jackee - Since it sounds like you have a pretty flexible schedule, you can actually spy directly on him. Try this. Tell him you're going out on a sales call sometime when you're not, pretend to leave and then double back on the sly. If you have a basement, sneak into it and listen for sounds (if he's there). If he is cheating and you do hear him and the OW "going at it," walk in on them! Then he's not going to be able to deny it!<P>If it doesn't look like they're meeting at your house when you're away (affairees TEND to stay away from their homes because a spouse might catch them), then tail his car or truck. Get a disguise (even just a pair of sunglasses, possibly a wig), rent a car of different model and color from yours and then tail him!<P>What's worked for me is to stake out my W's parked car, because that's how she and the OM operate. She parks her car somewhere near the center of town (suppposedly on an errand), then he picks her up in his convertible and off they go! Well, I saw her car parked like this one day, staked it out for a couple of hours where she couldn't see me, and sure enough, they come bombing along in his convertible, stop, and she gets out and into her car. I just last week used what I saw to confront my W with her affair. She still denies it, but I'm in a much stronger position than if I were just voicing suspicions. I tell her, "I know what I saw."<P>Or, if you can afford it, hire a P.I. Only problem is they tend to be expensive. But it will save you a lot of time and energy. I know.<P>Regards and blessings. I wish you luck!<P>--Wex
