If any of you are in to watching Dr. Phil, the "trailer" for the explosive show airing in two weeks is indeed about my story.

I saw that today! You are the wife? Oh my...I will be watching that one.

I hope you are o.k....you have been through A LOT just from the few seconds I saw.

I haven't seen the preview clip yet. How long ago was this taped? How did you feel about going on Dr Phil? I bet it was pretty scary! Was he at all helpful?

M&L-yes I am the wife. Nerly- it was taped at the beginning of March. I was extremely nervous to be on there, but also at that particular time was extremely pissed because I had learned the night before taping that the A was still going on. I was under the assumption that it had been over for at least 3 months. Dr. Phil was very helpful. I feel that had we not gone on the show we'd be D now because H's behaviors would have continued and I was to the point of being done. There will be a follow up show aired a week or so after these. We haven't taped it yet but are soon. H and I are doing wonderful BTW.

Hi Michele,

I'm very glad to hear everything is going well for you! We'll definitely look for this episode. Take care.

Thanks Lost. Hope you and Mrs. Lost are doing okay. We haven't heard an update from you for a while (at least I haven't seen anything posted) Let us know how you are!

Sorry for threadjacking

WOW! I have not seen the show or the preview, but that is awesome that DR Phil has been able to help you and your marriage. I actually wrote imto the show to try and get help for my marriage. I got an a mail back that requested more information and a family picture. I responded immediately, but never got anything else back. I feel I have tried everything I can possibly thinkof to help save my family. Is there anything specific you have learned that you did not know before working with Dr Phil? Any advice or help?
God Bless,
Stormy

Stormy, just to let you know...People often think that after being on the show that they get to "work" with Dr. Phil himself...you DONT...the guests only get to meet/speak to/ and interact with Dr. Phil ON STAGE...that is it...He is a very busy man...and we were supposed to meet with him our last show, but he had to get to a promo immediately...

You are offered counseling outside the show in your home town or phone counseling, but it is not done with Dr. Phil...what you see on TV is what actually happens...aside from a few comments on stage during the break, you dont get to talk to him...unfortunately that is TV for you!

Thanks for the info. They never ended up picking us in the end anyway. That makes since. I just figured that maybe there was a chance that Dr Phil could get through to my Husband. I even thought that maybe just admitting everything to everyone would help him wake up and start doing the right things. I have heard of people who try things like that just have a light bulb turn on for them, something snaps and they really get it. I was praying for that miracle for us. I just keep trying to make thinsg beter, in evry way that I can think of and in the very end they never are any better.

Stormy, If you REALLY want to get on the show, I would keep writing in...different producers pick up different shows...it's just a matter of getting in at the right moemnt...The first time I wrote in, I was picked up immediately...we were working with a producer, but then H backed down...then the second time I wrote in, I was picked up immediately as well....I thought "you have got to be kidding me"

did it wake my H up? absolutely NOT! It just EXPOSED it more! H was not phased one single bit! Dr. Phil is a very in your face guy and tells you like it is...He is a wonderful human being and I do believe he genuinely cares for ME as a person...for my H...well, he does care, but he thinks he is too lost...I did not go back a 4th time as they wanted me too...just too much turmoil in my life and I really dont think it is doing anyone any good....

I think in Micheles case it DID wake her H up...and I HOPE that the show will help them...

Just keep writing them stormy if you REALLY want to go on there...BUT I must warn you...it is a LOT of work..taping, flying out there, doing the show, the B roll....it is down right exhausting! worth it? Not for me!

I went a little while ago for a taping. If you think trying to get on stage is difficult, imagine waiting outside in a wind tunnel of an alley, noisy and freezing cold. The crew that works on the show wears blue blazers, white pants, and - get this: long johns under their uniforms, as well as GLOVES. It was a day with some sunshine, and we kept migrating to the sunny patches. You wait there for over an hour before being lined up to go inside and wait.

Is it warm inside? No, it isn't. You can almost see you breath. They do have a table with urns of hot water and hot coffee and light snacks. But you sit on ice cold metal folding chairs, waiting to be called into the main studio and be coached on audience behavior.

If you ever go in the audience, wear uggs on your feet, long underwear under your clothes, carry wool gloves and keep a woolen shawl in your bag. Carry plenty of kleenex, because the cold will make your nose run.

To kill time, you are invited to write suggestions for future shows on these little green half sheets of paper. One wag wrote "frostbite" on her sheet.

Since there is a long wait, my friend and I took turns leaving the hangar sized deep freeze to warm up outside in the pools of sunlight, or run our hands under the hot water faucet in the ladies room. I slipped my pumps off my feet and stood them up on a bench, placed so that the sun would warm their linings up, and put them back on my feet to be warm for a little bit.

The actual show is extremely engaging. The set is also cold, but because of the lighting the chill burns off a bit. Dr. Phil is a consumate showman whose personality does more to warm up the room than the lights. I'm a fan forever after being in the audience. He really "cares," and the thing that impressed me most was that his wife Robin is in the audience with him, and they walk out hand-in-hand together.

Until you actually are seated in the audience, time drags. From then on, you are totally involved.

Do you know when your show will air?

sitting up on stage it isn't any warmer! matter of fact each and every show, Dr. Phil pionts out how cold it is in there once we get up on stage! WE as the guests on teh show, dont get to go outside...we come from upstairs, straight downstairs into the, what you are calling the waiting area...this is AFTER all the audience is seated...we sit back there FREEZING while we get miked up and then we get to listen to all the audience get revved up...then, and this is what is reallly, really hard...we sit back there and watch the first few seconds of the show before we are taken out to the stage..

MIchele this is going to be very hard for you next week...The last show I was on, I was balling backstage...when I got up to the stage Dr. PHil hugged me and told me how sorry he was for everything..he calmed me down quite a bit before I turned around and faced the audience...But I was still crying and you can see the tears in my eyes...It is actually fun sitting back there listening to them coach the audience....but you KNOW when it is almost time...They offer you water, breath mints, and tell you to BREATHE!

Do youknow how cold it is in there? 45 degrees! You can actually see me on the second show or maybe the third one trying to warm myself up... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

I just saw you on TV...YOU GO GIRL! I didnt' know the OW was ON THE SHOW! I thought she was just speaking...WOW! I cannot wait to see the show

When is it set to air? Exactly?

I would like to see it.

I have to arrange my schedule to see Dr phil so i never see the previews of what is to come.

april 28th and 29th...there is also a prime time special that airs in may...two actualy...May 4 and May 20th...

April 28th and 29th!! Wheww,,just checked my calendar and I'll be home those days! I finally saw the preview too and was VERY suprised to see the xOW on the show also.

Sooo,,,Michele, what happened after the show or on the show to make your H finally see the light?

Hi, Mommy to 3 Boys- you said it did not help your HUsband? Do you feel it helped you feel better or deal with the problems better? I feel so depressed and down. It is like I am addicted to my HUsband even though he can treat me terrible, cheat, use drugs, etc. If my HUsband won't get better at least I would like to get stronger.

Sorry I haven't been around in a few days. Been very, very busy and on top of all of my craziness had to report for Jury Duty yesterday! Thank God I didn't get selected. Anyway, Nerly you asked what made H see the light. H knew before the show that what he was doing was wrong but didn't know how to change/ fix it. He was the one who actually wrote in to the show for help. We were at the bottom of the barrel with no way to escape. IC has helped tremendously, so has studying Dr. Phil's book Self Matters (which I'd recommend to any and all). It's amazing the "factors" that go in to why people do the things they do. H is having to dig deep into his childhood but it's wonderful that he can pull these things out and work through them instead of suppressing them and covering up with inappropriate behaviors. We've really learned alot and it's really been a wonderful thing, as much as it hurts.

And I'm with Mto3B, it's freakin' freezing on that stage!!!

Michelle, Thanks for sharing. I started the book Self Matters. It started talking about how he was not really happy with his job even though he made good money and had a great family. His situation seemed so awesome and wonderful to ours. I could not relate and never finished the book. After reading your ppost maybe I'll go back and read the 2nd chapter.

Saw you today Michelle. You totally rocked!

Can I just say, I wanted to step thru and slap OW.

Of course it's effing exciting right at that moment...she's doing something wrong....

Her sister was uber pissed at the sitch, too.

Why in the world did she not want to show her face...it wasn't like the whole of your town can't figure it out....

ARGH!

Anywho - you were grace and poise all rolled into one. I was so proud of you!

- Kimmy