Thank you both so much! I am sitting on the fence in my "situation"...okay, my marriage. I love my husband sooooo much. We've been married for 10 years this upcoming August. He is an alcoholic, just got into recovery (thank you God!) and I have been in Alanon off and on for 5 years...it's been my saving grace. We've had a "problem" with a friend of his from work. Why is it ALWAYS a friend from work. This "friend" did not have a sexual affair with my husband and not a full grown emotional affair but this "inappropriate friendship" has interfered with my marriage for almost 4 years now. He has vowed to take care of it, but I have my doubts. She's very manipulative and for some reason the guys at my husband's job just feeds right into it. She is the token female. She loves the attention. I've tried to "handle" it both in a healthy manner and not so healthy manner and have come to terms with the fact that I am NOT the one that needs to take care of this problem. I hope and pray my husband does the right thing. I just keep handing it over to my higher power (God) and pray it works out. I know what I know, but I still feel a tremendous amount of hurt and pain about it. I'm leaving out ALOT of details mainly because I'm too emotionally drained to go into it at this time. He says its the alcohol, which has been his mistress, and I agree, however, this IS a problem and needs to be taken care of. We'll see what happens. Thanks for the support and the links. Take care! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
