She called last night about 7PM. She said she had "some things to take care of" and that she would call later. She came home at 6:45 this morning. She helped get the kids ready for school and I took them. She called my cell on my way to work to make sure that they made it to school all right. I told her they did. She asked if everything was OK. I took the bait.

ME: "Things are pretty far from OK. You come and go as you please, disappearing for days at a time. No, things are NOT OK!."

HER: "FINE! I'll just leave then. I will get a phone next week and you can call me if you need me to watch the kids. You can tell everyone that I f%^ked around on you and left you and everything is my fault. You are so f*%king perfect. You can tell the kids whatever you want."

ME: "I have admitted my share of the responsibilty for this situation since day 1. No one is perfect and no one is without blame."

HER: "I'm leaving. I don't need to be talked to like this."

She hangs up. I drive to our house. I walk in.

HER: (watching Dharma and Greg on TV, a show we used to love, people said they remided them of us) "Just go away. What the f%*k are you doing here. PLEASE LEAVE.

ME: I don't want to leave.

HER: JUST GO JUST GO.

This continued for a while.

ME: "FINE I GET IT. YOU HATE ME."

I left and drove off like a bat out of he!!. (I was mad and hurt). She called and started yelling at me for driving like that, I hung up....

So what is the plan now..... Need advice.....

DKM, her leaving is really IMHO what you and the kids need. The stress of her coming and going as she likes is not good for any of you! Have you looked into protecting yourself legally?