I know WH knows I read this message board, but I don't know if he has ever come over and read anything. So, dear WS, if you are reading this now, I know that you were not 'all by yourself with no distractions to think things over' this weekend. I can't wait for you to come back today so I can let you dig yourself in a further hole. I hope you two enjoyed yourselves.

BTW, I know it's raining cats and dogs out there this morning, but u need to make arrangements to leave me the car. If me and u could live and function with one car, then so can you and her.

I will not be signing my name to anything else with you unless it is divorse papers. So get a lease car on your own. I will take our son to school evey day. Don't forget, Tues is your daughters B-day. Don't ruin two birthdays in a row for her. Sat. she will have her party with her friends. After that time, we can tell the kids together who life will change. We can work on that this week.

Good-Bye

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doneinfl

You are in a lot of pain today I see. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> My heart goes out to you. Keep in mind he is 40 and she is 21 - how long can that last? And, he should be ashamed of himself not just for having an affair but with someone that is young enough to be his daughter.

Things will get better either way. My guess is he will come crawling back to you.

Sorry, I mean he is 43! Yes, it will not last long.

Yep, alot of pain, but thru it all, I see so much more clearly now. I don't want him back and I also think you are right. He will come crawling back. But he has had two solid months while living under my roof to figure out that the A had to end. TWO MONTHS while me and the kids sat here waiting ever so patiently for HIS decision. Well, I just made it for him.

Your emotions I am sure are shatterd. I too tried the waiting game for months and it just got worse and worse. (If you see my story, you will read that my WS is deep in a fantasy affair).

Be prepared for when he comes back. Make yourself strong and have a plan. Maybe you are ready for Plan B?

Tell me about his "new love". Do you know anything about her? Do some investigating if it makes you feel better. Again, how long can it last? Then it will be his turn to hurt!

Hang in there. Take things slow.

Keep posting or email bhinwi@hotmail.com

DIF,

Hugs to you. It's raining like heck in my part of FL too. But I love the rain.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But he has had two solid months while living under my roof to figure out that the A had to end. TWO MONTHS while me and the kids sat here waiting ever so patiently for HIS decision. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I lived that hell too. Living there knowing everyday what she's doing, trying to keep a decent face, trying not to be too horribly disrespected.

Those kinds of wounds take alot of TLC to heal.

What I would say to you DIF is keep working on yourself. Always work on yourself. That is the only person you can control.

Sometimes you get these feelings that you can't go on. And then you rebound and keep moving on. As those feeling increase in frequency, eventually. It just happens you can't go on, you can't rebound. For each person it is different.

Just know these things about yourself. THINK before acting, I know it is hard sometimes. Emotions are broiling inside you.

Your WH is a self-absorbed, selfish person now, he cares only for what makes him feel good at the moment. The only consideration you can expect from him for you or your children stops whenever it interfers with what he wants.

Take care of yourself DIF.

Heck take a walk in the rain today. Maybe we'll pass each other on the street.


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Thanks for the ear.
Well, lets see. I know she is 21 and on a visa pass thing from Russia. I know she quit the job when they both worked. My WH is in jeopardy of losing his job there. (Fair or not) I know where she lives though unless he is reading this, they don't know. Don't really care either way. I don't THINK she is pregnant, though it wouldn't surprise me. Hmmm, really that's about all I know. I know she drives a black echo.

Oh Tom, you do know how I feel.
I'm close to St. Pete. Where are you?

Done, please go over and get your car. You and the kids need that car!

Hi Doneinfl,
I don't really know your story, maybe you changed your name. If d day was in january, have you thought of going to plan B instead of D?

I know I do. He is supposed to come over in a 'little while' DS just talked to him. I'm about to get a shower and then get my game face on. Like I said, I plan on having him get her to pick his butt up in the rain so he can leave me the car.

DIF, me too <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> just north of SP.

You seem to have a rough day ahead of you. Be careful not to make it harder on yourself. Always take the high road, even with someone who has caused you so much pain.

Set some boundries. Be realistic.

Most of all. Take care of your family. Your WH will not do it and can not be trusted. Do the things you need to do to protect them. That means financially, emotionally, socially.

You do need that car. Be careful not to make it a Pi$$ing contest between you and your WH. Things could get out of hand/control.

Remember to think. Breath, think, think, think, breath, think, think, speak, listen, listen, listen, repeat as necessary.

Yes, this morning I changed my name. It used to be drainedinfl. My BIL is bringing his son over for me to watch for a while. Why? I think so that he can go talk to WH. He won't come out and say. I plan on asking him when he gets here. Do I tell him to tell WH anything? Like just hi or don't bother it's already over?

done, is this a good time for you to be babysitting? Why not talk to your BIL when he comes over and explain the situation to him. In the meantime, I would make sure that you end up with the car, no matter how you achieve that. Do you realistically think he will give it over willingly?

DIF ?

How are things?