Why don't men forgive and forget like women do?

I had an affair while my husband was in jail. I'm not doing it now, (since he's gotten back home-in March)but I did tell him that I'd do it again if it was the right circumstances.

He won't have sex with me the way that I prefer-because he doesn't want to get me pregnant (the only ways that he will give sex to me is anally or orally (maybe even 'fondle' me).

98% of the time he doesn't show me any affection. I've talked to my neighbor about this and she thinks that it's wrong. I KNOW IT IS!! Do you?

Someone please give me some feedback about this situation.


He says that he's a Christian. But would a Christian be doing this?