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Hi Nikko!!
Long time no "see"!
I haven't seen you too much until recently...and you're starting to show up here and there.
Hope you are well...good to see you!
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hey chicca----ive akways been here----i reside in idiotville....drop in and say hi!!!
how are you and how are things?
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I am doing O.K....it was a busy summer. "Things" are a lot the same for me. Thinking a lot about what to do and how to do it.
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I loved the pictures of your daughter with your Arabian. The close up black and white picture of both of them was so touching. What a fun post. I miss horseback riding. It was the one thing I was truly good at.
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46 Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005 28 years of marriage DD 26, DS 24 O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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Hello fellow horsey people, I, too, am an equine nut. My H, my mom, and I co-own a boarding facility. We have: 3 arabs, 1 QH, 1 arab/QH, 2 pintos, and 1 perch/QH. They range from 3 yrs to 27 years. I board, train, compete (when I have time!!) in dressage, teach lessons, and new next month: run a 4-H club. I'm a newbie to MB, and have found it to be a wonderful website. The support is amazing and I'm so excited to see a horsey thread. Getting support from people with a common interest! Someitmes I feel a little silly coming to this site. Thankfully, my H has not had an A (I don't think), but I recently discovered several lies that have made me very insecure about our M. I have gotten some great advice and support here.
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Hi nikk.
Welcome also NTT!
I also have had to deal with lies from my H over and over, until we had a sep. over the summer because of a few big ones (big to me). That helped for a little while, but I am beginning to believe that H is basicly a dishonest person and/or we just have different value systems!
Do you "hang" at the EN forum? I go there occassionally.
This is a great place for support. And I guess a few here like our horsies. Mine are a great escape for me, but unfortunately more work than play sometimes!
Glad? you are here. Actually sorry,,
but if you have M probs, this is a great place.
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Still - He's registered at 1/2 Arab and also 1/2 Pinto (Tobiano)... His Arab side (father) goes back to Bask and the Pinto (mamma) maybe Quarter horse and some Morgan lineage. He's striking to look at, his markings are not overdone. It's funny men who aren't even horsey always comment on his beauty. He has that pretty showy Arab trot and flipping tail.. Now you are going to have to honor your "bargain", IH! How have you been doing with that? And is your boy okay today? What happened to him? I've been biting my tongue..everytime I get a thought of how I can retailiate against WH or the MOW - I remember that I begged God to spare him/me. That I'd be good, that I'd not cause others pain or stir the pot..Let all this crap go - forgive those that have hurt me..I haven't forgiven yet - but I haven't stirred the pot either. If WH ticks me off - I will just respond kindly. If they have to hurt me and break my heart over and over it's OK..I'll just suck up and remember my promise to God. Not think an eye for eye....but rather, turn the other cheek (so they can slap that one too LOL) He's fine - You know how stupid they can be right?? He was being turned out and going up a slight grade - he bucked and lost his footing on the front end..Fell on his head which went under him and his neck twisted horribly - he probably was putting pressure on his windpipe since he wasn't breathing or getting up. He may have knocked himself out..Thru the fast reaction of the barn owner a kid nearby who grabbed his halter and got him to his feet..He was trembling and disoriented..The barn owners horse fell last year in a similar way and broke her neck - so seeing this really shook her up..they called the vet first then me..All I heard was pasture accident all I could think of was blood - fencing can be very unforgiving..When I got there and saw him standing though still wondering what happened to him..I knew God heard me... I don't know how to put pics up either.. HUGS
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oohh SH, That is scary. I lost a horse (my dream horse) to a pasture accident a few years ago. It was horrible. We can only guess that he broke his neck, he took his last breath as I was calling the vet. I stood and screamed, the neighbors aren't close thank goodness, and called my H. I was so distraught that he didn't know who I was! This all happened very fast. I saw him playing only 10 min before I found him laying there. I would have made that deal too, if I would have had the time...I'm glad your guy is ok!
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Boy, that does sound scary Ithurts, I'm very glad he's ok. I can symapthize. I had to put down my first horse about 5 years ago due to severe athritis. Then a couple years later my second horse foundered, jls- I have some suggestions, and then a year later, broke his front leg above the knee where they cannot cast. He spent 3 months in his stall, wrapped from hoof to elbow. He's an arab. Can you imagine an arab in his stall for 3 months!!! Amazingly, he is still with us. He's not completely sound, but for the most part, he's happy. I had to put down my best lesson horse, and she was also the first horse I rode in lessons, last Dec due to complications from Cushings. I have five horses all 20 years and older. I know the next 5-10 years are going to be heartbreaking!
jls- My H also thinks the lies were little white ones, but they were big black ones to me. Sounds like we have alot in common. My founder suggestions: glue strong earth magnets to his coronet band, suppliment- "Laminex", I get it from Valley Vet, shoes? sometimes they help.
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My vet did recommend magnets, but a specific kind..can't remember. That pony is probably pre-Cushings, I have him on Evitex (also at vets rec., vet actually said don't test just do that) - That seems to help alot. I had shoer put shoes with filler in, pony was in a lot of pain at that point and it really helped. Think I jumped the gun on that one, should have just got shoes. Pony has always been uncomfy w/o shoes. He is barefoot now, but long, shoer wouldn't take off sole and It's fine. No "recent" founder. Does that Laminex help, even after founder part is over? And it is expensive, I saw it in VV. I think that's the one where they didn't list the ingredients either and I was a little skeptical of trying something for that amount of money.. What do you think of magnesium supps for "cushings" ? All in all, pony is doing quite well, can ride him w/o shoes right now and he runs in pasture. Working on getting weight just right. Feed him ~ 1/3 scoop oats (need to find good calcium supp) with a very little Equine Senior- supplemented w/ Evitex, MSM and BOSS-, soak his hay ( I think that really helps with bad sugars and I have too good of alfalfa esp fpr him) and some no-molasses beet pulp ( I was surprised that he gobbles that right up). Any more thoughts? What do you think NTT, I have researched it all pretty much. Tried the barefoot thing for a year, but pony was still sore, he has a club foot from before...think that it is too late for barefoot to really help. Other than a few months in winter.
See, I love this place. Horsetalk and marriage help!! Can't beat that with a stick.
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Just bumping this for no reason <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.
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thanks TT--- <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> glad we are making you smile!
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Hi tt and nikko, My turn to bump...
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i figured out something...wanna see???? well AW showed me...lol argento this is my guy!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Hi all,
my husband and I met when we were riding.........it's been a part of our life throughtout the 30 years we have been together. We had race horses for many years and then we got into quarter horses and into "cutting". Our business involves horses also..........so it's our living. We shared this for many years and then in order for my husband to be able to get a professionally trained quarter, I sold "my" horse.............
I loved to see how enthusiatic my husband became and I encouraged him the whole time. He was never into quarters and therefore I was real prowd of "me" that when he got involved he loved just as much as I do.
Well..............to make the story short............my husband was out doing his thing and this is when the xOW came around.
It was as if "our" story happened to my husband and xOW again. They met "riding"..............only xOW had this set up and it was not out of the blue...........they met at a competition the day I couldn't go with my husband...........
well............I won't get into this because you all probably know how it ended. (an affair occured:-()
I tried my very best theroughout our years of recovery to get back into horses............it became a terrible trigger for me to participate and sadely I couldn't do it anymore.
I never ever pressured my husband but he did decide to sell all horses and instead he got us a beautiful "Mustang" on 4 wheels!!!!!!!!!
So now horses are still a part of our life when it come to business but no longer a hobby. We've found a new one!!!!
But deep down I will always be attached and boy do I understand you all.............maybe I'll be able to overcome this "trigger" someday..............but I'm not suffering without it.
take care bb
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hey blondie---i knew you'd find this thread...lol
it took me three years to overcome the triggers and pain associated with it. i know how you feel...
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I'm heading towards our 5th year D-d...............and I still can't see myself into horses anymore.
I was never aware of how much time horses really did involve and therefore it was hard to do spontanious things with friends and whatever else...........
So far we are NOT suffering......we're actually having a great time doing other things!!!
bb
Me-46yo + Husband-49yo Met 1975/ Married 1980 H had 3 month affair/D-d January 2001 Grandparents since Dec.2005 Recovered and moving on and we're looking forward to the years ahead!
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hey----i cant let this get to page 3....lol
went for a wonderfull ride today! sun shinning, great weather.....and a horse who really wanted to co-operate! doesn't get any better!!! lol
argento did really good today....didnt want to hold his trot, but tried. he is learning.lol
i have to ask....im not sure if i should shoe him for winter or not? we do 45 min. rides about 3-4 times a week. nothing major....just walk and trot....keep getting conflicting advice....if you think i should....tell me why...if not, then why also....
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nikko, if you ride that much then it would be a good idea to get your horse shoed to prevent that the hoof gets worn down. (sorry for my bad english). But this also depends on the ground conditions. If it snows where you live then it's even better to have your horse shoed then you can use a product that prevents snow to clot under the hoof. We have a product here that is called: Huflederkitt ZR http://www.schlurgi.ch/huflederkitt.html (just take a look and you might get the idea) It's a product that you heat up shortly and then you mold it under the hoof. You have to do this everytime you ride and it's reusuable. It's great because the snow doesn't build up under the hoof. There are also special horseshoe nails that are like spikes and that will give your horse a better grip in the winter time. The more you ride, the more you have to think about shoeing your horse to prevent the hoof from getting worn down. Because once the hoof is worn down, the more problems you and your horse will have. bb
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