I"I agree with LULU. Becuase if it were true about soulmates I'd still be married. I think I said that when I got married but after the divorce I couldn't believe that I said we were meant for eachother, let alone soul mates. I think I found the one now. But really do we ever know for sure. I myself am still trying to figure out what is the right one and wrong one, who is the one for me, how will I know? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I'M SO CONFUSED NOW lol [color:"blue"] [/color]

For me - being "the One" was never an issue. You do the best you can based on the information you have and your experience level - when you know better, you do better.

Certainly at one time, I was madly in love with my ex. Now - I am madly in love with my boyfriend. I think its possible to have more than "One" - people change, circumstances change. My exH no longer makes sense as a choice currently, and my boyfriend now probably wouldn't have made much sense for me back then.

It's not worth beating yourself up for - even the institution of marriage has drastically changed. This is the first time that people have married for "love" which I think we all now is mercurial at best. Be thankful you weren't sold by your father for livestock and seed, or arranged to marry someone for their political clout - where your worth was measured by how many male heirs you could produce and you could not own a thing - even the clothes on your back belonged to your husband.

The One ?. Partner that is willing and capable of fillin all of your top 5 emotional needs and avoid all of your LBs w/o much effort (comes with the package as is ... LOL!). To me I want to be her "One" too ... it is very hard to match it both sides. However having said this, I found her. Maybe I am still in the cloud ... ask me again 3 months from May 6th. LOL!.