MelodyLane,
deut,
Susan,
soulloss,
Nerlycrzy,
BrambleRose (thank you for your special help),
Orchid (a real blast),
Bellevue,
dancingrosey,
still seeking,
Pepperband,
K (oh guru),
new__beginning (new_beginning),
justpeachy,
kam6318(I remember...),
It is so good to see all you wonderful people.
Thank God for MB... Steve, your great!
Mini-biography (or not so maxi):
Knew wife for a few years in her/my early teens
Refound each other during the divorce she was going through with her 1st husband
After her annulment...
We married 6/4/88
she brought her son into marriage
We had 2 children together
-boy... now 16 1/2
-girl... now 13 2/3
After 10th anniverary (2nd honeymoon to exotic island)...
within 3 months W gets on on-line chat room...
seduces/seduced by married OM...
'soulmate' fantasy developes
W asks for separation on Easter night 1999
3 days later, D-day & then she takes a weekend vacation with OM
3 days later asks for a divorce
turbulant 4 months during which I try a poor man's Plan A
she leaves to live with OM, out of state (~80 miles away)
I get to have the 3 kids, including stepson!
I try do a better Plan A... after joining MB... but it's way too late.
DV-day 3/19/01 (St. Joseph be my guide)
Within a year, she & OM move semi-full time to nudist camp
(no offense to the natualists out there)
I go through legal battles to keep kids out of camp...
battle was extended to state appelate level...
but ended successfully!
Since then...
In the last 2 months found out there has been trouble between ex-W and OM
(not sure OM is appropriate term for them living together 6+ years)
She had many finanicial problems (pulling big $ out of split our 401K)
She got hit with a DUI
She lost her mother back in June of this year
(a great lady... my mother-in-law)
On Thursday I found out she is now dating someone new [a new OM](?if that makes sense)...
for the first time.
I'm not clear on all the details...
but they (original OM & ex-W) are not living together anymore.
I believe the original OM was recently cheating on ex-W with another woman.
I'm not sure where ex-W is staying most of the time (camp or old appartment)?
I'm not even sure where she's taking the kids (for overnights)...
though legally it can't be the camp.
I will call the kids this Saturday to find out where they are...
I have a right to know!
...that's it. (yeah... sure... mini-bio???)
Ok... so why am I back?...
...not completely sure...
...but I do plan on posting more often, and with more content.
Topics to come...
...the kids... stepson... son... daughter...
much 'parenting' challenges as they get older...
and this new wrinkle with their mom dating again keeps me on my toes
...my life... it's been good!
'faith'-finding/building/understanding/growing
stability in employment
stability in health
...my thoughts
'forgiveness'... and the limits of "human forgiveness"
'remarriage'... options (or not)
'taking back a former WS'... this will be some topic (or not)!
I'll keep you all posted if there is any interest...
...if you have specific questions... reply at any time.
...my e-mail is available to anyone
imherczeg@excite.comLove...
candles...
pepsi... coke... (whatever)
cards...
bacon & PT... and
of course PUSH!
Jim/NSR <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
PS: heretofore I'll post in 'After Divorce: Dating and Relationships' when appropriate.