I have been posting here for 4 months. here is s breif synopsis of my story:
ww and I married for 7 years (me 35, ww 29)ww caught cheating in June. Affiar started in May.WW never broke contact with om and made recocillation impossible. Plan A until I could take no more and I asked her to leave (Plan B). WW asks for legal seperation, then Divorce to be with om. WW professes love for om. I come to terms that the marriage is over and not worth saving especially with no kids involved. (Still married and in the process of selling house while ww is staying with om).

Now for the update. ww came by to clean the house and help get it ready for appraisal. I found ww phone in her car while driving to the store. I never saw any pictures of om before so I looked on her camera phone. I thought I would be angry and hurt, but for some reason a calm came over me. He wasn't the stud I envisioned sweeping my ww off her feet. In fact he was quite unattractive and dorky looking.I went back home and couldn't stop smiling. I haven't figured out why yet but I felt releived and at peace for some reason.It was like it all fell into place for me. Anybody else had similiar experiences.

FWH's FOW is dumpy and horse-faced, at least without makeup. Not ugly, but not as pretty as me (with all due humility). And she is more than 2 years older. I am probably shallow to let any of that make me feel better. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Since of course the right answer is that it doesn't matter whether I am prettier or not (I am), or who has the better figure (I do, despite 3 1/2 kids), or who is the most talented (that would be me, hands down). I am so many things she is not: honest, loyal, loving, committed, a mother, honorable, pure, MARRIED, the list goes on. (Did I mention I am not a wh***?)

I am glad you found one more way you are better than the OM, but the truth is he had nothing on you anyway.

Wow, I just got censored for the first time. I guess it's a good thing I wasn't discussing the wh*** of Revelation 17. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Knowing is empowering isn't it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Yea, OPs aren't all they are cracked up t/b. Most BS' are disappointed their WS' fell for such loser looking aliens. But then again, they are in the 'fog'. LOL!!! Their vision along with their brain gets scrambled and out of focus. It becomes evident in their choices.

That why the BS' really need not worry about the OP being 'better than the BS'. Never is the case.

It is worse than the blind leading the blind. re: At least the blind have better hearing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Nice of you to let it show! I'd admit to being your mother, but I'm too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />.

t&l

P.S. Your dad could never understand, either, why Prince Charles would rather have had Camilla instead of Diana. I never had any doubt in my mind which of them he'd have chosen, had he had the choice!

When I saw the OW for the 1st time, I told the WS how disappointed I was. I said something to the effect:

Orchid: I am soo disappointed.

WS: In what?

Orchid: If you were going to dump me, at least your'd have the decency to replace me with a better model. Where did you get this reject anyway? Adultfriendfinders.com? (Hm.... I knew they met online. - <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> ).

WS: (looking dejected).

Orchid: I mean really WS, next time take a step up, not down. She is even older than me and from the other pix (she sent him a very sexually explicit pix of her body parts, where the sun don't shine - YUCK)..... well Ws, to put it bluntly, she's got gray hairs where it ain't safe to dye it, if you know what I mean. (at this point I was crackin' up).

WS: She isn't as pretty as you. Nor as nice.

Orchid: Then I gotta ask the dumb question.... WHY?!?!?!

WS: I don't know. When I am with her, I want t/b home and when I am home I want t/b with her.

Orchid: Oh.... well from what I have learned, it seems you don't know where you belong. Well as long as you are with her for any length of time, you know we don't want you.... so go be with that crazy lady with 'gray hair'.... LOL!!!

You know it was a good thing I could laugh about it. By that time, I had heard enough babble to know better than to let it hurt me as it had in the past. Somehow that humor helped me keep my sanity. Causing the downfall of the A without a lot of hard work from me.

L.

When my WH (now XH) first informed me that OW is 10 years older then him, I felt some relief (all his online EA's were with young "20" something women!).

When I finally saw OW up close and in my drive way, *chuckle, chuckle, snort, snort* she looked a lot OLDER then what her actual age is. She also had dyed her hair. she was a brunette but is now a blond (of sorts), her hair looks tinted a light orange. Makes her look like a real scuz. I feel soooooo much better knowing how un-attractive she is.

Take care,

~Jamie~

i never saw my hubby's ow for a long time...(years)...the description i got from some of his buddies was....she is rough looking....lol....she looks like she was rode hard and put away wet..alot!....and many other such comments like this....made me laugh.

It took me almost 6 months to get my XW to tell me who it was and this was while we were attempting to reconcile AND recover. It took me 4 months after that to find a photograph. Her OM is the owner of a large company out of state so I signed up for a search for any news on teh company and wham...it's their 25th year and all sorts of press is out there. It is from this news that I learn of more lies she told me and there's photos too!!
OM was short, frumpy, and old! 14 years older! It was pathetic. Even after we were divorced and dating others her choice was to allow an older EA from work to get to the PA level. Two men who in her words "are not even remotely attractive". I was confused...not even knowing I was dating women completely opposite of her (my own Father told me I was doing that when he had met them)...XW (now my fiance)is quite tall and thin. I was dating very short and petite (5 foot tall - 100 pounds!)women. Age became a factor...I could not take myself seriously w/ younger women...in her words " I felt like you were moving up and I never did, I never thought you would ever find me attractive again"...she is beautiful...a Nicole Kidman look alike...

so bottom line is these OP are not always the best looking folks but they somehow make the WS feel good about themselves....

one of the ow my h was "hanging with" shall we say is a pure and true blue psycho. Everyone in town even says it. And I have gotten to experience her psychoness first hand. She is also like 40 or something (we are in are very early 30's and when h was hanging with her he was in his late 20's) she is very very skinny and not very pretty at all and has 5 kids. But, at that time h was in the bars alot and she is an easy sleazy barfly... so...

the current ow, well, in my opinion I think she is very plain and she enjoys doing guy things (probably because she likes all the male attention she can get.) she works a job as a security officer, she is on the fire dept, all male dominated fields. she wanted to be a cop but didn't pass the test and our local depts won't have her anyway since she cheated on her h with mine and her h is a cop. (duh!) But, a lot of guys in town do think she is hot. She dresses like trash with her t*ts hanging out, she has a pierced naval and tongue, and a tattoo on her lower back. Which a lot of guys like. She is about 4 or 5 years younger than h and about 7 years younger than me. But, a lot of guys in town also think she is a ho. Including most of the fire dept. They call her the "wheel" because they wonder who she will roll around with next. She hangs at the fire hall all day and dresses like trash and just eats up all the sexual comments made at her. She is slim, I'm not, never have been. I am more athletic voluptuos type.

Needless to say, she is direct opposite of me. I don't hang in bars or like it when men treat me like meat. She loves it. can see that h is going through a mini premidlifecrises of sorts. Bought a sportier car to be cool, listens to music that is very degrading but I am sure she loves like eminem and stuff, and I am sure he thinks her piercings and such are exciting and hot and her dressing like a tramp. she once told her stbxh that I was jealous of her. I said no way. I have respect for myself. I wouldn't want men treating me the way they treat her. I take pride in how I dress and present myself. I don't want the whole town calling me a ho! so jealous of what?

she has no morals, is very selfish, and acts and dresses like a slut. oh, and did I mention she is also a bit on the psycho side? believe me, I know. But h chooses not to see it in her just as he chose not to in the other. h has a LOT of waking up to do. mlhb

OW was ( still is maybe? ... don't know ! )

very very pretty

she never finished highschool

she was on her 9th affair

OW's most attractive feature? She knows how to make a man feel needed, and she always needed more than a man could give.

she was (is ?) a very attractive very sad woman who never can seem to find peace and happiness ... I believe (and H does too) she was sexually abused by family members as a girl.

My most attractive feature ???

I love life !!!!

OOh Thank You! I needed that LAUGH!!! It literally erupted and kept going..

A good, real belly laugh is so medicinal!!

I don't understand this particular trait that most A's seem to share...

My WW's Married OM is a somewhat overweight Philipino/Spanish mix. Friends that have seen pics of him have literally laughed out loud...

I want to feel better about this fact, but then I start to question my WW's judgement...and realize at one point in her life, she chose me. I sometimes think it would have been better had he been a GQ, hyper-intelligent, wealthy neurosurgeon that she just was powerless to resist...at least I would understand things a bit more.

Silly, isn't it?


TM

OM #1 was no more attractive than me

don't know about OM#2

OM#3...she can't even remember his name! How pathetic and shallow is that? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Her attempted A with an officer...he was just a regular "guy"! I found that out from a buddy of mine who knows him. Whe I told STBXW about me knowing what her "target" looked like and how he was nothing special, she seemed a little miffed at me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

FOW is 37, FWH is 42. She was former weight lifter so is fairly sculpted. Large on top anyway, pretty face, beautiful white teeth, lasered hair off body, no tan lines, is a dentist in the military, is bisexual and loves fishing and loves SF.

I understand why, but it really is tough with the comparison problem. The only thing FWH will say bad about her is that she is a manipulator. I'll have to take that and run with it.

Minor OT for MicheleG...hope all is going well for you and FWH! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

WHnowBS,
Things are going pretty well, but OW is still trying to contact. Thanks for the thoughts, now back to our sponsors.

Glad to hear that FWH realized the error of his ways and is working with you.

What a psycho broad! Perhaps "diming" her out to her CO might get her out of your hair...if that hasn't already been done?

I know what you all mean about the OP not being all that great. OW is 9 years older than H but acts like she's 21. She has acne scars and is a notorious shopoholic (and H says I'm materialistic!). She smokes, is divorced, and has had a couple miscarriages from previous BFs. She doesn't know how to cook. She was living with her XBF rent-free for over a year while she looked for a job in her field (wouldn't stoop to retail or anything else to pay the bills) and goes to her XH for money. Apparently she's asked H for money, too, b/c I know he paid her cell phone bill at least once. She's been in trouble with the law before for bad checks. I will say that she is fun to hang out with. That's why I was friends with her.

Whereas I don't smoke or dye my hair. I play guitar and I'm in a bellydance troupe. I keep a clean, nicely decorated home, and I'm a good cook. I paid my own way through college and now work full-time at an important, respectable (albeit low-paying) job while enjoying being a mom to precious DD. She's 8 months old, and I still nurse her. (Not to mention that I weigh less now than I did before H and I got married.) What is wrong with him?

my wh women is 50 and ugly in the face -slimmer -been around the block- she screwed his boss and the cousin-he's lost weight i guess for herto do the do.
from word around her seperated husband is on drugs and hard to talk to so i guess she felt mine was easier.
My wh is there with his 3 broken down cars,bills, she has no car, and he has to ride the bus.
HMMMMMM.......