Okay, Plan B doesn't officially start until tommorrow, but I am trying to mentally prepare myself for all this.

I know it's going to be so hard to do this, I have anxieties about it, but I know that this is the only way.

I wanted to put these Boys II Men lyrics down, that sorta summarize how I'm feeling.

IT'S SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.

I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

I don't know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through.

If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth all the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.

Well that's it for today I think....unless something earth shattering happens. I will post tommorrow probably before I actually deliver the letter and after....as I'll probably be having a nervous breakdown *sigh*

-Caren

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I think you need to hear I am woman let me roar song. You go girl this is war and you will come out the winner !!! I for one believe in you. I cheer you ON. You are smart , strong, and beautiful You go girl. Keep posting. Everyone here will help you.

Caren,

psssst! shhhh! Don't tell anyone this, but there are certain times when I can predict the future, and this is one of 'em...

Keep yer chin up, and a smile on your face, would ya? ...'cuz everything's gonna be ok! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

tqt-

Thanks, there are certain times I can also....but never with myself....that sucks, eh?

-Caren

Hi Caren, I am here for you right now. Don't know how much help I will be but I am thinking of you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">there are certain times I can also....but never with myself....that sucks, eh?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No, no, no... it's MUCH safer practicing on someone else <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I kept getting someone speaking to me at 4am over these last few years telling me H was having an A. Think it was deceased MIL -Woke me up every day. Thanks MOM. Wish you had told who, what and where. Just a woman's voice saying wake up he is having an affair.

Caren, you've come so far... can you see it?

You can do this! Be tough. You've shown him your ability to improve as a partner and to forgive him. Time for some "wrathful compassion". Do not cut him any slack! It's time to declare, officially, that you do not excuse and won't reward him for this behavior.

You've earned the moral authority to do this. You're a warrior now! Paint your face and send the letter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

GC

Grey is a very wise person Caren. I think you are amazing and you have always been in my corner. Be the warrior...

I like that..

I am actually hand delivering my WH's PBL, and sending the one to his OW. I will send her's out today, so she shouldn't get it until Monday or Tuesday.

I am going to go to his work (He's always there) and take him into the back room, I'm going to take his hands and tell him to take care of himself, give him a kiss, hand him the letter, and walk out.

I am sure within minutes of me returning home, he'll be calling......I won't answer, and if the kids don't answer he'll be leaving message after message on my machine...."CAREN!! Pick up the phone."

So we shall see, but I want to give it to him still in a *loving* way.

He better get his behind over here tonight...I need me some SF one more time LMAO

-Caren

Caren, I'm worried a little.

Do you know how important it is to avoid contact in plan B? Do you realize that just seeing your face, or getting the smallest kindness from you, will be all it takes to keep him from having to face the reality of his choices?

We're talking dark, dark, dark. IMs, phone calls, booty calls, domestic favors, all gone. Gone, gone, gone. He will not get a vision of life without you unless he is truly without you.

And he's going to have to fight and make sacrifices if he wants to have you back in his life. Don't accept a half-hearted gesture.

And don't doubt that you're doing the right thing, or that it's the right time. You are, and it is.

GC

Caren - God be with you ,as are my thoughts. Be strong, and work this thing.

I'm pulling for you...

David

Caren, are you ok?

Gray-

Don't worry, I realize that Plan B means no contact....NOTHING. He will get none of me. No phone calls, no gestures kind or otherwise, definitely no booty calls...which is why I was trying to get one last one tonight..LOL. I'll be okay Gray, I've got a safeguard system planned out here....I will do NOTHING until I post it here, Not pick up the phone, not drive by his house, not let him in my house NOTHING, until I run it by you....so you guys can keep me on the right track.

David-
Thank you for the prayers, you're in mine also.

tqt-

I'm good hon, thanks for asking though...you can tell me again how you feel like it's going to be fine though if you want to....LOL, I could take hearing that about 3 times a day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren

Caren, just want to say I'm pulling for ya! You have given me a lot of advice and I have appreciated it so much.
Not just to me directly,but in your responses to others. You are a WONDERFUL person!! Don't you forget that.
I am not to plan B yet but I give you so much credit for being able to walk into his work and give him the letter.
You are so strong and I admire that.

"GO PLAN B!!"

Suzy

Suzy-

Thank you, I appreciate it!! Yeah, I'm the bold type......now it's the keeping dark that's gonna give me the problems....I'll do it, with the help of all of you, but I know that kicking my addiction is gonna be hard. I have faith in God though, and faith in me.

-Caren

Dear Caren,

You are so strong, good luck on your Plan B. It sounds like you have the right mindset. That is what it is going to take. I will keep you in my prayers also.

Coming here for support is the best thing next to your faith in God.

God Bless!
Suzanne

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">LOL, I could take hearing that about 3 times a day </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What?! Hey, NOW you're pushin' it!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Caren,

I wish you nothing but the marriage you deserve, if it is God's will for WH to wake up, then IT IS DONE, and you shall have the marriage you always wanted.

Just remember that God's timing is perfect, and our timing is usually NEVER perfect, but do not fret, He is always working, even when you can't see it.

I'm learning that first hand.

From my heart i wish you all the luck on your Plan B journey.
Yes carenmac this is the second Plan B.

It is most deffinitely needed I totally feel like a doormat. Very scared nervous and shaking i know you are there girl.

Be strong i read all your posts.

It is so easy to see what other people should do but to actually do it yourself you think you know better but you dont.

Be strong