Hi Everyone,

Well nearly three years after D-day and it's finally hear! I'm not happy that this is the way things turned out, but am relieved that there will start to be some closure on this whole thing.

There hasn't been much going on for the last couple of months up until very recently. My STBX switched her attorneys two weeks ago. Because she still owes her old attorney money, she has refused to give up her file until she gets paid. So they went into court last week to request an extension and I was as sure as she was that they would get one.

Well the judge denied their request! He told her that she could site her old attorney in if she needed to but things were still on for today.

As you can imagine my STBX is not happy about this. She met with her new attorney yesterday to go over things one last time and I met with mine also. Last night I gave my STBX a quick call to see how she was holding up. She said that she was doing all right considering, but that it didn't matter how things turned out because they were going to appeal the whole thing anyway.

I don't even know if that's possible, but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. For now I'm just going to worry about today. Wish me luck!

God bless you.

May her fog explode into a million self serving pieces.

You are free my brother. I know the burden you have carried. Be the rock for your children. Let them know you love them and are always there for them. You're also pretty nice to that really ww of yours btw.

One day she will look on this day as the blackest day of her life.

Let her experience the feeling of justice when the judge shows her that he doesn't make exceptions.

You'll do fine. focus on you, bring a book or something positive for diversion b/c you'll do alot of waiting...and you want to get thru this as fast as possible so a book will make the time fly.

I remember what I did after signing the papers with my xh at the lawyers offices...his there, mine there, only 2 days before what was expected to be a 2 week trial was to begin...I went out and had a margarita. I felt relieved. I did cry there, but I didn't have to carry him around with me any more...his sins on my back. I gave them instead, and my xh to God that day and turned all the power over to the only one who can fix him.

She's going to appeal?? Does that mean she will ask the cout to void the divorce so she can still be married to you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Sounds like she is a first class cake eater!!!

justpeachy,

Thank you for the heartfelt reply, it's just what I needed this morning!

Justin,

She is definitely a cake-eater of the highest order. I can see her using this as an excuse if things don't turn out well for her. Anything to keep from taking responsibility for her actions.

I also noticed that I posted this in the wrong forum, OOPS!
Maybe I'm more nervous than I thought. Well off to court now.

Peace,
starman

[color:"blue"] What is she fighting for, and what would she appeal? If it is property settlement and if I remember correctly you have the children with you and you should get a larger portion if you have asked for that plus child support.

She'll be eating cake in the poor house - don't worry about that.

V. [/color]

Updated please on court appearance.

FALSE ALARM!

We weren't in court for more than twenty minutes and my attorney let me know that nothing would be happening today.
My STBX attorney asked the judge again for an extension (and got one), because he still had no file to work from.

When my attorney said he didn't object too strenuously I thought I was going to choke him out! He explained that they WOULD be able to appeal the decision under these circumstances, so he didnt' see the point in taking up the time and expense to do it today.

So it's going to be about three more months before we get to try this again. It sucks, but at least I know next time we will definitely get things going.

Thanks,
starman
p.s. I did have an idea about custody I was thinking about that I'm going to post in the Divorce forum if any of you have experience with that.

You are not the only person who's gone through this. Many of us got our hopes up for court dates that didn't happen.
What did happen is that we learned to relax and let go, and when the final date came, we were more emotionally ready and less on edge than if an older date had actually worked out.

Stay strong.

Provided she doesn't change attorneys again at the last moment....LOL

Hang in there...keep your chin up...never let HER see you sweat!!!

Thanks to both of you.

Man, I was upset about this for a couple of days. I think I'm over it now though. I told myself over and over that something like this not only might happen but probably would. I guess I didn't say it enough.

The one positive is that I can be better prepared for the next time. There were two witnesses that were willing to testify for me who were not able to show because of the short notice. Next time they'll have plenty of time to adjust their schedules.

Thanks,
starman