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My counsellor gave me some advice yesterday, and I know he is right, but I am resistant to take it. My WW/STBXW has told me her IC has given her advice that she knows is right, but has yet to follow. I am just wondering if this is normal. MIF? feeling down and out today... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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MIF....I think it's a combination of things.
Look how many people here at MB resist the MB program, or certain aspects of it (me included)! Even though they've seen it work for others, they still think they're somewhat unique or their situation is unique (me included)!
Part of us still thinks we know ourselves better than an IC or any other person would and that's why it might hurt to follow their advice, especially if it might hurt.
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MIF,
You want to hear my theory on that syndrome? The heart and mind are not in sync. Therefore, listening to good advice or counsel may not have the desired effect.
We know the words and unstand the definition and meaning, yet we are resistant to application. Yep, happens all the time.
Who suffers? The one who chooses not to apply what is good for them. C/b: student, child, patient, client, co-workers, boss, employee, friend, relative, parent, sibling, etc.
JMHO,
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Yeah, ya know what, I've had a couple counselors...haven't followed advice that either one gave me....neither one were 'marriage based' and basically wanted to help me get through my DIVORCE...that I didn't want, so I dropped both of 'em......luckily I went to see them by myself first before I took WH in there. I have yet to find one that is marriage based and that my insurance will pay for.
Ken.....do what your counselor tells you damn it..LMAO
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aislinn, You're right. Most here resist the exposure part of plan A and it is a HUGE part of that plan. orchid, I agree that my heart and mind are not in synch. My mind is telling me my counsellor is right, but my heart is resisting that truth. MIF? <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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Caren, I know I should. I just can't make that decision just yet. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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So MIF, You wanna know how or when your mind and heart will sync up? It's a matter of when not if. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> L.
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Ken-
Oh you know I'm just kiddin' ya........I just thought it'd be funny to tell you to do what the counselor says, when I don't do what mine says, and have dumped 2 of 'em.....I'm a little hard on those social worker types...LMAO
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Ummm Red, doesn't Nike have dibs on that slogan...LOL
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by CarenMc: <strong> Ummm Red, doesn't Nike have dibs on that slogan...LOL -Caren </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah ... but I stole it for my personal view <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> . When you know that you are going to do the right thing ... JUST DO IT. When you know that you are going to do the wrong thing ... keep procastinate <sp> and self talk yourself out of it. It works for me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .
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I agree Red, but in these situations it's not always easy to discern what's "Right"...ya know?
I guess you do what you have to do, and try not to do anything you'll regret later. I've done a few things I'll live to regret, but for the most part I try to avoid doing that.
-Caren
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