Wow...


Today on the way to the town meeting I stopped at VIP (discount auto) to get my car inspected since I was early and it runs out this month. I go up to the counter and begin to check my car in. WH comes out from the garage. My heart stopped and instantly I was freaking out inside. I just acted like he wasn't there. The guy taking my name and such asked for my number. WH said xxx-xxxx, that's my wife. I just looked at him square in the eyes with a look that could kill. I requested that I keep my keys and be with the inspector during the inspection. WH said 'oh i see' and I just ignored him. I went in tht waiting area until it was my turn. WH came out there and asked how I found him. I said 'well I found you when you walked out of that garage' Then he proceeded to tell me that OW was arrested on Thursday and is still in jail. I said 'doesn't surprise me'
Then he said 'but I can't give up on her now, she is all I have left. If I gave up on her now, I would have nothing'
I said 'Some choices you make' Then he said 'Don't you feel bad for her Danielle? I mean no one else is going to help her and she obviously can't help herself.' I then told him that I believe he is working and should get back to work, he is having a non-work related conversation with a customer. He looked upset and walked off.

While my car was being inspected (or attempted to be inspected I should say) he came over and asked for my cell phone number. I said 'I hasn't changed' he then told me that he forgot it. I told him that he could ask my husband, he would remember. He looked confused. Oh well.

I got home about an hour ago, and he left a message on the phone asking if I wanted to go to dinner, we have a lot to catch up on...... Excuse me?

Gr.....go bail out your _____ and quit being lonely. Sucks to be lonely now doesn't it WH?

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Danielle

Dani, that part had me LOL. Babble worthy of Orchid's praise. Be proud of yourself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

He had his pack of cigarettes out and a pen, like he was going to write my number on them.

I said 'ask my husband he would know' and he literally looked behind him like he was confused. I just smiled. He said 'seriously Danielle' and I said 'yes'
He gave up.

It isn't that I am hiding my number from him, it is the same number I have had for almost a year...it is the fact that the stupid head can't remember it!

I was wearing a suit because I was going to the town meeting and speaking on behalf of the 4-wheeler ATV maine club. WH said 'What the heck do you do that you dress like that?' I just looked at myself like I was unsure what I was dressed 'like' and he said 'You know, you have everything, you have this life made, you have everything you could ever want' I just didn't answer him because I couldn't think of what to say besides 'what I want is my family' but I knew that he wouldn't care or understand enough to care...

Danielle

Jail??? HAHAHAHA....just where she belongs!

I agree with Faithful -- you are the new Babble-Queen!

(At least you know where he's working to get that child support garnished!)

Don't even think about feeling sorry for him. This is his bottom, let him sit there a while and think about it. He's still defending the trash -- so he's still your WH (still an alien)

He said to me 'You know the state is going to get money for me for child support' I said 'yes you have children'
He HONESTLY expected me to sit there for hours and go over his goals and life with him, and I honestly WANTED TO...but I kept telling myself "MB would be mad, MB would be mad!" Hey, whatever works right?

Unbeleivable, save this for one of those "Stupid things my WS says" thread that pops up every now and again.

What is wrong with him bouncing his life goals and ideas off of you? It enables him to bounce off the bottom a little. He's lonely, and now he comes running to you. She has got herself in trouble again that has NOTHING to do with you this time...they can't blame you for it.

If he were to spend some time with you, and get's the Dani fix, then he can keep going a little bit longer with OW. Things are going downhill, he just seems to be the kind of person that has a lower bottom than most... And she does too apparently.

You are a wonderful person with great kids, and deserve a great man, and when he's ready to be that great man, THEN you can see him and talk with him, once he has proven OW is permanently away and he can stand on his own...

YOU DESERVE THAT!!!

become extra invisible for awhile ...

sheesh ... what a maroon

Good babble...but what you gotta remember is that your WH shook his head b/c he doesn't get it...babble or not.

I think I could have spoken Czech or Japanese to my xh spouting out whatever I wanted and he would either way NOT have gotten it...the fog.

What works is saying something babble-ish and combining it with an action that sends it home...as I've found.

Good for you. You were out, living your life. And your WH saw firsthand how life were if he were like George in It's a Wonderful life...you know, invisible.

And NO, his ow should feel sorry for her incredibly stuuuupid choice in a bf...and should feel incredibly stuupid she did ANYTHING that would place the children she bore in jeopardy and do anything immoral to lose custody of them. Let WS deal with her.

What a faithful gem he is! I mean, wanting to call, or ask you to dinner while his lil' woman is in the slammer. What a guy! Don't you ladies want somebody like this one huh???

Stay strong. He is NOT repentant and does NOT get it hon.

You're doing great.

Email me on my private email anytime ok?

DAni- there is not chance your WH can get your new address from that garage is there??

You handled him just fine. Just wish you had told his boss "That man is NOT my husband."