I was married for over 20 years. In the 2 years since my wife left me, I have been in recovery and not had much to do with women except for an occasional date. Now, for the first time in 25 years I am seriously starting to date with the idea of finding a girl-friend at some point.

But, in the last 25 years I have only had SF with one woman and for the past two years with nobody. So, I have to admit that I feel like I am for all practical purposes a virgin again.

Am I odd?

Has anybody else had that feeling?

Odd? I wouldn't think so.

I'm divorced almost 10 years. Eight of them without SF. (yeah, its a long story, but suffice it to say my life was easier without it than it would have been with it) I don't know that I felt like a virgin, though.

Just like a Schwin...

I can sooooooooooooo relate to that. I did about 1/2 the time that The Big Guy did but remember when I did jump back on that horse and start riding again, I felt the same feeling that I felt when I lost my cherry. The fear, the excitement, the love, the terror, WOW it was crazy amazing...

I don't think your odd, just a bit unsure of yourself. You aren't a virgin again and you can't go back to that. Nor, would I think you'd want to go back to being a fumbling, premature ejaculator. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Just remember when the time comes that while the mechanics of sex never changes, each woman is different to be experienced for her uniqueness. If you aslways approch "single" sex this way, you are somethig like a virgin with each woman you experience.

I consider myself either "back in the convent" or "out". As of now, am "back in the convent". Revirginated somewhat. But definitely not a virgin.

Gotta do as Aerosmith says and when it's right...get back in the saddle again.

Billy, I really need your addy sent to me. Went to Target (tar jee as the french would say) to look and get you a present for your lovely new familyl;...wanna make sure you get it at right address.

Jokingly, my girlfriends and I have a club. We call it the "Convent of the Celibate Sisterhood". And I was Mother Superior for a long time. Then I left convent briefly in a moment where I wore fog goggles with my xbf. I re-entered. However, I am no longer mother superior. I lost my place in line as the one with the longest membership.

We all aspire to be "in the convent" when we are not in a serious relationship as we do not condone casual sex...morally or medically speaking.

Many of us have had "revolving door" memberships. But it has become a joking way of keeping our morality in check...instead of checking our morality at the door!

You could form a "Brothers of the Male Chastity Belt" or something like that. It's fun. Make up your own name. And remember, when it is time to revoke your membership, just be like Aerosmith song! It all falls into place. Just get back n the saddle and it will come back to you I promise. And remember self esteem is key! You can convince somebody else you're the king baby if you believe it ok?

Sure! I was only with my ex, and that was 5 years of sex, then poof, gone. I did have sex with 1 more person since then and it was an awful experience. So now it's been over a year, and I am committed to waiting til marriage. Since I am not dating anyone even, it could be a while. It's not easy.

We got another member in my club! WElcome Adgirl to the Convent. We're a precarious convent...and discuss many things.

I am not sure men could have an equivalent club.

First, we are loath to admit we are not having sex at all for any long period of time.

Second, I am not sure we men share our intimate experinces as willingly as women do. That is a shame and probably a result of our goofy conditioning that has made us afraid to be close to our fellow men, while stripping us of our masculinity.

Hehe, the convent humor is sounding familiar.

Eons ago some friends and I started a Virgins' Union as a humorous way to deal with people tending to think you're both cool and wierd at the same time if you make it past 20 still a virgin.

I started making cracks about wanting to join an engineering convent when I got overwhelmed with being stared at continually at engineering school. It's serious life in a fishbowl if you're a girl -- all those lonely lovesick guys. It's fun until you realize it never freaking stops. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Then I converted that into a standard joke I use when someone says I "look too feminine to be an engineer" -- I start talking about being educated in an engineering convent, the Sisters of the Wheatstone Bridge. I usually try to see how much I can make up before whoever it is realizes that I'm pulling their leg.

So can I join the Celibate Sisterhood? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Peachy-Thanks for the membership, although it is not really a club I ever wanted to join =) I like that you weren't expelled from the convent for making a mistake- you were welcomed back in!
Welcome mineownself!
Justin, feel free to pitch in here, the sisterhood can open up to 1 male and have you as a special member! =)

Adgirl, your picker is broken?

Do you listen to those sappy love songs Delilah plays?

By the way, I will join your club. Alas, I am all to eligible for membership. What are the dues?

WTF? I'd say that is crazy odd man. I mean I give you props for 8 YEARS OF NO SEX but that is still odd as heck.

Definately somethin I would never, ever subject myself to.

Yes, it is a term I heard someone use, continually picking a pattern of the same type of person and that type of person is very very wrong for them (unhealthy).
I try to not listen to Delilah often.
Sure, the dues are free, we are all here and it stinks bad enough, why pay for it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Had to post something about Delilah...
My best friend was very good friends with Delilah's ex husband and welll.....Delilah isn't so sweet and innocent. She left her family for OP. She left her ex devestated! I used to love listening to her but when I found that out it sickens me now. Just thought i would share that.....

I did hear her on the radio the other day. From what she said it sounded like her ex was an alcoholic ? But she has been married twice I think.

Yeah....I think she has been married twice. The ex I'm talking about wasn't an alcoholic so maybe it was the other husband. I don't knkow....I just can't listen to her without thinking of the pain she cause someone else.

The net said she was married to a black man in 1982 and had her son, Sonny, and her dad was prejudiced and came at the guy with a gun. He left her in 1985. Then it says she was married to Doug Ortega for nine years, and she chose to divorce him in 2002. It was a nonamicable split. That's all I get!

OK, I will join the convent club as the token male.

Hmmm... This may be better than being a window washer at the YWCA.

When I divorced and gained physical custody of my children, my son was eight months old and my daughter 3 and a half.

I dated off and on for the next couple of years. The last lady I dated before I started "the long wait" was completely wrong for me and the kids. But I fell hard. Like Adgirl, my picker was broken. Fortunately she broke it off with me, because I don't think I would have had the strength to do it myself. Scared the living begeezes outta me. Not for myself, but for the two human beings who completely depend on me for their well being. I no longer trusted my own judgement.

So, I took myself out of the game. For their sake. Not completely out because I dated a little bit. But, I stopped looking. And when a guy stops looking, he stops dating.

I don't do the casual, because I have no desire to condemn possible children to mothers who do casual.

So, in the end, stability for my children was more important to me than a relationship (or sex). Yeah, I suppose in today's society, that is an odd thing to do.