Hi everyone!

I would just like to thank everyone for all of your support and wonderful advice that was given to me. Unfortunately at my house, I am unable to log on to MB for some reason. But I did read and your advice was taken.

At this time I am at my parents house and I am posting over here. I was afraid that things would have gotten worse if I had stayed.

As most of you know, my oldest son was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome which is a high functioning autism. Meaning he can be independent and live a "normal" life style. But my son's behavior has really took a turn for the worse and I had him seen by a specialist yesterday at the Children's Memorial hospital here in Chicago. OK no brainer here which I knew already but....he is acting out because of his homelife. I just don't know how to handle it! You cannot dicipline him the way you would a regular functioning child. Soooo, I was explaining this to the H. and after I found out that he needs to see a someone there to teach hoim how to function in a normal society which ther are not doing in his speech and OT.. I told him while we are living an "in house separation" there needs to be boundries that we must follow. I thought I got through to the man and was really pleased and happy that we agreed that we will be amlicable to each other. What happens 15 minutes later? He blows up at me and belittles me becasue the copayment was a lot of money. Gee, all I do is spend "his" money. The killer? It was right infornt of the kids. I looked at my kids and I began to cry because I see the devastation in their eyes.
So this morning World War 9,001 broke out at our home again and I left before it got really bad. I asked him why I have to move and he can't? His response was because I gotten everything I have wanted! I was thinking to myself really? But I didn't want to go there because I am sick of this. I know ther reality. I am sick of that games. I really wonder if this man is mentally capable. Honestly? I am really worried about him.

As much of a jerk he is, it still pains me to have to go through with this! It is funny how his affair led up to this decison. I am scared still.

OK since I am on a new key board and I am tired, I want to apologize for any typo's. I am too tired to proof read this. I want to get this out before this site logs me off. I had written a long post on Lordsladys thread and it booted me off! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Thanks again.

Ali~

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I don't have any advice except this...

Don't you dare go anywhere!!!!!!!!!!!!

You didn't choose this path and neither did your children...he did

So he can leave...

In the meantime, do a solid Plan A and folow other, more wiser MB'ers advice

Your Friend

Rebornman

Hey Ali! I agree - I have followed your story from when you first posted in 'JustFoundOut' boards and of course you know me as "SauronTDL" in The Kingdom Of Caerlon. I know you as The Dutchess. Sorry, MB Server forgot whom I was and so had to resign up again yadda yadda whatever.
But back to you: I agree with Reborn - I would not leave, and I sure as hell would not bother doing anything else around the place other than to take care of YOU and your dear son! If your STBX can't understand that HIS son (and yours) has medical problems then perhaps it's time he went to some CHILD SUPPORT classes that the Divorce Courts (at least the ones in Alaska require you to) make divorcing parents attend. He could learn a lot there - such as taking responsibility and NOT screaming at you and his son. He sounds like a real 'ringer' to me.
I pray for you and your son and wish and hope for the best for you in this difficult time. And next time he starts hollering at you, just look at him and say "I'm NOT deaf, I can hear you just fine since I'm only a few feet from you. However, if you can't turn the volume down, then I'm moving to another room to make the level a little more comfortable for my hearing. Thank you!" And do it. He needs to get a grip and stop acting so CHILDISH.
JMHO.
Harold/Sauron