Don't worry about that Believer... I think a lot of that is a load of horse droppings...see 2005 New years promise to cut down on bad language due to new baby...

I still get the 6 yrs olds to sleep in our family with a drink and soft music in the back ground, though they all start off saying they are too BIG for it..as they start yawning..LOL

Speaking of kids I have, lets see, 5 here right now eating, yelling, playing - yes dear its ok to scream outsides Uncle Aussies room as loud as you want - no hes not moaning its just thats hes happy to hear you honey..heh heh heh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

HI. Everyone. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I can't bear it. Any pain that was directed at me was okay. I'm grown. BUt this? NO way. I am going to go there tomorrow. She will NOT stay with him. I am moving in there. He can get his sorry *** to the *****s house. In fact I am taking his **** and delivering it.

He has crossed my line. That boundary that I warned him about. I will not EVER let him have her again without me or a REAL adult to supervise. EVER.

<small>[ January 01, 2005, 10:04 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

AW - Well - bottle popped into his little mouth, heater running, and lullabies playing. He's fading fast.

F-Again - Oh here you are. I was looking for you on your thread. Sorry all this is happening. It's almost midnight, so he should be back soon - or someone should be back soon. Are you starting to calm down yet?

Hows the little cutie Believer? Sound asleep yet???

FAA yes go for it. That is a boundary no parent should cross.

The poor kid finding out he wasn't taking her with him ,,,oh I'd spit chips..the only silver lining is that OW did not have any interaction with her.

Go get her or move back ...... let the OW meet all is needs.

Now one more thing FAA DOCUMENT this all ok...from your daughter ringing you, her behaviour eg, crying or upset or disgusted whatever it was, to you trying to contact H - if not try right now - then you can give evidence you did that if it comes to it, what the sit was like in the house, how long she is expected or was expected to be like that etc etc...

Helps set up any request for suopervised access.

Angry as you are be COOL in your decision making as much as possible.

hugs ((((((( FAA ))))))))

AW - FINALLY sleeping. I had forgotten those days. Now I'm gonna go to bed.

F-again - Hope you are calming down.

Well its 2005 here in far flung i'ville on Thames.

Happy Nude Year, idiots !

Had a great night's sleep, did absolutely NOTHING to mark the coming of the new year. Feel a bit sad really. So much was stolen from me in 2004 I realise I am still reeling from it.

Sat here I am looking down the possible paths of 2005 - one is hard self-effacing work once again as I work to rebuild our shattered marriage, gently coaxing Squid along where she doesn;t want to go for BOTH our health OR I could take a job I've been offered in Shanghai running a huge part of IBMs business out there and be as selfish as SHE has been.

Its **** being decent sonmetimes. I look at another year of heart-rending recovery coaxing every word, every act of of Squid. * sigh*

Yeah I know I am in a position that 99% of MB ers would DREAM to be in, but recovery's really hard y'know? Not so hard as plan A, but hard nontheless.

L8r folks ! Off to channel skip just because I can while the kids and Squid are in bed ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ January 01, 2005, 10:01 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Hey, everyone.I am calm. Dead calm. Not even angry. There are NO words to describe what I am feeling. Not numb. But WH hurt DD for his selfish self-centred reasons. ANd that is not part of any Plan A I can or will live with.

I had earlied posted on this thread about the 3 furies. It describes me:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Erinyes aka Furies These were fierce, winged spirits who avenged wrongs against blood relatives and punish those who escape or defy public justice.

Born from the castrated Uranus's genitals, 3 sisters, goddesses of vengeance and revenge.

Tisiphone -the Avenging, Alecto - the Unceasing Megaera - the Grudging </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That sums it up.

Hi Bob

happy new year

well I hope it can be happy anyway.

Very unsure about things right now except we're together and are unlikely to be apart.
Strange place to be.

<small>[ January 01, 2005, 03:59 AM: Message edited by: aussie2 ]</small>

Hey A2. You sound reflective tonight. Happy New Year. You Okay?

Happy New Year! I'm back!

Well, my R&R was wonderful...but short. The family is doing great and it was really special to be able to spend this Christmas with them. Saying goodby for a second time was tough, but hey, only four more monts to go!

Night Beliver.... sorry I missed you...

Hey Bob - How's the new year starting off for you and Squid?

Hi Fighting - Can't remember if I've posted to you or not... but welcome...

Aussie - Man, am I glad that you're finally home!!! You have one awesome wife... don't let her get away! I've been praying for you guys and I know that you two are going to make it... hang in there...

Semper Fi,
RIF

* AW you said Very unsure about things right now except we're together and are unlikely to be apart.
Strange place to be.

I can relate UTTERLY to that. Just a few more reasons to be together than to be apart but not a really compelling argument in either case from a practical perspective.
All blessings darl', I pray you an' your fine man will be fine and united for your new baby !

* RIF Hi mate !!!

SOOO many folks on here wanted you to have a great R&R - so glad you did !!!

As you say only another four months God Willing then you can be back in the bosom of your family. We need you guys to do what you do but MAN its hard on families.
We had a great vacation RIF, Squid and I. We're doing 'OK'. I tink we need the kids out of the way to do some talking though. Well, I do anyways... We're doing pretty well as a couple and a family and I think Squid doesn't want to ever mention or discuss her affair ever again for fear of it upsetting the new pretty comfortable status quo.
Its a shame but thats gotta change. Theres still too much stuff needs discussing.

We'll get there I guess.

All blessings to you as you close out your tour RIF, and glad you're back on here with us mate ! Missed you !!

Hey Bob, Happy New Year. So Shanghai is a possibility. You could join the Asian MB Division. There's a few of us out here. You know, a whole new challenge for you all might be just what you need and martial arts are big business so Squid might be happy too. Glad to see you back. TT

TT I could go tomorrow if I said yes to the Shanghai job. Too much other stuff to consider though.

I sometimes wish I was selfish. I'd have more adventures for sure !

Glad you and yours and all Asian MB folks are safe from harm from that Tsunami. Truly dreadful.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> you obviously missed the "skylight story" that Aussie told </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No, I saw it, read it, and thought it was quite funny. Was LINY trying to be funny again? I must have missed that part. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Welcome back RIF (Hopefully, your 4 months will go fast).

Happy New Years TT.

morning all!!!

well i rung in the new year alone....whole family home and i was still alone. hubby asleep, and kids watching a movie together(that alone is a miracle!)

so i was alone and in bed....not all that unusual. i kinda figure its not what i do that night---its what i do with the whole year in front of me. and this is gonna be my year. that i have decided. yay for me!

and liny----can ya believe i got edited for THAT!

Hi Iville

all over the New Year clean ups yet?

Need to start doing some positive things so read some ideas from AW's moms friends website.... said to run a bath for your spouse.

So with my own little twist here it is ....

Buy a decorative small colourful bottle with a cork. Write a nice love letter on a piece of paper with burnt corners. Roll the paper, put it in the bottle, insert the cork and throw it into a bath full of water, essential oils and bubbles. Your darling will be surprised not only by the bath, prepared for her, but also for a lovely letter.


Probably get some credit into the ol bank with that one <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

HAPPY NEW YEAR IDIOTVILLE!!!

Everyone MUST have a better year in 2005. That's an order!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I nursed my sons until they were 3. I was standing in line at the grocery store one day with my oldest in the grocery cart. He started unbuttoning my blouse and yelled out "Mom - give me a tit." </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTFLMAO!!!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by nikko:
<strong> i kinda figure its not what i do that night---its what i do with the whole year in front of me. and this is gonna be my year. that i have decided. yay for me!
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yay for you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I like this so much I'm going to steal it as my own!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />