Yes, My wife is home, and I am praising the Lord.

I need a good example NC letter we can give OM.

Thanks

I am so happy for you. What a wonderful Valentine's Day memory!

We used the exact letter in Surviving an Affair. Do you have a copy of the book?

Maybe there's a letter somewhere on this site if you do a Search.

{{{Hosea}}}

I am so happy for you. But beware too. This is the beginning ... not the end of recovering.

My own STBX is the waffle King, or I mean Princess, or rather Queen.

But Hey, it is a good thing. I don't want to rain on your parade. Make a plan together and work your plan. Don't let things gravitate to the way they were before the A. Both of you have to make changes. And you will need a competent Counselor to help guide you.

{{Hosea}}

I am smiling inside and out for you.

TJ

PS. As happy as you may feel. Can you imagine how happy your kids are going to be if you can pull off a sucessful recovery <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ February 14, 2005, 02:40 PM: Message edited by: Tom Joad ]</small>

Hosea,

While I am happy to hear she is home, I still recommend you exercise caution.

Here's the link to the NC sample letters:

No Contact Sample Letter thread

When you can, let us know how you are doing.

L.

Enjoy what you are experiencing right this minute.

However, having been through 2 and almost 3 false recoveries, I certainly would agree with the need for caution.

Along with the NC letter, spend as much time as possible together and seal all possible lines of communication with the OM. This will include cell phones and E-Mail, changing numbers and addresses.

oh God...

spill it hosea.....
and somebody pick me up off the floor.....

ARK <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Well I'll be double dipped!

What a nice valentine. As TJ said, how wonderful for your kids!

Hosea! This is wonderful news. Keep up the good work and keep us posted.

I too am hoping for a Valentine's miracle but my miracles are running thin these days. We will see.

God bless,
Keith

I'll say it over and over again...I love Plan B!!

Great job! But since I am in recovery, after one false recovery...I can tell you that the work now begins!! It will take a little while for things to settle down. get her to send NC letter ASAP.

Then make an appointment with SH or someone liek that IMMEDIATELY!! As Just Learnign told me when it was my turn...this recovery studd is NOT for amateurs.

She will be scared and withdrawn at times. You, as things settle down, will find the anger of what she has done coming up. Talk about this now so that both of you are aware.

The two things I have learned now is that both of you MUST be committed no matter what, and both of you need to cut the other a break. That means dont freak out if she is feeling withdrawn or a bit foggy. Let her just have that moment or day. And she needs to cut you a break when you need reassurance, or the anger comes up.

Get her on here once you know this is for real. there are some great FWWs on here who can help walk her thru what we BSs have no idea they are going thru.

Anyway, I had bet that you were the next MB success. But you are not out of the woods yet. Get help now, get the NC letter out...and start your next plan (yes, you need a recovery plan!!).

By the way...tell us what happened today.

Great job! You relied on the Lord. Stay there...He is still working.

In His arms.

<small>[ February 14, 2005, 03:56 PM: Message edited by: Mortarman ]</small>

WONDERFUL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

((((((((((Hosea))))))))))))))

That's fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!! Did your Plan B go smoothly? I'm apparently F-ing mine all up by day 2.....go me!! LOL

Doing damage control though.

Can you give me a link to your Plan B story????

Congratulations Hosea!!!!!!!!!!

-Caren

Thank you everyone, I was not in Plan B, I had planned to go there after the mediation. Thank the Lord, it was not needed.