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Giving up vs. Counselling
#1527133 11/23/05 09:42 AM
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My spouse refuses Marital or even personal counseling and I'm at wits end - I think this marriage can be saved with counseling but what do I do if he won't agree to it - our relationship is in major need of repair, we argue constantly and it's elevated to a state that we can't spend any time together without being angry and hateful with each other. He said we will work things out but I can't live like this - I think we both feel financially dependant on each other. I've been to counseling but it doesn't help if the other person won't do their part too. Advise?
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Read all the material on this site, both in the Basic Concepts and Q&A sections.

Stop any and all LB's.

Read up on plan A and plan B.

You may have to get tough.
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Jaye Mathisen #1527135 11/24/05 08:15 AM
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What do you mean by LB's? (Stop any and all LB's.)
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The way I see it, you have 2 options: 1/ you go to counselling yourself and be the "better person", and the strong one in the marriage, and you try to save the marriage by showing your husband that he comes first to you and that you will do anything for him (within respectable limits), or 2/ you give up on the marriage. Because it sounds like he is not willing to go to counselling. In my experience, the anger that is there will only get worse if you do not deal with things..sometimes "talking" about it will not make it go away, sometimes there has to be loving kindness which is shown again..in the ways of affection, conversation & interest in each other and other forms of emotional support. Are you up for an uphill battle..or do you feel like you can't give anymore?

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