I was in car w/son today btw...and a song came on radio...Black eyed Peas...MY HUMPS>>>

Now I listened for a second...then my son jumps in and says "hey...dad listens to this song and so does Family Values". I say "I've heard enough of this song." I turn it off.

I went onto aol and watched the video and heard the lyrics.

I will NOT google them here.

Let's just say it is about a girl...she is an abvious gold digger...she uses her "curves" certain ones that is...to get a guy to spend money on her and some time. The video was even worse than the lyrics.

Nothing but images of golddiggers, tight pants, louis vuitton luggage (seems maybe that ow like them?), and yucky gross over-grown nails. (mine are professionally done but hey..not like a darn dragon lady). It is basically the theme song of imho...an OW...or a WW who just wants somebody to well..spend money on them, or time with them, and in order to do so you use your well...attributes.

Just erased my other peas song off my IPOD. I will NOT support any group that proports this song, this ideal, to young minds...training them and teaching them that this is what YOU look for either as a girl becoming a woman or a boy growing into a man trying to see what the image of the right woman is.

Our culture is totally obsessed with things...let's use whatever we can so we can get whatever we can...stepping over whoever we can...and maybe we'll be happy then?

to the peas: bleech...you shall now reach platinum a tad less swiftly than before...I will never buy your music again. And if my xh or his golddigging black eyed pea of an affair wife ever plays this song in front of my little one again, I WILL DEFLATE THOSE STUPID HUMPS OF HERS.

ROTFL, Peach! I've heard it, too. I'm so sorry Lil Peach has been subjected to this garbage. You got me curious and I googled the lyrics. I'm going to post some of it so you can get the idea if you haven't heard this trash:

"My Humps"

What you gon’ do with all that junk?
All that junk inside your trunk?
I’ma get, get, get, get, you drunk,
Get you love drunk off my hump.
My hump, my hump, my hump, my hump, my hump,
My hump, my hump, my hump, my lovely little lumps. (Check it out)

I drive these brothers crazy,
I do it on the daily,
They treat me really nicely,
They buy me all these ice-ys.
Dolce & Gabbana,
Fendi and then Donna
Karan, they be sharin’
All their money got me wearin' fly
But I ain’t askin,
They say they love my a$$ ‘n,
Seven Jeans, True Religion's,
I say no, but they keep givin’
So I keep on takin’
And no I ain’t taken
We can keep on datin’
I keep on demonstrating.

My love, my love, my love, my love
You love my lady lumps,
My hump, my hump, my hump,
My humps they got u,
She’s got me spending.
(Oh) Spendin’ all your money on me and spending time on me.
She’s got me spendin’.
(Oh) Spendin’ all your money on me, on me, on me

******************************
Good grief!

I was angry...did not think my buddy that it ws funny btw..

that song is horrid!

it is the theme song probably of my xh ow/w....or of all ow out there...

If I hear that song being played in front of lil' peach, a DEFLATING I SHALL GO...HI HOOOOO...SHE'S SUCH A HO...DEFLATING I WILL GO!

Peach- Yes, the song really sucks. My WW doesn't even like it.
Do you listen much to todays top 40 music?
There are so many worse than that song.
The [censored] cat dolls - "Don't cha" was my WW's favorite.
Or the Rejects - dirty little secret.
Check the lyrics to those.
Anything Qwen Stephani my WW loves.

I know how you feel about a song that you WS likes because of its low life message.
I broke about half a dozen CD's that OM made my WW. The one that really blew me away was a group called Hot action cop. I never even listened to it. I seen a song on there called "club _lut". That was enough for me.
I at least replaced them with CD's of stuff she would like and or was stuff we used to like. Now hits 19 and 20.
There are two songs on the Now 20 I dedicated to my WW.
Click Five - Just the girl
Keith Urban - You'll remember me..

I agree on that Peas song but there are more.

Here's one my WW told me described her exactly when I confronted her with her A. I had tried to get her to explian to me why she lies over and over to me, ect. She emailed me and told me to listen to this song by Linkin Park:

Realize what it means when the lyrics say "The very worst part of you is me"! Does that make no sence or what? And she's a devout Christian woman?

Lying From You

When I pretend everything is what I want it to be
I look exactly like what you always wanted to see
When I pretend, I can’t forget about the criminal I am
Stealing second after second just cause I know I can but
I can’t pretend this is the way it’ll stay I’m just
(Lying to bend the truth)
I can’t pretend I’m who you want me to be, so I’m

(Lying my way from you)
No no turning back now
(I wanna be pushed aside so let me go)
No no turning back now
(Let me take back my life I’d rather be all alone)
No turning back now
(Anywhere on my own cuz I can see)
No no turning back now
(The very worst part of you is me)

I remember what they taught to me
Remember condescending talk for who I ought to be
Remember listening to all of that and this again
So I pretended up a person who was fittin’ in
And now you think this person really is me and I’m
(Trying to bend the truth)
Cuz the more I push the more I’m pulling away cuz I’m

(Lying my way from you)
No no turning back now
(I wanna be pushed aside so let me go)
No no turning back now
(Let me take back my life I’d rather be all alone)
No turning back now
(Anywhere on my own cuz I can see)
No no turning back now
(The very worst part of you)
(The very worst part of you is ME)

This isn’t what I wanted to be, I never thought that what I said would
have you running from me
Like This
This isn’t what I wanted to be, I never thought that what I said would
have you running from me
Like This
This isn’t what I wanted to be, I never thought that what I said would
have you running from me
Like This
This isn’t what I wanted to be, I never thought that what I said would
have you running from me
Like This

(You)
No turning back now
(I wanna be pushed aside so let me go)
No no turning back now
(Let me take back my life I’d rather be all alone)
No turning back now
(Anywhere on my own cuz I can see)
No no turning back now
(The very worst part of you)
(The very worst part of you is me)

I responded back by saying that if she insists on living by this GARBAGE of hate, rather than love and Christianity, she should consider this song that she perhaps could relate to by the same band regarding me.

Linkin Park

Faint

I am a little bit of loneliness a little bit of disregard
Handful of complaints but I can’t help the fact that everybody can see
these scars
I am what I want you to want what I want you to feel
But it's like no matter what I do, I can't convince you, to just believe
this is real
So I let go, watching you, turn your back like you always do
Face away and pretend that I'm not
But I'll be here cause you're all that I've got

(I can't feel the way I did before)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)
(Time won't heal this damage anymore)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)

I am a little bit insecure a little unconfident
Cause you don't understand I do what I can but sometimes I don't make
sense
I say what you never wanna say but I've never had a doubt
It's like no matter what I do I can't convince you for once just to hear
me out
So I let go watching you turn your back like you always do
Face away and pretend that I'm not
But I'll be here 'cause you’re all that I've got

(I can't feel the way I did before)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)
(Time won't heal this damage anymore)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)

(Now)
(Hear me out now)
(You're gonna listen to me, like it or not)
(Right now)
(Hear me out now)
(You're gonna listen to me, like it or not)
(Right now)

(I can't feel the way I did before)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)

(I can't feel the way I did before)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)
(Time won't heal this damage anymore)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)

(I can't feel the way I did before)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)
(Time won't heal this damage anymore)
(Don't turn your back on me)
(I won't be ignored)

I can't feel
I won't be ignored
Time won't heal
Don't turn your back on me
I won't be ignored

Its just song people, albeit not paticularly a good one.

back to songs...

what I think has gotten me about the whole change since my H became a ws then an xwh.....was what he listens to.

It sounds like stuff a seventeen year old high school boy would listen to. Not a 37 almost 38 year old father of two...

drastic change exactly...he used to listen to some light alternative with me..old rock station and some country. Then when he started with ow1 and ow2, it became rap music...and songs with horrid lyrics. I think it was just part of him changing or better yet morphing into this "new" man he is now. It's funny...but about 2 years ago during my divorce I heard "lying from you" and it totally reminded me of a wS...what the song said were the exact thoughts my xh had conveyed to me.

Well,can't say I've been affected much by songs lately since I usually listen to classical(can't find anything infidelity related there!).

Just before the A my WH was listening to "head banging" music.It was odd,like he regressed a decade or two.Not that I see anything wrong with listening to something different now and then but it was about all he listened to.

I find that I am listening to old favorites that have good memories for me and that I know are Infidelity-free.Some 80's,reggae,old R&B,techno(from my dancing days),classical,etc.

O

Love classical too. And now that I have my IPOD, I only download things that are stress free for me! That means no black eyed peas, (deleted their one song I had on off of it)or any stupid stuff I don't like.

Reggae is great btw! I like 311 alot..they are alternative but have a hint of reggae in them...very cool...I also downloaded some cool 80's tracks (cutting crew--died in your arms, J. Geils's band, etc.)

I kinda like "humps" but the song I really hate is by Pussycat Dolls..."Don't Cha"

It's all about a slu# going after someone else's man and how she wouldn't mind sharing if his girl would. It reminds me of my sitch and I just want to smack someone when it comes on the radio.

Loni

I'd like to smack the lyricist that wrote both of those stupid idiotic songs...

and yes, my son confirmed it is NOT my xh...but ow/w yesterday as per son, that loves the black eyed pea song.

Think she got a bit "deflated" today...and I sure helped her out! see post.

I love Linkin Park- they got me through the worst of discovery and false recoveries. I call it my 'anger music", but Im stil listening to them as I do like their work.

Unfortunately my daughter likes "My humps"- I dont allow it played in the house, she listens to it at her two best friends homes. Who happen to have ministers as parents. Don't get me started on what my daughter has picked up in their house.

Don't get me wrong, I like Linkin Park and most all alternative rock. It's just that WW says her relationship with OM 15 years younger than her is all about discussing music, ect. The last I checked, they had spent 38 hours and a $1300 phone bill to her, over a 14 day period, discussing music???

Apparently, phone conversations couldn't adequately cover all the intricacies involved in today’s complicated music scene; they felt as though they had to cover this topic in person to get to the real understanding and meaning. She's made two trips in the last 3 months to Northern California, ½ way across the country, to discuss this innocent musical "bond" that they share....

When I could get no straight or honest answers from her regarding this situation (only horrible lies), and what was going on, it caused a lot of anger between us. I guess that’s why she had to relate her feelings to me in song.

I like Linkin Park although it is total ANGER music. Did you see Foo Fighters on Saturday Night Live last night? They totally rock???

Fooled99

they're good...and yes, linkin park is my anger management group.

My official divorce song, "in the End" is their song...totally describes my life.

I totally understand the whole music and the OP being younger thing though...

ex: my xh shows up at my house shortly after separation. He is to drop off my son after having him for one night. Doorbell rings...then the wh is standing there...wearing whaaaaat? designer ripped jeans just so frayed...at the hem...and some men-looking jesus sandals (he used to make fun of guys who wore that...said they looked like hippies) and a versace-looking shirt with black and white stripes all over it..unbuttoned to the fourth button and untucked...and his hair spiked to the max and topping it all off with some bono-insect looking sunglasses...at the door nonetheless!

I see this display...I do not know what to make of it. I didn't know whether to laugh or think he's lost his marbles...my xh was always a good dresser...he wore nice suites and ties...was cfo of a company...and nice khahi's and polo and hilfiger stuff...we were the "stepford" couple as everybody put it...completely whitebread kind of cute.

Now I see this???wtf???my little ds summed it up perfectly!

ds: Mommy! wook at daddy-he wook wike a zeba! (mommy, look at daddy, he looks like a zebra)
me: Yes son..he does look like a zebra.
Darth: Ha ha. Sorry I can't stay..going off to a concert. Going to see Kravitz and Pink.
me: Pink...hmmmm...isn't that the teen-ish britney spears wanna be but punker singer? Does the babysitter's parents know she's gonna be out after midnight?
darth: that was outta line!

maybe that can clarify music issues with me. since that time, my xh has had the wierdest taste in music...went into hardcore rap after that...

heck, in the courtroom, the judge read something aloud..said my xh had stock in a music company...ironically called FELONY RECORDS! ha ha ha ha. I didn't laugh though.

this super once conservative guy goes over the edge going to clubs, taking extacy (as per FV this summer...if I only knew that during the divorce and had proof!), dating basically teenage college students, and going to concerts also with people in that age group...how strange!

Last concert I saw was Nickelback...with my doctor buddy. He took me there b/c he said they were "good for those with anger issues"...we went and ate sushi before and then had a few margaritas *(yea I know sushi and margaritas?) ..not a date, just a vent friend date...but there were at least people in their 30's there.

Sadly enough...I did buy some lowrise jeans for the event...I did give in..but I figured since all the women here in this area of ATl were dressing ike Britney's older sister, I'd better get in my milder version into the game since I am officially single now.

Così fan tutte?

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