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I am sitting here doing laundry and the thought crosses my
mind that my WH wore all his underware while while with the
OW. I want to burn it all and get new fresh ones ! The
dailey new thoughts are killing me !!!! What do you want to
burn or set fire to ????
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no burning of underbritches on the lawn, dear, it is a lovebuster.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Melody,
It's just a thought.....I won't really do it.....
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his cell phone and the earplug that he keeps in the car

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yep agree but I would add underwear, clothes, shoes,cellphone, computer and a few other items. I haven't done it but boy I wish sometimes I could


Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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I'd like to torch his cellphone.

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I'd like to torch his "friend," also our son's godfather, who tells him it's ok to cheat as long as you 'deny, deny, deny.'

Uh uh...say that ain't so? Sheesh...and he's still the Godfather? Egawds.


If you love something, set it free. If it comes back its yours. If it doesn't, it never was. You can't make sense of insanity...definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Lisa
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Oh do you really want the answer to that question ????

Not sure I would want to torch her (OW) but I'd sure like to beat the crap outta her ......

Can't say I would want to torch anything of his though. Except maybe the alien inside of him...........


BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
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Well the things of his that reminded me of her (shirts, boxers she bought him) I did THROW THEM AWAY!
He would say 'Do you know where my PJ pants are?'
My reply. 'I threw those away, they reaked and I couldn't get the stench out no matter how many times I washed them'


H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
H said he wants a DV and marry OW 11/7/04
Divorce final 10/27/05
Son-5yr Daughter-2 1/2yr
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I forgot about his cousin and the OW mutual friend
who knew all about it.....also yes, his cellphone this is
how I busted him. Sometimes even my WH's member, if you know
what I mean....hee hee just kidding....just thoughts and
a little venting....

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I keep saying to myself that I want to get rid of everything she touched, but that would include him.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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I do have a plan for the day my divorce is final. I have one outfit of his left, it is a nice dress shirt and dockers. I am going to have a little fire outback in our fireplace, throw them in, along with our wedding photo and say goodbye.

Danielle


H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
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I did get rid of some underwear that he left during PLAN B?

Are you listening, HURTING?


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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I got rid of everything I could find that OW gave him. I threw them in the dumpster where I was having radiation treatment for breast cancer!

I recently found two towels that he bought for his "secret" apartment that he rented during the A. I thought I could handle having them around, but no. I think of the A everytime they go through the wash. So, they are out too.

I also smashed all of the stupid figurines and dishes that his parents had given us. They immediately encouraged H to leave me and our children for OW and began a relationship with her. They disowned my H when he decided to stay with him family and now don't speak to him. Even though, I don't think they speak to her anymore either! They are a couple of super nut cases and I am truly glad to have them out of my life.....even though I didn't think we had a bad relationship over the last 20 years. I really tried to keep it nice.

His parents also gave us their dining room set. We recently moved and I gave that away. It is funny. I felt almost MORE betrayed by them than anything OW did. They knew me and my children and they were eager to toss our futures away for a women they didn't even know!

I am all for getting rid of "excess baggage"!

Good luck to all!


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Well, last summer I finally threw away a picture of a deceased gal that had been in my H's sock drawer for the past 34 years. A few months later, my H let it slip that he once had a relationship that ended when she got killed in a car wreck. Yep! It was her...and she got killed 3 months to the day after we got married! Wish I'd burned it now!

After the STD Gal, I thought of several things I would have loved to do to H. You should have seen him wince when I told him that I wanted to scrub his you-know-what with alcohol, Clorox, and a wire brush! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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