</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Couple that with him choosing two OW that are younger and prettier than me and I say yuck when I look at the effect this is all having on me.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is a woman thing. (And *NOT* being condescending in *ANY* way.) It's just, us men don't understand this fully, the impact/pain we give--the insecurity--we give when we have an A. You could be the most popular super model in the world and *still* feel this way because of his As. He needs to learn this--if not, he needs to know this. It's all part of the FWS making the FBS feel safe again. He has no choice. He *NEEDS* to do this!
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He sees what it is doing to me, how many accidents I have around the house because I am tired, distracted and stressed. It is not good.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My first response was gonna be, WTF?!?!? OK...I rethought it....WTF?!?!?!? I'm sorry I donot know where you are at in recovery, so my answer response may seem harsh, but: Is he committed to working on your M? Uh, hello mr. ff--this *IS* part of it! This is his responsibility too! (Motherhood *IS* a full-time job as well!) *AND*, he can earn some major points by helping you! (Throw him a 2x4, will ya? Compliments of LINY!)
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks for listening. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> [/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">One thing I've realized, especially after my ego was bruised after posting that I had contact with the OW after I said I was in NC, is that I am not perfect. I am human. And besides my numero uno priority to spending the majority of my time and energy towards brown and my family, if I can, I will offer my take on things to help someone else out. That's why I love I-ville so much! So in other words, "Your welcome!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

LINY said: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Re: Idiotville? If there wasn't an Idiotville, I probably would not be posting and a Triple L: "life-long lurker". This is a safe place: where yes, we use MB principles, but, anything goes. I don't have to worry (necessarily ) of being PC--and I almost think it's unwanted here. It's an escape (don't like using that word anymmore--maybe "break" is better) from the pain of it all. And even still, we show our pain. Not just in the "ordinary" way like on a "regular" thread. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">SO TRUE! Well said.

Feeling very warm and fuzzy today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anyway, glad to see you and NOW are working on things! As RIF won't be around for another two weeks or so...
You guys will make it!!!!!!!!! Keep the faith!!

WOW! I've killed quite a few threads today! OK...getting the hint! I'll probably be back later all. Have a great day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Mmmmm this is AW's Idiotville thread then?

Just wondered why she was laughing at a MB thread ???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Aussie! Finally nice to "meet" you! Welcome to I-ville!!!!! Robby is the Mayor, KY's in charge (but MIA today.)

Welcome "home!"

Welcome Aussie - after months of talking about you, you're finally here!

Mornin Y'all!

Hope everybuddy's having a great day!

A2 - Welcome to Idiotville!! We're pretty relaxed here - lot's of goofy-ness, but well, sometimes you just have to let go of the pain for a while...Anyway, Welcome! Robby's the Mayor, Jelly's the Queen, and the rest of us just play along. Gotta get a job, and no editing - we have hard enough time keeping up with this thread as it is! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Kick off your shoes and sit a spell!

Robby - how'd that interview go? Good job not having it on Tues! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

KY/ST - where have y'all been?

RH, NOW, Liny, Brown, FF, FA-A, AW, et al - HEY!!

KiwiJ. - sleep well, dear! For when you get up - that was good advice to Robby, and I think several of us feel the same way - Prayers that he'll make the right decision - it stinks being between a rock and a hard spot!

~LemonDash - saying HoHoHo, and, anybody got any ideas where I can find my Christmas present? H said if I DO find it, then I really had to be digging - so, that's what I did this morning - still didn't find it - any suggestions?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

PS -
KY - thanks for the Christmas gift - grilled the meat, and had some baked potatoes, green beans, garlic bread and a salad! It was awesome, though I don't think it helped me much - I still look like one of those tall-skinny people - you know the kind that are all legs, great hair, perfect make-up - OH, wait that would be the other me "Angelina J." - and, well, I can dream can't I?? After all, it is Christmas!!

PSS -
Hey Believer - you're up! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Loved your comment about KY's gift to you - LMAO!! See it??!! OMG!!!! I prefer the lights out myself! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hey YL!!! You can have my book--I *AM* funny, dagnabit! (funny looking!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hi believer long time no talk.

How are you these days?

I'd send you a big hug & a brotherly smooch but I've forgotten how to do that on email...LOL
but consider it sent with many thanks for all that commonsense advice ... got through my think head finally. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> (see can still use the icons)

Hello Liny nice to talk to you on MB. I see that you have been trying to get AW to calm down a bit...... give me ideas I could use them!!

Same thing Believer if you have any ideas...

Just told her to go to bed as she was hardly able to keep her eyes open when she was posting and she says ok just let me make you another cup of coffee or tea, and I'll iron some clothes for you in case you want them in the morning, and...so I picked her up, God shes lost a lot of weight, and carried to bed & before I had even finished giving her a kiss she was asleep!!
Talk about stubborn and over doing it!!

Thanks Liny!! But, I was really hoping somebody would chime in on where they've hidden gifts in the past - it has to be small, cuz I think I was there when he got it - a few weeks ago, kids, my parents, he and I went shopping together - he walked away with S, while D and I were looking for her gift - I was a little edgy, and he was "helping me by removing S from my mood" - well, that was help, but when we were leaving the mall, he ran ahead of me to the car - NEVER does that, then S stood in the doorway, and they both were like "DON'T OPEN THAT DOOR!!" when I walked up - SO, it couldn't have been too big, or I'd have noticed that he was more than "just happy to see me" ya know what I mean - ANYWAY, ...ahem... I HATE surprises - he once surprised me with "just what I wanted" for Christmas - well, it wasn't what "I" wanted, I never even mentioned a necklace - told him I wanted a "real" wedding ring - not just a band - got SO disappointed when it was a necklace in that box and not a ring - SO, I just thought if I can find it now, I'll have more time to adjust to his idea of what I want is - so I can be excited, and not depressed like I was that time!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ( <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hello Liny nice to talk to you on MB. I see that you have been trying to get AW to calm down a bit...... give me ideas I could use them!!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've always said that the Lord works in very mysterious ways. Not saying that this is the case, but, this may just be a blessing in disguise. This may calm her a bit.

I like your style, BTW--send the wife to bed--then go on MB!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Do that to brown all of the time (but usually don't have to as I work N/S and she's sleeping anyways.)

AW just needs to know that you are committed. She's scared too (although I don't think she'll admit that to you.) You two have *SO MUCH* going for you. You'll do just fine! (And glad believer posted to you. She's got such a way, that believer! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> )

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">H said if I DO find it, then I really had to be digging -</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He gave you a bone?

HaHaHa - (had a funny reply here, but decided Justuss wouldn't like me anymore, so I deleted it before J could!)

I did ask H if it was out in the backyard with Reuben, and he said "Almost" - so, does that mean it's in the shop, or in his dresser (shop is in the back) (dresser is next to the window where Reuben sleeps)

Did I mention I HATE surprises?!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

A2 - really cool to see you post - almost makes me jealous to see so many couples posting - but alas... It sounds like you two are doing pretty good - congrats!

A2-WELCOME to Iville!! So glad you are home safe and with your lovely AW. We love her and know things are going to be great for you too. Congratulations on the pregnancy. AW really needs you to look after her now. She is trying so hard to be everything for you and I know you can be there for her. A2 she loves you so much. If RIF were here he would say "you are doing great".

Now get a job!!

Your info to FF earlier was so true - Unfortunately, how she is feeling IS a "woman" thing - we tend to think there's something wrong with us, (looks, etc) when it usually has NOTHING to do with that!

FF - are you feeling any better? I got upset with my H just last night for same thing you described - he tends to sit and watch while I'm cleaning - I too have a 12 yoD, and what a God-send she is! I have been honest with her about a lot of things though, and have just plain told her "I need your help! This house cannot run on me alone, because as you can see, I'm loosin it, here!" Then I told her what I need help with - dishes, house cleaning, younger siblings - it's amazing how they'll step in when you tell them to - she's not terribly consistent mind you, but she is seeing that one person can't do it all by themselves - I'm hoping my honesty will help her to not be afraid to ask for help. anyway, just wanted you to know you are not alone...doesn't really make you feel any better, but, well, we're here if you need us!

Yeah Liny its not often I ever get the last word in this house. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Daughter got home finally from her cafe lifestyle funded by ol Dad, but better I know shes there then in some dive of a night club.
18 year old girls are Gods revenge on the young men we were!!

Now I understand you want me to get a job??? What about town beer swilling cricket & football no hoper??? That or a politican, well same thing..heh heh lOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I'd tell you a joke but they are all Army ones and too rude for you civies ..lol <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hmmm...He said it was "small" though, right? Got me...I was gonna say maybe hot tub, or dog, or pool...but he said "almost." Small? Maybe has something to do with dresser? Has to go digging? Is it a thong?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> just wanted you to know you are not alone...doesn't really make you feel any better, but, well, we're here if you need us!

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank you YL. Yes it helps to know that my friends here in Iville understand. My DD said to me one day "mom, what would you do without me?" LOL, she is sooo right.

Ok, now I have to run and actually work!

Liny, seriously thank you very much! I really needed to put that out there and well you seemed you receptive this morning. (oops Brown don't get the wrong idea <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) Still think you are funny! (that is for you Robby) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />