Just wanted to let you all know that I'm still alive and physically healthy.

Albany, Albany, Albany!!!

Girl, I can't tell you how many times I've thought about you in the last year or so! In fact, just ordered something off of eBay and it came from out your way, and you instantly came to mind! Also, Kt was wondering about you a few months back too, and we compared notes trying to figure out when last either one of us heard from you.

So tell me, how are you doing? You specified, physically healthy, so I'm worried about the rest. Please give an update when you're able.

Love,
ad

PS. I'm SO GLAD to see you that I logged in just to reply to you, and that's saying a lot, because my college dd is home for the first time, and we were about to walk out the door for our female bonding of shopping, dinner and a movie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Hey, I am so glad to hear from you. I have been wondering about you too this year. I hope that everything is going well on the home front. I have missed talking to you on a daily basis.

I wish you well in and continue to have you in my prayers.

It is good to hear from you to AD!!! I do not post often either, but am at the end of my Divorce waiting for my last court date and as happy as ever.

Talk to you later, post an update!

W2E - (JT) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I hope that some of the others I once knew well are still around. Great to hear you are doing so well JT2.

Does anyone know how LUV is doing and SunnyD?

Aut~so glad to hear from you too.

Not much is different in my world. H was moved-out for a year. He came back the end of March and said he wanted to do counseling. He lost his job in May and then started a new one 1st of July. Of course I stood by his side through all this and the counseling was never followed through on and now he is done again because he just can't be happy with me he says. However, he always comes back because he isn't happy being gone. WHATEVER!!!

He just doesn't know how to be happy or what happiness is or how to be thankful and content.

I finally got him to do paternity this summer because he was having to pau CS on OC and had contested paternity so he was garnished. Of course it is his but he has made no plan of what to do since he knows it is his.

He is just never accountable for anything.

On our 10-year anniv. is when he said he was done again and the other is that my company is implementing anew computer program and they are lay-off and I'm one of them starting in December (worked for them for 7 years)and he bailing knowing that. I guess when he lost his job in May I should have bailed.

I know nothing else to do but to file the papers and make him sign them.

Our son is doing great and is almost 4.

Big HUGS to all!

I think that some people never change or take ownership for there mistakes. Must be nice to always bail when it gets tough and to still have a guilt free conscious. How he does it is amazing to me.

He has been sleeping in the other room since 10/10/05 and not participating int he household at all. I told him that he nneds to be out at the end of the month-end.

Still sane but not sure how. Also, don't know why I haven't given up on him actually being able to change.

Albany

I will definetly keep you in my prayers.

Thank you, CrazyHurt.

We all sympathize well with each other for the most part.

As Autumn Day says I will have to make him do it--everytime he backs out of a Divorce at the last minute but yet nothing ever changes or gets resolved.

The only way he may ever see what he had is to lose it and a D seems to be the only way and that means selling house etc.--not the end of the world.

Thanks again! You are also in my prayers.

Albany

I'm sorry, Albany. I hope you call the MB counselors, just for your OWN sanity!!

Hugs,
J

Hi dearie. Miss you.

- Kimmy

Hey Albany!!! I'm still hanging around! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />Doing fine. Still got my email address?? I'll keep you in my prayers also.
Sunny D

I don't still have anyone's email address.

I wrote H a letter of my feelings and he read it Wednesday night and was extremly pissed afterwards. Just honestly got out my feelings-told the truth and he didn't like that. So he didn't stay at the house Wed. night--slept in his truck I think. Last night he did stay at the house--still in the other bedroom and we are not speaking.

He is suppose to have all of his stuff out the weekend of 11/05/05. Says he will yet he doesn't have anywhere lined up to live nor does he have anywhere lined up to put all of his tools from our shop--nor his Landcruiser, samari, rockcrawler, snowmoblie or his two parts trucks.

I'm thinking he won't have his [email]sh@T[/email] out by then and I don't think he wants to be you know what he hasn't held him to his end of the bargain with counseling which was all his idea when he invited himself back into the house.

Kimmy--miss talking to you.

Sunnydale--glad it is all going so well.

I honestly dont know what else to do but to force him to be all the way done and to sell the house which is in my parents name because he screwed up our credit so bad. I get a new house bought through my parents but I garantee they are done dealing with my H and bet they wont be okay if he finally wakes up.

Sellin the house lets me pay off joint debt and gets me money for a down on something smaller and money left over and he gets all of his vehicles and tools worth a lot of $$$$ and nothing from house.

THinking of you all--keep me in your prayers.

He doesn't want me to sell the house but doesn't want to keep paying for it. IMO he wants me to keep it so when decides he isn't happy again someplace else then he has somewhere to come back to.

It's SSDD with him, huh?

Do you still have my cell #? U can call anytime!

- Kimmy

I can't find it--email me [Email]Email]

Dealan-de

did you get that e-mail? If so email me and I will edit the post.

Got it. Take it down now dearie.

Albany,

We know that want our H's to change and we can pretty much tell how and what they need to work on - but isn't it funny how they can profoundly say that they are willing to go to counseling and yet never go.

I think this is just one of those things they always say to be able to come HOME!!! We all have heard it a million times so please you know that you are not alone in this mess. Just ask yourself what has he really done to change the situation and the marriage? What significant strides has he really taken other than coming back to live under the same roof with you? Then ask yourself is that enough for you to live happily with him. don't even take into consideration that he had an A/OC. If your answer truly is NOTHING then maybe it is time for you to let it go!!

I had to come to this same conclusion and ask myself that same question and have found that there really (if I had been thinking clearly and not caught up in the whole marriage thing)should have not been a marriage with him because he is not the ONE FOR ME. I came to find that Love and marriage are hard work and it takes two to make it work!!!

Do You have TWO? Well enough of my psychbabble .... I just want you to be happy and sure of what is best for you and that beautiful son of yours.

In whatever you decide to do (and By No Means am I Telling You To GIVE UP - I am just giving another perspective)we will support you 110%!!!!! You can count on us!!!

WE Love Ya,

JT2 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Side to Sunny and AD and JT - You are with me every day. I carry you in my heart and pray that you and yours are safe and happy. If someone "hears" from BBG tell her I'm thinking of her.

Love,
Kimmy

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=&vc=1

That's my update link

okay so where did everyone go???

AD, JT, KT, SunnyD???????

hope all is well with all of you.
hope to here from you all.

[color:"blue"] Hey there! Long time no see!

I rarely check in over here anymore. lol BUt on a fluke decided to today & WHAT do I see? I have been asking about you for hwo kows HOW long!

All is well here. Well, well enough, I should say. I ma under the weather today & the pats few days & of course being the mom.....no one to take care of me. H is working...not that sympathetic to me I think. lol

But otherwise, we are well. Same ol' same ol'.

I am SO glad you decided to post & check in.
Great to hear from you.

xoxoxo
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Hey Albany!!!!!!

Glad to hear from u! Rarely stop by here anymore but did today & was glad to see your post. Was praying u would have better news. I am so sorry that H is still on the fence. I am still praying for u & your family honey.

As u can c from my signature line I am D. Still in contact w/ XH, we actually have a "date" scheduled for next Friday. I know....... I am insane. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

I still think of all of u ladies that I met way back when, so sorry to see so many new names here.

Always thinking of u too Kimmy, Sunny, KT, JT, Autumn, Luv, Gio & anyone else I may have forgotten, charge it to my head not my heart.

Hey Mily, u r always in my thoughts too!

Love u all,
"B" (BabyGirl/BBG)