I recently found out my husband payed a fee to a "adultfriendfinder" site. When i confronted him he told me it was all for fun that he heard it on Howard stern and he wanted to check it out. Well after i confronted him he said it did not mean anything to him and he would not do it anymore. Well needless to say i found out he is still going. I knew he was still going to the site and it was confirmed this weekend but he does not know i know. This is a site where you can rate woman and send them winks. Well he has sent some woman winks and there is about 10 woman in his email that have sent him winks. Which is just a form of saying i am intrested. So he lied to me. I am going nuts over this and don't know what to do. I never thought he would lie to me and he did. Just looking for a little advice. My girlfriend gave me this site for this kinda of stuff. I am looking forward to all advice. please give me what ya got. [color:"red"] [/color]

how come noone won't give me any advice. Hope i am doing all of this right.. I am new to the board.

So sorry about your H and that you had to find out like that. I'd confront him. Here's a page on the MB site that addresses infidelity. It's long but very helpful: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5060_qa.html

It advocates bringing the A out in the open and radical honesty. You need to find out of course if your H has just been flirting or hi he's actually met an OW and had a PA.

Ok, thanks i will check it out and see if it helps me.. i think i am very bitter right now so not sure what is going to help me at this point. I need to calm down and get a grip first.

Kelly,

You may get more responses if you post in the Infidelity section (BTW going to websites to flirt with women IS infidelity).
Try General Questions II section - it gets tons of traffic. You'll get plenty of good advice there.

Frags

Thank you Fraggles.