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Alank -
I like to stick around here and let other folks know what NOT to do. I did everything wrong - was so distraught that I went with my emotions too much. As the Harley's say - that was exactly the WRONG thing to do.
So promise yourself that you are going to follow the program just like a robot. It feels miserable, but gives you the best chance to recover a great marriage.
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Alan hon...I know that you and I are BOTH praying that all this is true. I know I've seen so many successes here....and I know this is the only way....I'll be able to join ya in commiserating by tommorrow hon <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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I don't know if this is good or not, but I read an email my WW got from a friend, she recomended the book "His needs Her needs".
Is this something good, or is it about her OM. What do you think?
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Does not matter when it comes to OM. So do not worry about that. It is GOOD for you and your marriage though, because she is getting the right info.
The truth is always good!
In His arms.
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I don't suppose you happen to know what the friend's opinion on all of this is?
I think you're asking whether this email implies that she was talking to friend about you or OM, correct?
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All I know is that her friend recomended the book as it helped her out with her H.
I don't know if my WW was asking for advice on us, her OM or what, and beyond that I don't know anything...
I hope she gets the book and reads it, I hope it has something to do woth us.
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Did you go to the doctor?
Incidentally - I would stay away from Paxil if I were you.
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No I have not gone to the doctor yet. I have not had time today.
Am trying to go tuedsay.
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Alan,
Just bumping this up to check on you and let you know that we haven't forgotten you.
Ken
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Legato,
i am still here, I just don't have much to say. Nothing is new, it seems like my WW's OM is letting her down big time, yet she is not ready to let go.
I am just waiting to see what hapens next.
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OK. Good to hear from you. Hang in there.
<small>[ February 24, 2005, 09:25 AM: Message edited by: legato ]</small>
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ALAN-----HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS IS ONE OF HARLEY'S BOOKS!!! how are you doing? idiotville has been asking about ya---and with not knowing that book is one of harleys on saving marriages....you need to come back to i'ville!!!! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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nikko, I did know the book was a Harley. I don't think I explained it very well when I wrote that. I was just amazed someone had recomended that book to her. I pray that she takes the time to read it.
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Hello everyone.
Well just an update for you all. If my plan B is working, I am not aware of it. It seems like my WW's A is still going strong. She still calls me, but not as often now, her OM is still treating her poor, yet it seems to be ok with her. In her last message to me, she is happy with the way things are going right now, a very casual relationship with her OM and if I am unwilling to wait for her it is my tough luck!
Well I don't know what to think about anything anymore. I think my rollercoaster is starting to slow down, as she has said flat out she is happy with what she has now.
I must admit I was shocked to hear her leave that message.
But it is her choice. I am ready to go on without her in my life and I think that is a good thing. Anyway just came by to say hi to all.
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Alan-
Sorry she feels that way hon....hope you're doing well.
-Caren
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Thanks Caren, I am just doing the best that I can. I guess I will see where it goes from here.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> her OM is still treating her poor, yet it seems to be ok with her.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">she's a liar
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