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Hi Everyone! I am back...posted here before...I will refresh my story. I found out that my husband of 18 yrs. was having an affair. It has been about 8 months now...to make a long story short...I left and moved back to my home state about 6 hrs. away from where I live now. And because of the advice I recieved here I moved back home about a week and a half ago. All the while I was gone my husband told me he missed me and still loved me while still seeing her and bringing her into my home around my teenage daughters. A few days before I came home I had a conversation with my husband on the phone...I asked him what he would do if I came home and he told me he didn't know...but also said I never said I didn't miss you. Well when I got here with my son whom he hadn't seen for a month...he had packed all of his stuff and moved out with her. Talk about heart broken! But two days after I came home he came here and made love to me...after wards he was very angry...don't know why I didn't force him to do it...as a matter of fact he started it. Now he won't even talk to me...and is trying everything in hs power to move her into my space...taking her places that we used to go every weekend. I don't know what to do...have I completely lost my husband of 18 yrs. If anyone has any suggestions please help! Thanks.
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Hi,
So sorry about this turn of events.
I don't think I have a lot of great advice for you, but I would certainly not give up hope. It sounds as though your H is being manipulated by the OW.
Can you have a dialogue with him about where your relationship, your family is going? Can you schedule a meeting?
I am sure those with greater experiebce will chime in soon, but good luck and blessings.
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A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04
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Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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she has got him under lock and key...I think a meeting at this point is out of the question...I know he still loves me other wise how could he sleep with me? I am just so lost that I am ready to just file for a divorce...but I don't think that I can do that without the marriage certificate which he has every excuse in the book for not giving me. thanks for your input.
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