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OK, I know I want my x back but I am not living for that. I have come a long way in personal recovery since she left a year ago but just wonder...
She has had 3 EA's and on PA in 10 years and refused to go to counseling with me. Her last EA caused our divorce and she immediately latched up with someone while she was moving out last fall which become physical almost immediately (small town, people talk). She has broken up with this guy a couple of times since then but I seen them back together again tonight.
I know where my life is going (I hope at least!). It is going towards mending my broken heart and recovery to this awful ordeal.
But, anyone care to speculate where my X is heading?
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But, anyone care to speculate where my X is heading? Yes absolutely...........to a life of misery, pain and depression. To a life of one night stands, and emotionally destructive relationships that she uses to feel "self worth". This wasn't a "one time slip for her". She is who she is. Do you have children...? I say you go to church tonight, say a prayer, and let the "big guy" upstairs know that you owe him one. Onward my friend....great things await you. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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2 kids - we have 50/50 custody and it kills me when they are gone.
As angry as I am at the "Big Guy" sometimes, he has come to me in ways that are nothing less than a miracle.
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BHINWI and lemonman,
I too would love to know where I am 6 month's from now.
I feel so depressed at times. I too have 50/50 custody. My STBX tells my boy about OM and how soon they will all be together... It breaks my heart. She Is able to laugh and have fun, I try to be UP when he is with me, but It is hard.
OM is selling his home to move to DS school district, where we are. Then WW will live with him.
I am in our home right now, but in truth I can't afford It, and must look at selling.
It seems WW and OM have everything going for them. I feel I have everything going against me.
I do ask the man upstairs for guidance, but for now It seems he cannot hear me (:
I hate OM for what he has done to my family, and I do not want WW back ever, I could not go through this pain again!
Me BS 44
WW 38
Together 11
Maried 9
EA 7/9/05 PA 7/23/05
9yr old son + 14 Step S + 21 Step D
DV Day to come
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I'm gonna have to say that as long as your children are healthy, happy and know they are loved then who cares where she goes or what she does. Be the father your children need and be happy that you are in the process of moving on.
Hopeful4future
The character of a person is defined by their actions...not their intentions. Otherwise, the world would be full of Saints.
BS: 40 (Me)
xFWW: 50
Married: 9/97
PA: 3 months
D-Day: 6/30/2005 (she revealed to me)
Divorced: 10/2/2008
Happy that I've moved on
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Mntony,
My heart goes out to you buddy. I know just how you feel. They are having fun, you are dying inside. Your emotions go everywhere. Sometimes you are sad, then angry, then hopeful, then even happy, then all over again.
I don't understand it. My wife was not perfect, but I never once turned to someone else. She did 4 times, now I divorced her. It was like a bad tooth I guess... It hurt like heck but it needed to be removed. (But I still miss her so much).
Broken hearts don't just die- they bleed to death slowly. You will get through this.
Keith
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BHINWI~~
I don't know your x, but I would imagine that she is on the road to misery.
I think you will come out ahead in the end, though not the ending you ever anticipated. Perhaps, it could be wonderful!
If you're like me, you never imagined yourself where you are today, but, it's better than living a triangle.
I don't have the crystal ball, and life would be much easier if I knew what my future held.
Unlike you, I do not desire my x back. I feel so lucky not to have a spouse in my life that wants someone else. That to me was the worst feeling.
I guess, I would rather be alone, than with someone who didn't want me.
For what it's worth, your advice to Mntony sounds like someone who is healing!
Thinking of you,
Karona
Divorced 12/17/2003
Formerly KEB1205 Reg 9/02
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