no response...

let him spin a little more..is my first gut reaction...

ARK

It now looks like we’re headed towards plan D.

After DS birthday party, WH called me several times leaving numerous messages asking me to return his calls. When he saw that I wasn’t budging, he changed his tuned and left all kinds of different messages………he wanted to know if he should start mailing me the CS payments, wanted to know what was going on in DS’ life, etc. Since he wasn’t getting a reaction from me WH called my mom a few times leaving the same messages.

Deep down inside I wanted to believe that WH was coming around. I thought that maybe being a guest at his own son’s party had had an effect on him and was now calling because he missed us or because he wanted to reconcile and didn’t know how to take that first step….i couldn’t have been more wrong.

Yesterday WH called my mom and asked her to have me call him because he wanted to discuss something. He called me twice on the cell phone and apologized for taking up so much of my time since it seems I’m extremely busy but that I should give him a call asap. When I arrived home, he had left more messages asking me to give him a call by today because his attorney needs some information from me and that WH would like for us to sit down and go over certain details. I guess he wants my corporation in helping him dismantle whatever is left of our marriage.

I’m hurting so badly….i couldn’t sleep all night. I don’t know what to do. I’ve been preparing for this for the last 2 months and I thought that I was ready but the second I heard the message my heart skipped a beat…….i can’t believe my marriage has come down to this. Where do I go from here. What do I do………..…….HELP.

I would let him stew. You can write him a message or send through someone else and give your number to his attorney. He might be bluffing. Mine did the same thing.

do nothing you are in plan B..

if he has lawyer that needs something from..
let him send you a legal letter..


plan B
no contact

ARK

Believer,

I don't really think he's bluffing. Thanks to his union, who provides him with free legal counsel, getting a divorce would costs him absolutley nothing except the court filing fees........which just works out to his convenience yet again. Maybe if he had to spend a thousand or so he would give it much more thought.....probably wouldn't be able to afford it.....it's pretty expensive providing for all his girlfriends.

Ark,

I won't respond to any of his messages....i'll keep ignoring them.

I have to tell you when i heard WH message it shook me to the core but i'm fine now. It still hurts, but i rather be without WH then living that **** of a life that i lived a little over a year ago....if i survived that i'm sure i'll live through a divorce. sigh

I have to tell you when i heard WH message it shook me to the core but i'm fine now. It still hurts, but i rather be without WH then living that **** of a life that i lived a little over a year ago....if i survived that i'm sure i'll live through a divorce. sigh

EXACTLY,,,,

there is no honor in what he does....
abandoning his son while still an infant..so many days lost of amazement and memories....

stay dark....

he's still spinning

he's tried nice

now he's trying threats.....

let him do it..

ARK

I broke plan b.

WH showed up at my house Saturday morning…..he rang the bell and I ignored him. He then called my house phone and left a message saying that he was outside and he wanted to give me the CS payment (which he usually gives my mom when he visits DS) and maybe see DS for 5 minutes……I ignored him. He proceeded to ring my bell and then he called my cell phone. He kept ringing my bell and calling my house phone. WH left a message saying that he knew that we were home because he saw my car around the corner and that if I didn’t want to let him in then to at least stick my head out the window so that he can hand me the CS payment. He stood out there for about half an hour before he realized that I wasn’t coming to the door. As a matter of fact I was heading out the door when he showed up but I stayed in until I knew for sure that he had left.

WH was visiting with DS yesterday and when I get home my mom tells me that she caught WH going through my drawers where I keep the mail. He told her that he was looking for some mail that he was expecting, found it and took it. I dialed WH number for my mom and handed her the phone and told her what to say to him. She relied the following message: That I was extremely upset, that he had no business going through my stuff , that if he needed anything all he had to do was ask me and that if he was coming over to snoop on me (prior to this she had caught him checking my caller id on my home phone) that he was no longer welcomed at my home and he wasn’t going to see DS. He kept saying tell her that I’m sorry but I was just getting my stuff….i didn’t check any of her stuff. WH asked my mom to put me on the phone and I refused so he said “tell her that she may stop me from seeing my son for a few weeks but NO ONE is going to stop me from seeing him when I do what I have to do”……….in other words he talking about the divorce.

I know I broke plan b at that moment I didn’t think I was but now I realize that I did………..I’m angry at myself for letting him bait me into it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> UGH