Hey Miss M - I see you around every once in a while. How are you doing? I never see 3 anymore. I know y'all email. Is she OK? I took a break for a while - nothing was working for me and I sure didn't have anything worthwhile to add to the boards. If you talk to 3 let her know I asked about her and I hope to see you ladies more often here. I've missed y'all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

TooOldForThis,

Hey girl, so glad to hear from you. Tried to edit my first post to you and got bumped off the new site.

Anyway, here is my second try.

Gosh, it is so wonderful and <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> that anyone would even mention my name on this website. Thank you so much for caring. This means more to me than you know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Anyhoo, my last post was on the recovery board. It wasn't pretty. 3 was kind enough to respond. I had asked for a Christian response and did not get what I expected from the person I asked help from. You KNOW I have been all about the LORD. That I have encouraged people and told them they are WORTHY. Hey, have I told you YOU are WORTHY lately? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />The result was a question of whether I loved Christ, and if I was lamenting 'yet another problem'. Needless to say I have been reluctant to say what has been happening with me.

So, do you want an update? I can post it here, or you can email me at [email]Ayers8853@aol.com.[/email]

3, girlfriend, where are you? You have been on me like whiteonrice, whats up with you?

TOFT, I really want to hear what is goin on with you. Thanks for this thread, let me know what is up with you.

I have lots of news <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> if you want to know, just tell me.


Thanks soooo much for caring. {{{{{hugs!!!!}}}}}

And 3, where the heck are you? WHATISUP?? I miss you TOFT, and I miss you 3.

Love in Christ,
(and I DO love Christ) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Miss M

I hope you girls don't mind my intrusion, but I really was touched by Miss M's response here.

First of all, I wanted to say I always read whatever you write Miss M. I think you are wonderful. Part of the reason I keep coming back here (as my sitch is no longer painful to me and I'm doing really good personally) is the connection I feel when reading about and talking with other women of the caliber who post here. The kind of women I wish I were friends with in my own life.

Second thing I wanted to say is that there are people posting here from all different faiths, and even with no faith at all. And to be made to feel ashamed to the point where they are not comfortable talking here is just not right.

We can't let that stop us/others from posting our problems and in the language of our own faith or the board will become one where only Fundalmentalist Christians are allowed to speak with reference to their religion.

I'm tired of reading Christians get bashed because someone feels their level of faith is not deep enough. I am also tired of hearing other faiths/religions get bashed because they are not Christian.

I know in my heart that this is not what God wanted of us and I find it very upsetting.

Vent over. And take care ladies!

Miss M, I read your post on recovery. I'm so sorry these things throw our thoughts back where we definitely don't want to have to go. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I just don't get it sometimes. It's not like we're asking for the world -- just a little respect for our feelings and for what we've gone through. I hope things are getting resolved on that issue.

I am so happy to hear that you've stopped with the wine. Keep it up-you know you can now-and you'll feel so much better.

I don't know where to start with my update. Perhaps I'd better do a backwards update - starting with current news. My H was diagnosed with prostate cancer about a month or so ago and is having surgery on Wednesday. He's really been in a turmoil over that and is worried he's not doing the right thing, worried about the work on the boats and the time off he'll have to take. I've worried over the long hours he's putting in. I don't want him to go for surgery in an exhausted state. And, I have to admit--those long hours are a trigger for me still.

So, Miss M, remember us and I'll post when I can. And you KNOW I want to know ALL the news, gossip and general chit chat! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Weaver, you're more than welcome to "intrude" on this thread any time you want. The more the merrier I always say!

Now, 3 I know you can hear us HOLLERING!

TOFT,

So good to hear from you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


Am truely sorry to hear about your H. I will be prayining for his recovery. I'll be praying for you too, you need a lot of strength right now. Just remember to take a little time for youself now and then to regain your strength! My father and brother both had cancer, and I took care of my dad, so I know how it goes. Sending lots of huggss your way.

Have got a lot to update, don't know where to start. I still have some issues <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> with the wine, but for the most part, I am keeping my monster on a leash !! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I have much more, but alas no time at the moment. I am working an extra shift at work these days, and am still trying to adjust to a new schedule. NOT what I wanted.

WEAVER,

Thanks for your response. You have always helped me out in your responses to me. It is nice to be validated. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

How have you been? How is your DD?

Well? 3isacrowd? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Hope you are okay, let us know what's up if you can figure out the new board, I'm still workin on it.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Oh TOFT,

I am so sorry for your husband too. Might be a wake up call though, so he will be forced to slow down a bit. Not always a bad thing, eh? Is it early stage with a good prognosis?

Miss M,

My DD and I are doing great. She is back with me for these four months so life is good. We have started counseling and instead of focusing the counseling on the communication problems between her dad and I, the counselor is focusing on getting DD to focus on herself. He supposedly works with kids in split homes and sees the problem as them not being able to keep their focus on themselves. He will start seeing my ex alone in a few weeks, but sees DD and I together now as she is with me.

Thank you for asking MissM and take care!

MissM,

I wanted to say also about the wine, you say you are keeping it in check. This is good. You know what I started doing now when I do drink wine is to mix half soda water and half wine, adding ice as well sometimes. It really cuts the calories in half and the level of intoxication, as wine makes you really tired.

I still work out after work and keep really busy during the trigger times for me so by the time I want a glass of wine it is almost bedtime and then mixing it half with soda water even furthers cuts down the amount I drink.

I wondered how you were doing with this.

There is a website with a forum that I like to read (I haven't posted on it though) called "wequitdrinking". Might want to check it out. I'll get the addy if you can't find it doing the google search.

Just a quick update - H's surgery was postponed due to an abnormal blood reading-they're doing more tests before they re-schedule.

It is early-stage, microscopic cells but they're there and it's scary.

Thank you ladies for your support.

TOFT,

Hey, it is a good thing to be safe rather than sorry. So it is good that more tests need not go on before they proceed.

However, I know that this is a stressful time for your and your H. If it was me, and it HAS been me, I would want whatever needs to be done to be done yesterday!!!!! I would want to know why everyone is taking their time, cause this is cancer, it needs to be dealt with now, and I mean NOW!!! Enough of that vent. LOL.

Anyway, I really prayed about this, and for you, please hang in there, and don't let it take over your life. Enjoy what you can with your H right now. This is important.

Can I have permission to update on your thread? I am sure you want to hear anything besides what is at the fore front of your life right now. Just want to know if it is okay. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

So... I emailed 3 and so far she has not read it. That is all I know.

Love you girl, hang in there, my prayers are a comin' your way.

God bless you hon. You and weaver can email me anytime you want at [email]Ayers8853@aol.com.[/email]

I'm there for you girl. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

When will they have the tests back TOFT?

It is scary but also a blessing it was caught early.

My younger bro's wife has ovarian cancer (5 years now) she goes in and out of remission, but is out and back in treatment now. It has been almost as hard on him as it has been on her, so I know what you say about being very scary.

You need to start walking TOFT. I read on mimi's thread you say you don't walk, I think that's what you said, right? Well you start taking walks to calm your spirit and give you energy. You hear???????

Weaver - The doctor said it would take 2-3 days to get the results of the tests so I imagine it will be next week before we know what the plans are. I hate this waiting again. While they were testing and examining and doing the biopsy I just never thought that it would be cancer. We were both shocked!

Miss M, of course you can use this thread to update. I'm looking forward to hearing what's been going on since we left off. This can be an all-purpose thread. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Oh, and about the walking...yep I need to do that. I used to walk more and it did energize me. I've been slacking the past year and I've been depressed and getting fatter (ugh!) That's why I joined the Goddesses. It's all about becoming the best ME I can be regardless of what else is going on. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

toft,

Hey, got an email from 3, she has computer probs and asks that I give you her email addy, so if you will email me at my email addy above on this thread, she would love to reply to you. She will post as soon as she can.

So, get to walking, would ya? LOL, just have to laugh, cause I am a waitress, and walking is my job, and my H is always on me to go for a walks on my days off work <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />. Oh well, I am a brat. Walking would do me good, even tho I walk for a living <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />.

Hey, am out of town for a few days. Will get back to you all midweek. With the dreaded update. LOL. Slightly wild stuff, but it's all good.

Weaver, got to love you, you are working out!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M