Information keeps pouring in now that I have talked to my STBXH about divorce. He has used all kinds of tricks such as calling my mom to get him on his side. Crying to her and begging her to talk to me which bothers me because she is soft to tears. I am not anymore (at least to his tears). Today he sent 2 beautiful and expensive flower arrangements and a bottle of wine with chocolates

Digging around found out there has been others (OW). Now it makes sense why stuff I heard previously about OW did not fit the porfile of the current OW. It all falls into place. Not all were physical but he was around flirting and lending "a hand" to some "helpless" OW out there. Also complaning how miserable he was in our marriage. Hmm!

Now somehow he is begging and crying stay in his "miserable" marriage. Saying how much he is hurting and that now he understands the pain he put me through (does not even compares but he will have no clue). Saying how you do not know what you have until you loose it. Oh well.

Just venting out the new info. I told my parents already about the OW and will tell his parents soon. Love

Love,

That's awful, I'm so sorry <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I hope he's right, that you don't know what you've got until it's gone...that serves him right.

You're in my prayers hon,

-Caren

Hello Love,

I too feel for you as I know what your talking about. During the past 3.5 months my WW has been with three different men. She is now on OM#3, only the first I know for sure was PA, the second I'm fairly certain and can only assume the 3rd is as well. I know your pain.

Since your just venting let me say again that I feel for you.

Native

Thanks Caren and Native. It is good to receive your support.

Do not feel bad for me. I messed my plan B a few times and I am at a point were the feelings for my STBXH had changed greatly. Almost feeling sorry for him more than anything. I still have "a love" for him but not in love anymore so any new additional information on his A does not kill me anymore as in the beggining.

I am not happy the way things turned out either because I did wanted to save what I thought we had together but too many chances were given, to many times heard the same things over and over but saw the same results over and over too.

I just do not have the strenght needed to keep working on the M. I will use the strenght left to move on, find a job again and be happy with my DS.

Thanks for listening again, Love

Love,

I can totally relate to what your saying. Although it's been really a short period of time for me I feel that I gave it my all during the past 3 month during my Plan A. Since my WW has moved out and bascially abandoned me and the kids I've let her go also. Kind of a weird Plan B for me. However I don't really care who my WW is with anymore, she can't hurt me if I don't let her right?

Sounds like your at the begining of a new adventure to find the new and improved L.O.A.L.

Good luck,
Native

Thanks Native!

New year! New choices! New life!

Love

Just to let you know, You are not alone. And sometimes things do work out, sometimes not, but don't think that it is anything that you did or didn't do