with her like he is acting with you, it will end very soon. But don't worry, I've read the statistics, and even when divorcing in their 50's, 81% of the men, and 74% of the women remarry in about 2 years.

But I think your husband will be back because he hasn't bothered to leave. Mine left and lived with OW. Now they have broken up and he has turned into a drunken bum. Oops! Was that a DJ?

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He acts with her as he used to act with me before we married. Except now he is a liar and a cheat and a thief. Their conversations are 7th gradish - gossipy, sexy, and built on putting others down (me and OWH). I just about laughed once when he told her that they had promised to "always be honest with each other." Gag. When your whole life is built on a HUGE lie, what kind of garbage is that? Fogspeak. Thank God for MB. At least now I recognize that for what it is. It hurts, but I don't let it push me from my course. He has promised her that he will marry her. He is 56 and she is in her early thirties with two small children 4 and 8 or 9. With me he is sullen, argumentative, and sometimes rude. He looks at me with disgust, takes everything I say as stupid or just plain wrong, forgets that I told him something and then swears I never said it, sees only the worst in me, and seems to hate being around me. I don't know how much longer I can take the hurt.
When I first came to MB, I was greatly encouraged to think there might be hope for ending the affair and reconciliation between us. But I have seen so many come here and in a short period of time, seem to resolve their problems and are at least on their way to a happily ever after. Bob Pure is a great example. I am beginning to be very discouraged, as things seem to be getting worse.

I am not alone, of course - your situation isn't resolved, Robby's has taken a turn downhill at present, and there are probably plenty of others. I guess I just get sad when I see this program working for so many others and not for me.

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