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Jacob Two Two

Good Morning all.

RIF: I believe I was gone till you posted. I came on and was reading about 13 pages, I'd post a reply and then the last page would update. Then I get to the last page and Kiwi had just come on said about her son's friends accident. I felt so insensitive {{{KiwiJ}}}. So from now on I'll read all the pages, then reply.

Caren/Realtor: Welcome to I'ville. I didn't notice where anyone welcomed Caren.

Realtor I just went and read some your posts. {{{{{Realtor}}}}} Hang with us/MB and we'll help each other through these trying times.

Caren, if you didn't get the rules from Robby/Mayor. You need to give us 3 idiotic non-A related things you've done ANd get a job.

Robby is the Mayor, Jelly (Kyellow4) is the Queen/ town drunk, RIF is the city engineer, I'm commissioner of roads, Starz is our sniper, Believer is the warden, either Faithful Again or FightingAlone Again is our 411 information person, Fraggles was our bartender (but Robby took over that job as well), NotOnlyWords is the town psychologist, today I forget what Bob Pure is. Oh there's too many to remember. Help?

Bob Pure said: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I honestly think sometimes that the reason God didn;t let my Sitch get as bad as , say, yours is that I couldn't 've handled it. Your resilince staggers ame. Your faith humbles me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Bob, I said something like this to my FWW shortly after dday. He gives us what we can handle. Sometimes, it may not seem that way, but it's true.

Actually, my plan is for us to work on him getting the job. But it's the nature of us Idiots to have things gone awry. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

fighting,

I got to your post too late to read it, but feel free to email me at EDITED if you need a military spouse to talk to. Put your MB name on the title line, 'cause that's my email that I use for stuff that might collect SPAM and I don't want it buried with all the junk.

Dobie

Edited to keep my email from the SPAM harvesters.

<small>[ January 08, 2005, 09:50 AM: Message edited by: Dobie ]</small>

RH, Morning. So, true. I don't call it my resilience, though. I call it my determination to do everything in my power to save this marriage. Without losing myself. That is the proviso for me. And the other big one for me, is DD. Of course. WH is walking a VERY fine line and slipping daily on that one. So far, she seems to be handling it. BUt when I get there I will be able to tell better. I am trying to make lemonade out of lemons! Sometimes it works but if you forget the sweetener, it still is sour as he!!.

Hi Realtor, your wedding song was by Lionel Ritchie and Diana Ross. Just in case you ever want to buy it again. TT

Robby---You have mail. To make it easier, just respond here, unless no, then I'll be un-lazy and check my mail.

Dobie you have mail! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Ok, checking out till later. (Real football is coming on shortly.) Take care idiots.

Oh and btw, and there's no prizes today for whoever gets to page 400 first or post 6000. The mayor told me in an email, that the I-ville budget is severely cramped (or was that Brown)? or something like that. Maybe it was the queen....god save the queen.

L8r/RH

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">that the I-ville budget is severely cramped (or was that Brown)? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Out goes the coffee!!!
ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

Brown's a gonna kill me if she refreshes herself on the last few pages!!!!

Gotta go myself...Mom picking up the girls to stay overnight...brown and I have sopme cleaning to do, shopping, then some football to watch!

Have agreat weekend everyone!

RH hope that helped <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Robby best of luck! Be safe!

TT thank you I really want to get that album -will buy it today. I am proud of myself -staying here at office has kept me stronger -especially with all of your advice here -thank-you . Almost got lost in my thought back to reality. I plan on talking to WH tomorrow while at his Dad's and I am going to be very clear with him on his bullying and demands - I will not tolerate this behavior any further. This started a year ago and has made me feel like a small child again -my Mother was like this and abusive physicall and verbaly - it was like sinking into old long forgotton habits. WOW what a memory -to think I would ever slide back to that -and my exhusband was the same way -to think I wsa allowing my H to treat me this way. No more I am back and see myself and what haas taken place. No wonder i have felt so bad. I could bang my head against the wall. Thank-you MB and my friends here...Bless you

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Almost got lost in my thought back to reality.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't minimize your pain realtor--it's all very real. But it's also OK--you'll get through it!
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> No more I am back and see myself and what haas taken place. No wonder i have felt so bad. I could bang my head against the wall. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Use your energy to go sell some houses! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
Really, don't beat yourself up over this. Whatever "side of the fence" you are on, we *ALL* have to learn. Way to go on your outlook! YOU WILL BE OK!

Realtor,

Yeah, what Liny said!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Holy cow has hell frozen over?!?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

May need a new house in AZ soon.

Where are you?

I realize I can make it with or without him -I am the stronger in this relationship. I want to love him I really do its just that I do not like him or what he has done -he is deep in the fog. Although I think the A was already over that it had run its course. I still have not exposed the A but plan on it when he goes to MC with me - I will have the e-mail letters in a envelope for us to mail together on our way home. If he wants this marriage to work then he will mail them to OW H. If not then time for plan B. I will not live this way any more -he is either with me or not -not both. another question I need to ask but am afraid of the answer. My H jumped up in the middle of a move last Tuesday and said he was going to wash the house. We live with mildew here in the south. It was 4pm and I thought it strange for him to start at that time, but he said the wind finally stooped and I have to work the rest of the week. After 15 minutes he came running into the house into the shower -said I got the pool bleach on my privates. He only had it on the tip of his you know what and a little above his belt. I thought this was strange. He had a red rash and now as of last night blisters. Says it no longer hurts since Thurs am. Could this be herpes ? He did not have sex Tues am like we usually do when he has a day off. I am embaressed to have to ask but I have no knowlege of sex diseases..Stiil inocent at my age <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Thank you for the welcome...okay so 3 idiotic non A related things and a job? I have a job already...LMAO

I'll have to think about the 3 things though (I'm sure it won't take very long).

-Caren

realtor,

What does your women's intuition tell you about the "pool bleach?"

Before I found MB I downloaded an ebook by Katie Coston called "How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affair." One of the steps she recommended was to go get tested for everything and then share the results with your S. The idea being that they would then have one less thing to worry about, knowing. It was really hard, it sucked but I did it.

Anyway, I don't know how you would get pool bleach, or any other corosive agent, near your genitals. Story sounds a bit suspect to me.

I live in Ohio and we get a lot of ice/snow in the winter, one time I was cleaning off my car, it had a thick coating of ice....so I'm warming it up and trying to scrape it, and I notice there is also a layer of ice on my headlights, so I'm trying to scrape that off too....then I got the brilliant idea to "TAP" the headlight to break the ice......it did indeed break the ice, as well as the headlight LMAO

2 more? Sheesh, I'm having trouble with this...I'm sure I've done tons of idiotic things, I just can't remember them...LMAO

-Caren

Ahh the old chlorine on the genitals, huh? I don't think that would blister anything....I mean you'd seriously have to leave it on there for a while for it to make it blister, unless his skin is crazy sensitive.

I have a pool, and I've spilled chlorine on myself a million times, and I'm a red-head with pretty sensitive skin, and I've never blistered...granted, I have never spilled it on my privates, that might sting a little LOL (Oh I'm sorry, I DON'T have a pool....my WH has the pool, I moved out)

I would be at least suspicious. Oh hey can I just SAY I spilled chlorine on my unmentionables and use it as one of my idiotic things?? LOL

-Caren

Actually, pool bleach is supposed to be quite a bit stronger than household bleach, so I think it's plausable. Particularly if it's on his stomach. I don't think any STDs would cause blisters there.

Here's my obvious question. Was there bleach on his clothing? If that area of his clothing got messed up, it makes it much more likely.