Since I have begun posting on Marriage Builders I have come to realize I have tripped my wife's triggers. When I heavy into my sexual addiction, part of my ritual was using the internet to discuss my emotional problems, which often lead to becoming envolved in affairs. While I have been very open about my postings here on Marriage Builders, showing my wife the things I have been writing, discussing them with her, etc....she still has that fear, which I can understand that I will somehow slip back into old habits. And while I have put a lot of safeguards in place, like not giving out email accounts, not giving full names, I want to respect her desires and wishes, which is not to use Marriage Builders. She would rather me put more effort into my local sexual addiction group if I am going to spend time on an effort. And since I can understand her point, I wanted to bid farewell and gracious thanks all those who I have benefited from reading their posts.

Your wife is smart .... get the help you need with the more appropriate addiction group.

I agree with your wife!

Good luck

Art, I am so sorry to see you go.

Your advice has been spot-on so many times and has made me look at my own sitch with clarity and sensitivity. You shared your unique history with us (which I know was not a source of pride for you) in order to guide and shepherd others into finding their own happiness. You encouraged them to seek out and overcome their demons, challenged them to persue their dreams and compelled some of them into change.

I totally respect your decision to leave. I encourage your decision. I just didn't want you to do so before you knew what a difference you had made to so many people, me being one of them.

Thank you for having shared the things you have.


slh