HEY YOU GIRRRRRRLZ !!!!!

I MISS YOU ALL ! BIG KISSES!!! AND HUGS!!

I am finally able to log on to this site again! I had to join to talk to you girls!

Okay now first of all Waiting-- honey you are sooo used to his SMACK-- why hurt so much? DON'T. If anything, just remember how healthy you WERE feeling when you shook the blues and put on your DIVA SHIRT .. okay? YOU are running the show w/you and your babies and YOU ARE SOOOO FREAKING STRONG.

You say WIFE30 is strong-- HECK YES she is amazing-- but guess what! YOU ARE TOO- I mean you have 2 little ones to raise and care for and smile for and you always did it- and I always said that would be sooo hard- just as you said to Wife!

And just look at Mily-- SHE IS DOING SOO GOOD! She has hubby wondering WFT hit him and he is eating out of her hand-- just as Waiting's is. Well who KNOWS where you stand for "life" with these guys, anyway? Love, marriage, dreams - HEY they were all SHATTERED a while ago-- so SHOOT anything is BETTER THAN what I saw BOTH of you survive before my very own eyes!! How can anything be more of a challenge now? You can love them, but you just cannot PUT ALL OF EVERY BIT OF YOUR BEING in there yet- just enjoy enjoy enjoy your life girls!!

BBGirl- starting her own business- and NOT thinking of OW/OC JUST LIKE I DONT ! I am soo happy to see this BBgirl! How far you have come. This thread just made me feel sooooo great!

And Waiting-- I am not minimizing your pain, but IF he is gona be a LIAR FOR LIFE-- well hell, he might as well DO IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE for a stinking change via the COURT !

Me, I am living life to the fullest again- and maybe too much, LOL! I care NOT about the xow/oc ANY drama anymore- I dont even THINK of the crap and its only been 2 years. I KNEW I could get over this and EXHALE again - MAN OR NO MAN- cause THAT is what God wants for us, his childrenssss ! No one, I mean NO ONE should put out the spark for life that I see all of you girlz have. Young, strong, fought the battle, now ALL OF US are sooo gona have some great things in our life.

I miss you all! I'm baaaack though, to write my 30,000 page essays- you know me!!

XOXOXOX, Gio

Hi! Here goes my monthly update ... it's been six months now since we started dating! very glad that he took the lease for one year and not for six months ... because I don't feel ready to take this relationship to us living together again ... not yet ... xH did mentioned, very casually, that we could get married again when we move back home ... still in plans for next year ...

OW is still stalking ...I mean, driving by my house I guess every time she has an opportunity to see if xH is there ... I thought she had stopped but he made a comment this past week about that and that he told her that he was going to call the police if she keeps doing that ...
then she said that he forced her to do that because he has not told her were he lives! And that she would prefer to give her son to stranger rather than him taking OC to my house ... apparently she also is making threats about taking him to court to get CS ... to what he said that he didn't have any problem with that, that it would be the best for all of them ... now she says that she is not going to ... what's wrong with this woman!?!?!?

Then she told him that if he thought she was stupid and that she didn't know there was something going between us <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> duh! duh! duh!

OC's birthday was a couple of weeks ago ... I let DD go with xH to the party but felt very weird about it ... xH said DD had a blast ... she is 21 months old now and he said that every time some one was going to touch OC, she said 'OC's mine!' ... anyway, I was feeling a little depressed ... and xH said that he understood my feelings ... you do? ... Just because I was there for OC's BDay doesn't mean that I'm going to restart anything with her ... well, he does!

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JT, How are you? How is the divorce going?
Very sorry to hear that he asked for full custody <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
There's no way, he will get it ... but yes it still hurts ... I never asked for sole custody ... my lawyer told me that there were no grounds for me to ask for sole custody of DD ... that what he did was to me and not to DD ... anyway, I didn't have it in me to do it ... and he didn't ask for anything ... I would have asked for the world and he would not have said anything ... at the time that indifference hurt me too ... because I saw it as indifference ... later, after the divorce he said ... that he never thought that the divorce was going to be final so fast and that he didn't want to hurt me more asking for things ... now I know that whatever he had done, it was going to hurt me ... keep strong ...

B, very proud of you!!!!

Giovanna! I missed you!
Yes, I'm enjoying my life to the fullest ... especially with DD ... she is amazing ... if xH wants to be part of that (which right now he is) more than welcomed ... if no, my decision is made, I will move out of here in a year or two, away from OW and from all of this ...


I just have to smile at this ... I wish! ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
I still have my down days but they are not the most ... my life revolves around me and DD ... and no one else! not even xH! or at least that's what I like to think ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I have missed you girls so much....... I have caught up I think on the situations and am proud of each of you. Gio I have missed you girl.....

Mily, it seems as though everything is going pretty great right now. I have no idea what to tell you , but keep up the good work.

how do you get to a place where you don't ask questions anymore? Or you don;t drive yourself crazy wondering. Believe it or not I am finding myself back at that place and I don;t like it!!!!

I am trying to find peace within myself and I guess I am questioning it too much??? He seems to be happy and wants to be at home, but I am not stopping the divorce because he has not met me even half way when it comes to DNA, Cs or anything dealing with OC.

He has missed all of the past year's holidays with OC and now even her 1st Birthday ( he was at home with us his family). It bothered me that it has been a year now and I feel like i am still struggling with this whole mess.

Well not to drag anyone down, but keep your head up and pray for me as I will you and yours!!!!

Love all of you,

JT <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hey JT!

Well, I don't know if the divorce will wake up your husband or not, it surely didn't wake mine <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> ... it wasn't until xH accepted that he needed outside help and started IC that we finally started to move on ...


I know ... for me is like I know he spends time with OC and from time to time I let him take DD to OC's house so they can spend some time together ... but there are times when I would want to do something together as a family but we can't because he has to visit OC ... and of course OW doesn't want OC spending time at my house ...
Somehow I think that I'm tolerating all this situation because of the thought of moving and because we are making plans for when we move ... and then my mind goes ahead of me and I can't help but think that I don't know if I would have the strength to deal with OW/OC if we were to stay here ... it is not OC that worries me, it is OW's actions <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
See, I still have not so good days ...

Why don't you believe that your H has NC with OW/OC?



I don't know ... I try not to do that ... and most of the time I'm able to do it ... but then a trigger appears and I find myself questioning things too ...
How much of this have to do with trust ... what if we move and the same thing happens with another person ... what if one day he wakes up and decides that he wants to be with OW? What if he is not telling me the truth and he does have a relationship with OW?
Are we really going to move? He seems attached to OC ... and it breaks my heart that with the moving OC is going to loose his father and sister .... how much of this situation is mine to worry? Then I think, I will worry about me and my DD ... I can only control little things ... my things ... the other stuff is not mine to control, so why worry?

For the most part he's been really good and his words are matching his actions.


I agree <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> ... xH was waiting for OW to file for CS ... now he is waiting to see what happens with her situation ... but it is definitely something that I would like to see resolved before we leave so he can set legal visitation not as living close to OC but as living far from him. But again, he needs to be the one doing these things ...


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I was just thinking the same the other day ... OC is now 13 months old ... last year at this time I was a real mess ... xH moved in after telling about OC and then moved out in a week ... my 'groups' of friends got a mob mentality and told me a lot of things that hurt me and I'm sure they would have not said under an individual circumstance ... there are things that still hurt ...

Anyway ... I'm planning DD's birthday (10/02) and I will invite OC to the Bday ... and wait to see if OW lets him go to the BDay ... DD is attached to OC ... it is amazing the bond they have ... she spends time with kids at day care ... she spends time with friend's kids but she is always mentioning OC ... and calling him ...

hey ... send me an email and we'll exchange pictures!